To think nursery is too strict

[Shezow]

My little one has just started nursery this year and I’m hating it already!

I thought children go to nursery to play, run wild ect

But they are constantly been told off and told what to do and what not to? They are only 3!

Today at home time the teacher told us they’ve had a lot of telling off today as it’s still early days and when we went in the classroom to pick the kids up they looked very upset

Now I’m not one of the go-burn-the-house-down do-whatever-you-like parents But they’re still allowed to play freely

AIBU to think nursery is too strict 😩? Or is this normal?

Nothing wrong with being strict . I teach a mixed yr 3/4 class and I am very strict. The key is being fair.

It will put dc in good stead for when he goes into yr 1

That does sound strict 'lots of tellings off' and sad children.

My daughters nursery (not school based) was much more of the run wild approach, she came home completely covered in mud dust and pain every day but had an amazing time, however there was still a routine for the children to fit into and boundaries, I think the main difference is whether these are applied with warmth or not. Boundaries are hugely beneficial for children, and consistently applying then makes the environment a safe one, however
For me warmth is the key ingredient.

I think 'pre schools' are often much stricter than Nursery...but most nurseries build in slightly more structured learning by the time they are 3.

Nothing wrong with being strict . I teach a mixed yr 3/4 class and I am very strict. The key is being fair.

Depends on your definition of strict. If you take it to mean calmly but consistently enforcing boundaries and having high expectations it's not problematic at all, provided expectations are realistic for the age group. If you take it to mean very shouty and aggressive, it's not ok at all. If kids were in tears after being told off I'd be worried it was the latter definition being applied.

A reception teacher can always spot the children who haven't been to nursery, they have poor social skills and are very clingy.

That is the biggest load of crap I've read on MN for some time.