to say that the term "date night" gives me the rage?

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Just that really...... why is it that weve adopted this term in the last 5 years. I know its irrational - but it just grates on me. What happened to "going out", "catching up over a drink", "spending the evening together", "going out for a meal".... aarrghh.

It makes it worse the longer someone has been together..... you cant "date" your husband, youve already married him! I would suggest that if youve been with someone for more than 6 months its not really a date.

Arent dates meant to be something you do whilst not being a relationship or with someone you dont really know, but have been out with once or twice before?

Maybe Im grumpy, maybe Im old, but Im not sure when I was in my twenties (2.5 decades ago) anyone "dated". Men or Women just asked someone if they fancied a drink... or you all went out with work or a group of mates, and went home with someone you had your eye on, at the end of the night?

AIBU to say its twee, and makes me feel a bit cross .... Dont even get me started on parents taking their kids on "date nights" - not envy

I'd love a date night with hubby. I don't think we've been out in the evening, just the two of us, in about 12 years.

If you genuinely feel bothered about other people choosing to use certain words to describe ordinary events, then you need to look inside yourself and ask 'why does this bother me?' It's irrational and suggests that you're applying a weird set of made up standards to other people when you could be focusing on what makes you feel happy and content.

When I was young (back when dinosaurs roamed the Earth!) we never used the verb “to date”, let alone went on a “date night”.
We only ever heard references to dating in American films. Note “films” not “movies”, also.
We simply “went out” together, or had a “ night out”. Hence the song “Is she really going out with him”.
I find it a bit of a cringe, too OP - it sounds so horribly contrived and unspontaneous, having to be compulsorily romantic, like a ghastly Valentine’s Day set up.

I hate it too I have somebody on my fb who i love very much but she gives us running commentary of Date night so much to say you are just going out for your tea calm down!

@passthebluebottle I don't think the OP is complaining about actually doing those things, though! It's the term 'date night' she's objecting to, not the actual act of going for a drink with your husband.

I go out for dinner, drinks, weekends away with my DP very regularly but I don't think of it as a 'date night' and I do find the phrase a wee bit grating too. We've lived together for 16 years so it's not 'dating' as far as I'm concerned. It's just something that's part of our normal relationship. We don't have kids, though, so maybe I'd think of it differently if we did.

Maybe Im grumpy, maybe Im old, but Im not sure when I was in my twenties (2.5 decades ago) anyone "dated".

No, they courted!

You need to get over it op, my and hubby had a date night on Friday for my bday, and fil babysat for us (and yes, that sentence was full of these terms that get on mn nerves on purpose!)

Isn't it to signify that you're doing something a bit different /special to the usual ? So in that way it's a bit like a date, dressing up, going somewhere/doing something a bit more special, making more of an effort not to talk about the kids and the normal day-to-day stuff. It's a hark back to when you were dating, isn't it?
We also do "movie night" (not just me and DH, this can be a family thing too) which is a different thing the more usual from "let's watch a film shall we?" - it involves popcorn, putting the big speakers on, lights down etc and would usually be for a new film we've just got.
It's shorthand for something that most people would understand.

@dollydaydream114 I appreciate that but I don't see what else you would call it?

I'm going to stay up late playing board games and eating pizza with my husband tonight vs having date night

I’m guilty of calling it date night. Have only started calling it that since DS came along though as I think I see it as ‘our time’ and a bit more special.
YANBU though if it gives you the rage, some words/phrases are cringe. You have since said the word ‘frock’ and I hate that word

If I told my friends that my husband & I were ‘going out’ they’d probably invite themselves along. If I told them we were having a ‘date night’ they’d know it was just us going out for a break from our toddler. It’s just a term to say it’s just the two of us spending time together.

I hate 'dating' as a term for being in a relationship. It's somewhere on the spectrum of exclusivism that inspires 'no ring, no bring'.

A date is a dedicated occasion that a couple agree to devoted just to them, defined by its exclusivity. They usually occur at night. Date night works for me...

YANBU.

I dont mind "date night" as a phrase (though hubalub and famalam are awful) but "gives me the rage"... well, quite honestly, it gives me the rage!

I shudder with most people at twee words/phrases...just never associated date night in the same category! At all!

We go out EOW when we don't have my DSD but once a week we put aside one night where we don't go to our local. We go to a restaurant, another village pub..just somewhere where there's less chance of bumping into someone we know and experience that exciting feeling of a 'date'. The phrase 'date night' sums up that without making it into a huge sentence.

It’s just an easy way of saying ‘my husband and I are going out for a few drinks/meal and are making an occasion of it.’ I don’t see how it can really bother anyone, it’s an inoffensive phrase.

I also hate it. It makes me want to turn my skin inside out. "Date night with this one! 😍" uuuurggghhhhhhhhhhhfuckup

Also - hubster

Just couples on social media in general. 🤮

YABU nothing wrong with date night and you can still be married and go on a date ffs. You need to loosen up a bit OP if this is really what you judge people for. Personally, we have really nice nights out with each other that are, yes, date nights because we make the effort and really enjoy them the same way we would have done when we were in the early stages of dating. Maybe you are bored just "catching up over a drink" with your DP and should consider doing something nicer so you will feel less bitter?

By the way - people who post that on FB etc - no one gives a flying fuck.

Also YABU to use the term "The rage" I fucking hate it and it makes people sound ridiculous. It's a feeling, not an object. You don't say "I feel the sadness"

get over it

I know someone who posts stuff like "little man is away on scout camp so date night for me and big man #blessed #drinkpoos"

And then I blocked her.

Dude, chill.

I get what is trying to be conveyed but I also find the term mildly irritating.

Also 'alone time' is another new phrase being banded about all the time which winds me up for no good reason.

They are probably making memories because they love each other to the moon and back. Barf.

Yea ours means get the leather and lace out and the toys!!! hahaha

Oooh we're having "date night" next Friday, first time out alone since our baby was born on June. Definitely is a date night for us