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To find this infuriating.

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Burtiebojangles · 12/09/2019 03:31

New family just moved in to a rented house technically down the side of our house. They have 4 cars, one parking space. The street has space for 5 cars in total, so they deem this a suitable place to park - right across our drive.

Having asked them to move it, I got told they have nowhere to park and he doesn’t want his daughter walking too far to get to her car. Aibu to think we shouldn’t be inconvenienced because these people didn’t think ahead when deciding to rent this house, and what the hell can you do in these circumstances?

To find this infuriating.
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Jellybeansincognito · 13/09/2019 19:17

Gosh they sound awful. You wouldn’t have to disclose this, so please report it!

slipperywhensparticus · 13/09/2019 19:30

Am I the only person who would have said something like...he is a police officer? STOP BREAKING THE FUCKING LAW THEN!

simplekindoflife · 13/09/2019 19:35

Actually you can call the (local) police if a car is blocking your drive. It is an offence to block a driveway with a car on it. (Not without though unfortunately.)

The police will check the numberplate and find the owner and call them and ask them to move it. Or ticket it, or tow it. You can also call the council and a traffic warden will ticket it also.

If he's a policeman then that's a bit silly because he is committing a driving offence?! So I doubt very much he's a policeman. Tell them that you will log it with the police if it carries on!

simplekindoflife · 13/09/2019 19:36

In terms of disclosing it, you don't have to tell the police or the council or the traffic warden it's your neighbour. Just say you don't know who it is.

user1497207191 · 13/09/2019 19:38

If he's a policeman then that's a bit silly because he is committing a driving offence?! So I doubt very much he's a policeman.

Policemen commit crimes too you know. We have a PC on our street. He drives up and down the road with his young child (approx 5 years old) on his knee turning the steering wheel. He had his elder son driving his car up and down the road long before he was 17. And yes, it's a public road. Some of them are just plain arrogant and know their colleagues would let them off if they were caught.

Cherrysoup · 13/09/2019 19:45

The wife using her dh’s job as a reason as to why he can do whatever or to try to intimidate you is outrageous. Feel free to phone up his Inspector or whoever to make a formal complaint of bullying if he continues to park over your drive and prevents your exit/refuses to move. Also contact the estate agent. Worth paying a few quid to get the land registry details of the landlord, too.

yabadabadontdoit · 13/09/2019 19:47

I would keep the photo and write yourself notes of times of each of the events If it doesn’t happen again I would leave it but keep the notes. If it happens again I would photograph it and call at your nearest police station that still has a public desk ( most don’t now round here) with the photo and notes, and ask their advice. I wouldn’t approach the ndn again after they were aggressive to you and ignored your dh at their door.
It is an offence to park over a block kerb and it is an offence to block a car in a drive, so they should act on it.

PopGoesTheCheeseball · 13/09/2019 19:54

My partner has recently retired from our local police professional standards department. He says this only seem trivial, but as a PP said, any police officer is sworn to uphold the law when both on and off duty. This is apparently because in their position they have a higher moral obligation, as why should they be able to enforce law and order if they cannot adhere to said laws themselves?! He's also said they really don't like them doing this sort of thing as it brings the police service into disrepute, and gives others the impression of being arrogant selfish bastards who can get away with anything! Please report it, his superior WILL NOT be happy, and the least he should get is a good bollocking. Also you shouldn't need his collar number, as if he is genuinely police, where they live needs to be approved by the service, so just give them his address and they'll look him up Wink Good luck!

Oli001 · 13/09/2019 20:19

Call the 111 Police - ask for their advise - tell the neighbour you've taken advice from the police - if car not moved you will call them to tell them to MOVE IT! CFers If you let this ride - they will keep pushing and they'll be parking up your drive!

RiotAndAlarum · 13/09/2019 20:36

Too bad. For them. They're not entitled to do this.

Howlovely · 13/09/2019 20:43

@Joxer 😂🤣😂

Inexpertjuggler · 13/09/2019 20:45

Aah, see, the issue stops being one of parking and becomes ‘behaviour likely to lead to a breach of the peace’ if he comes round- and you tell him loudly he’s out of order, so he won’t appear I bet. The agent is open office hours and will fob you off if they can, though if they have an out of hours call handling service that’s good, as they’ll ( Agents) pay per call for that. Not sure if you’re aware but you can go to land registry and legally find out the owner of the property for £3. Go round in person to, or write if too far away, to landlord directly and I (almost )guarantee you will get a result. The landlord uses an agent as the last thing they want is direct contact concerning their property.

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 13/09/2019 21:28

But - it isn't Mr CID who is blocking you it is his daughter/son who as a driver must be at least 17 ?
If they are 18+ they are an adult (even at 17 they are responsible for parking so not actually anything to do with the Mum or Dad )

You know what you need Burtie ? The packet of bird seed liberally sprinkled over the white car . Wait till morning and they'll have an undriveable car (till they clean it) but you haven't damaged it .

Feign innocence ............

DO IT Grin

beingmum39 · 13/09/2019 22:48

Reminds me of where I used to live. My neighbour drove over my driveway each night to park his car at the side of his house which was not a parking area but actually a small front garden. .. he then had a driveway with no car in it, a garage he never used , and a plot of land to side of garage which he allowed anothr neighbour to park in. He had one car in garden , one car in road which he cleaned every weekend and if he took the one out that was on the road he would move the other car to that space to reserve it. He was and probably still is a twat... I used to get pissed off when I saw the rear end of his car hanging over my drive. Confused

Totally feel for you OP. I saw your picture and wondered if you live where I used to and now have my old neighbours as your neighbours!!

IAmTheMumWhoKnocks · 13/09/2019 23:27

Placemarking - love a parking thread

FaithInfinity · 13/09/2019 23:39

Mouseinatelescope you need a penguin bollard! Grin

OP I’d definitely raise it with the letting agent.

Independentcandidate · 13/09/2019 23:44

Omg - love the diagram 😂.

I bet he's not really in the force

okeydokeygirl · 14/09/2019 09:27

Placemarking. OP I do hope they don't park across your drive again so no more issues. But do keep us all posted on progress. I agree with suggestions to take photos every time it happens and l ock on tjwir door politely but regularly to get them to move it. And keep a record any interactions. And I would go to the estate agent straight away the next time they do it and see of that helps. Good luck.

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Burtiebojangles · 14/09/2019 10:06

Well, we’ve just got home and one of the other neighbours is parked there now because there’s no room on the street where they usually park. Admittedly not as far over so we can get on and off the drive by creeping onto next doors drive (luckily they’re not in).

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JoxerGoesToStuttgart · 14/09/2019 12:05

Oh you’re going to have ongoing problems with this corner Op.

Can you put up a fence or some big rocks/planters?

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Burtiebojangles · 14/09/2019 13:29

His car doesn’t even fit on the corner and is hanging quite far out, plus it actually belongs to the empty drive across from there. I don’t think anything we can put on our land would stop them.

But, excusing the state of the front garden, it was one of those jobs that we started then I got pregnant and it never got finished, we’re trying to extend the drive all the way across but we were quoted £1800 to tarmac that tiny area. I can’t stretch my maternity pay that far but I think it’s our only hope. It just makes us look like dicks after asking the new people not to park there and someone else does it.

To find this infuriating.
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JoxerGoesToStuttgart · 14/09/2019 13:35

So that empty drive belongs to the car parked over your corner? Why on earth haven’t they parked on their drive? Suspect they saw new neighbours parking there and decided to do the same.

Bookworm4 · 14/09/2019 13:51

Is the circled bit a drive or footpath?

To find this infuriating.
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Burtiebojangles · 14/09/2019 14:09

@JoxerGoesToStuttgart they do have two cars with one usually on their drive but they could always block their own drive like their neighbours do.

@bookworm4 it’s a bit of decorative nothingness. It borders the whole dropped curb area, it’s too thin to be a footpath and the actual footpath is a usual tarmaced sort and stops before our house, we assume it’s not our land.

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Inexpertjuggler · 14/09/2019 15:00

@Burtiebojangles it’ll be with the paperwork from when you bought your house. The solicitor will have provided you with a file plan from the land registry showing what the areas are defined as. Sorry, this is re the strip of land