To be slightly peeved at this comment from a preschool teaching assistant.

[WhenYouCantRunYouCrawl]

I live in a very wet area where practical clothing is essential. I also live somewhere where clothes and shoe shops are limited, apart from outdoor gear.

Anyway, DD has started preschool nursery and I bought her a pair of black shoes (they have a uniform) but all the "girls" shoes were those ridiculous t-bar ones which would result in wet feet so I went for a pair of plain ones from the boys section they basically look like trainers.

Dropping her off this morning and the TA commented that she had "boys shoes" on.

So now DD has decided she doesn't want to wear them anymore and wants new ones.

I'm not going to be that parent and say something but honestly, AIBU to be a teeny bit annoyed? It's hard enough trying to raise a daughter to believe that she doesn't have to conform to some princess stereotype and surely teaching staff should know better?

Why don't chidren wear wellingtons to school when it's raining, and change in to their indoor shoes on arrival.
At least they wouldn't be in wet shoes and socks all day.

Or they could just have shoes that keep their feet dry in the first place. Much more sensible IMO.

I was quite worked up about this and then last Friday, a TA closed a metal gate on my D/ hand, crushing her little finger to the point that it required A and E and then surgery.

So worse things happen.

Sorry, it was her middle finger. All her fingers are little.

And that was meant to be DD, obvs.

How is she coping, Rainatnight? How are YOU coping?

Thank you. She’s not doing too badly - up and down and has adapted amazingly to her heavily bandaged hand. I am a WRECK inside but keeping it together!

Yanbu
Clothes and shoes shouldn't be gendered. It was a silly comment to make. Children should wear what feels right and actually does the job.

Most of the pre-school and schools around here insist on taking wellies in t-bar shoes shouldn’t really be a problem if they where their wellies outside but of course the staff member shouldn’t have commented. Your daughter can wear whatever she likes or what you choose.

OH my god, poor thing, Rain. Hope you are both having a restorative weekend.

Poor brave little scrap. If only we could take their pain for them...

I'm standing with you in solidarity op. I also refuse to put my daughter in the T-bar shoes for the same reason. I got her shoes from Clarke's, they were in the girls bit but boyish. My daughter cares not one jot and has dry feet. It was unnecessary from the TA.

rain I saw your post and my DD had something similar happen to her thumb (her brother did it but it was an accident waiting to happen - heavy glass door in holiday flat with no guard). She had dressings for weeks and lost her nail but it's all happy now. So it will come right I'm sure! Though it was particularly disgusting when the nail came off and she (being 4) thought her thumb would come off too.

@rain

Poor little mite. How unbelievably stressful for you all.
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