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To find this infuriating.

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Burtiebojangles · 12/09/2019 03:31

New family just moved in to a rented house technically down the side of our house. They have 4 cars, one parking space. The street has space for 5 cars in total, so they deem this a suitable place to park - right across our drive.

Having asked them to move it, I got told they have nowhere to park and he doesn’t want his daughter walking too far to get to her car. Aibu to think we shouldn’t be inconvenienced because these people didn’t think ahead when deciding to rent this house, and what the hell can you do in these circumstances?

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Cherrysoup · 30/10/2019 18:05

Whilst the landlord doesn’t have to act, I would and did as much as I could when the neighbour was being a twat to my lovely tenants. I would be harassing the agent and landlord daily. As for feral youth, the ruddy mother sounds even more feral! Horrible cow. The boy making gestures, I’m pretty sure anything that causes alarm or distress comes under Section 5 Public Order.

Keep logging, keep reporting. Anything, no matter how minor, should be reported if possible to the police or the Asbo team.

Tistheseason17 · 30/10/2019 19:08

I can;t wait until you win this and they get fed up of being told off by the authorities!!

DdraigGoch · 30/10/2019 20:28

Can't you go and block their drive, then not be in when they need to go to work?

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Burtiebojangles · 31/10/2019 13:08

My husband parked across last night so today... I give up.

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Burtiebojangles · 31/10/2019 13:09

Their drive.

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WelshMoth · 31/10/2019 16:38

I'm truly baffled - they are choosing to upset you by ignoring the space on their drive....to park awkwardly close to yours.

Idiots and unpleasant ones at that.

WelshCake2019 · 31/10/2019 16:59

Have you spoken to them since? Why not invite them round for a tea and chat?

WelshCake2019 · 31/10/2019 17:05

Sorry just read whole thing...ish...looking at pictures it looks like the blocked paving driveway is private and part of their property they're renting so they're just making a twattish point? No excuses for how they're behaving though...

ChikiTIKI · 31/10/2019 17:10

Gosh they are absolute dicks aren't they!!!! I would be SO tempted to do something to their car but obviously that's a terrible idea. You are going about it in the right way definitely. You will be able to look back on this without regrets because you haven't done anything wrong. Seems to be a common problem with new builds, the roads are so narrow and there isn't enough parking. Building companies getting as much money they can out of the space. You wonder why people move in to a house with limited when they have so many cars. Hopefully it all ends soon.

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Burtiebojangles · 31/10/2019 17:22

I had a call from the council ASBO lady who told me what she thought from what I sent her evidence wise to see if I agreed with it (basically being impartial to the complaint and going from what she can see from the evidence I sent her which was pretty much spot on, but it focused on the kids). I sent her some further evidence to say the parents are definitely complicit in it so they’re either turning a blind eye after telling the police they had no idea it was going on and that they’d stop it or they’re using the kids to piss us off.

I don’t think she can tell me much at the moment but she told me what she’s doing to some extent, but it sounded positive and she said that she’s hoping I’ll get good news soon.

So I’m resisting the urge of eggs tonight. So hard though 😩.

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ChikiTIKI · 31/10/2019 18:42

That's a good update, sounds like there are some helpful people involved now.

I would be tempted to put something at the front of the car, maybe bottom of windscreen that STINKS. But it's not worth it. You don't want the retaliation. Best to keep your nose clean. Will be worth it when it's over 🙂

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Burtiebojangles · 31/10/2019 19:51

I swear officer, I had no idea and I have no control over what my husband does. I’ll have a word 😂

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Raindancer411 · 31/10/2019 19:56

Can you get on or off that drive? Defiantly update the lady with that

PollyShelby · 31/10/2019 20:25

You need to make sure the landlord realises how serious this is because if he wants to sell that house this will all need declaring

I'm furious on your behalf.

timeforawine · 31/10/2019 20:30

Really hoping they get an ASBO and an eviction notice.

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Burtiebojangles · 31/10/2019 20:30

@Raindancer411 as long as our neighbours aren’t there we can get on and off swinging round onto their driveway (Although hubby is hanging in the road tonight so we’re fine), but their argument was our drive wasn’t ‘drive material’ whilst we were extending so they can park there so I do wonder what their excuse is now.

The photos went to the council though, along with one of the empty street and drive to show they are doing it on purpose, with time stamps so no denying what they’re doing. There’s nothing on their drive still, all their cars are on the street. Might as well piss everyone off whilst they’re at it.

My mind is still blown though that you react like this because someone asked you not to block their drive. Like, actually... Mind. Blown. Would anyone really be that incensed when you yourself rented a house without adequate parking?!

When I report it I feel like there’s no chance anyone will believe me, it’s that batshit, I actually doubt myself and think I’m being unreasonable. Why the fuck would anyone react like this and begin a campaign of hate because someone asked you not to block their access to their property? When they feel obliged to carry on I wonder if it’s just me being over sensitive, so thank you everyone for backing me on this one because I probably would have backed down by now and it’s such a relief that now the council are taking it seriously and someone might actually help.

But it did dawn on me last night, once we hit November, we’re in the month I’m back at work and the stress these cunts are causing is ruining the little time I have left of mat leave and now that my little boys hospital appointments are tailing off, given the 5 months I’ve had off so far have been absolute shite, I want to give him all of me, not me at my wits end. It’s shit that it’s ‘legal’ for people to make you feel like this.

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Popsicales · 31/10/2019 20:55

I don’t know if I’m interpreting the picture right but could you get an old banger or borrow a family members car to park on the ‘new’ bit of your drive and then your husband can park his car on the original, gravel bit. Then when the fuckers park on the corner and block they borrowed car in, ring the police? Halloween Angry

I’m infuriated on your behalf. They really are cheeky fuckers.

EbayAddiction · 31/10/2019 22:36

Wow. I've just read it all OP. I am so so sorry for you,

I can not believe that people have the energy to be this petty for such a long time?! Seriously, why the fuck would they STILL have the time to do it?! How pathetic they must be!!!!!

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Burtiebojangles · 01/11/2019 01:21

I’ve just been woken up by their neighbour who they’ve involved taking photos of our house and car. I turned the light on and she drove off but what the actual fuck?! I just want to be able to have a decent nights fucking sleep.

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SucculentCandle · 01/11/2019 02:49

When I was first reading this I thought "How wonderful! A parking thread with both diagrams AND photos!"

I can't think like that now. I am SO angry on your behalf and just wish this would get resolved asap. I;'m so sorry you're having to go through this.

squeekums · 01/11/2019 03:24

I would beciome the most annoying neighbour

I need to go out....... at 3am
oh shit i forgot something, now 3.30 am, out i go again
rinse and repeat nightly

If they wanna try ignore me, i bang louder, get an air horn and dont stop till they move the hunk of shit

EbayAddiction · 01/11/2019 07:03

OP are you still reporting all of these incidents? I assume the police have done what they can?

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Burtiebojangles · 01/11/2019 07:13

@EbayAddiction they’re getting reported to the council, there’s no point with the police, it gets us nowhere and they just start acting worse because they get away with it.

Just another night of no sleep because my stomach is just in knots with it all. I know I’ve got photos of their cars but when someone who shouldn’t even be involved is taking photos of your house in the dead of night, it’s scary.

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Tistheseason17 · 01/11/2019 08:15

Please ensure the council know they have involved more people in the harassment of you. They need to understand how serious this is. Also, put a complaint in to the Chief Constable about the lack of police support in your reporting of harassment by a member of their staff.

SuperficialSuzie · 01/11/2019 09:32

I am just stunned on your behalf. I’m sorry you’ve had all this shit to deal with.

I’ve got a land reg and a 192 account for work, if you PM me the details I’ll search for the owner as best I can.

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