to say that the term "date night" gives me the rage?

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Just that really...... why is it that weve adopted this term in the last 5 years. I know its irrational - but it just grates on me. What happened to "going out", "catching up over a drink", "spending the evening together", "going out for a meal".... aarrghh.

It makes it worse the longer someone has been together..... you cant "date" your husband, youve already married him! I would suggest that if youve been with someone for more than 6 months its not really a date.

Arent dates meant to be something you do whilst not being a relationship or with someone you dont really know, but have been out with once or twice before?

Maybe Im grumpy, maybe Im old, but Im not sure when I was in my twenties (2.5 decades ago) anyone "dated". Men or Women just asked someone if they fancied a drink... or you all went out with work or a group of mates, and went home with someone you had your eye on, at the end of the night?

AIBU to say its twee, and makes me feel a bit cross .... Dont even get me started on parents taking their kids on "date nights" - not envy

OP everyone has phrases or words or whatever that they irrationally hate! I have a list of them which is longer than my arm! Date night only bothers me when they're between adults and children because it sounds creepy!

And how silly of some posters saying how lucky you are if this is "all you have to worry about!" It's easier and lighter to talk about the small things! I'm sure like many of us the OP has plenty to worry about, she/he just wanted a lighthearted thread!

We'd been together 13 years before we weekly date night - Fridays.
We had 4 kids between us and use to spend on them.
Used to love it.
Now to we tend to get fish and chips in, a drink and watch a good film.
Not the same.
Think I may suggest reintroducing it :)

YABU. Date night is a perfectly valid term f9r a night set aside especially to be a couple and try to recapture some of that level of attention and enjoyment that you shared in the early stage of a relationship.

I uave heen with my husband 20 years. 3 kids and a lot of life events can sometimes leave you out of touch with them romantically. So then we have a date night and go see a movie without the kids, have a dinner somewhere slightly more expensive than we would do as a family, and catch up with each other. It is a night set aside to date like in the early days, so a valid term.

Silly phrase, good idea

DoctorAllcome
I agree with you, Date Night to me conjures up marriage guidance of the '80s and '90s. It is a really false concept.

The expression makes my teeth itch the same as Op.

Have a look at the news, it’ll give you something real to get annoyed about

It’s just a term / phrase, the evolution of language. It gives you the rage. Fair enough

Making a “date” with someone doesn’t mean you’re dating. It means you’ve made plans for a date - a specific time to spend time together, generally accepted that it’ll be something a little more special than the usual spag Bol and Corrie.

Have a look at the news, it’ll give you something real to get annoyed about

You know it is ok to have threads that are silly and a bit moany it is a distraction.

DH and I can have a right laugh staying in, playing scrabble, getting a bit pissed in our PJs.... so to me the work is beyond irritating 0- but I suppose I also find the action slightly odd. Like you couldnt just go for a walk and have a good time? You have to dress up, go out, eat, drink a cocktail before you can reconnect with the person you loved enough to create life with

I agreed with you until the above comment. If you don’t like the phrase date night then fine, but how patronising and dismissive of people’s relationships. Of course you can stay in and play scrabble, but when you have children it’s nice to get out and focus on your partner/current affairs/ interests.
Even if you don’t have kids, if you have the funds and time to go out and enjoy a cocktail and food, why not?

Well I'm enraged by poverty, brexit and date night. I've got enough rage to go around!

YANBU OP. The phrase is really naff, and even naffer is bragging about it on SM/

I think you are being grumpy. It is a date night. Its a break from the hard slog of life where you can just spend an hour or two together doing somwthing fun. We all have terms that piss us off though.

I with you on this OP. I find the term unbearable. Right up there with "hubby", "mummas" and "bubbas". If that makes me old and cranky so be it.

There are some fucking funny responses in this thread I love it! Hate 'date night' too!

Can't be arsed to get annoyed about this op 🤷🏻‍♀️

Could you announce that "my DH and I are going a'courting on Friday" with a little wink instead, perhaps? 😉

Worse than date night is 'family date night' No love, you're all just going out for tea 🤯

For us it's more akin to Mickey Flanagan's "out out". Together 3 years but don't live together. We go to our respective local bars with each other a lot but then on occasion get the train into the city for dinner and drinks. That's out out for us.

My ILs called it "Lover's Night", so it could be much, much worse.

My ILs called it "Lover's Night", so it could be much, much worse

Nononono

It is a bit cringe but it’s easy to say

Same thing with play date another phrase some dislike

But you don't have to say any phrase for going out with your partner you don't have declare "DATE NIGHT" look at us we got a babysitter

I meant the general you

I will add I don’t use it but I can see why it is

I hate it too, it’s right up there with a male/female couple saying WE’RE pregnant, what? Both of you?