To be absolutely furious

[Alfiesmom15]

Me and my partner been together 6 years we have our problems like most but weve been working on them but seriously today I could actually throttle him.... my cars at garage so he needed to take me to work then drop son at school. He also picks son up from school.... I rang him at 3pm to make sure he was getting ready to go get son..... queue 20 past three school.phones hes not turned up and no one can get hold of him.... hed fell to fucking sleep (my sister fetched him).... and then I get home sink full of washing up, crumbs all over the side, boxes I've asked to be moved full of his shit and still there in my living room.... sons come home from school with shit all over his wellies (forest school) instead of washing them or putting them outside my house now smells of horse shit.... I had to wait 15 mins outside work to get me..... my cars not going to be fixed till tomorrow the problem is bigger then what they thought so probably going to cost more money.
Now hes driving an hours drive to buy a computer desk. Which he will defo make out hes doing me a massive favour except it's for his computer that I never actually use.... someone please tell me I'm not over reacting because I'm fuming

@BasiliskStare and @Aaarrgghhh if you read my post on the first page, you would of read it doesnt usually bother me but it really grated on my nerves 2 days ago, and after a good sleep i kinda got over it yesterday which again I stated.... why you feel the need to drag out for 2 days that I need to buy cheap cutlery so someone doesnt have to clean up after themselves is beyond me..... I do 40 hours a week and I dont leave mess all over the side for him to clean up so why is acceptable In your eyes for him to do it..... who on earth likes to walk in after a days work to mess..... who on earth finds it ok that he left our 4 year old son at school a week after he started.... doing his second pick up.... I refuse to be someones skivvy and clean up after a grown ass man who is perfectly capable of cleaning up after themselves.... why does something really pissing you off someday automatically mean that theres something else there.... unless of course no one else ever has a day where something really grinds your gears

Wow op you are so amazing. The fact you didn’t actually allow him to clean up in his own time means nothing then? And for what it’s worth in regards to forgetting to pick up your son, both me and my partner on the same day fell asleep and forgot our daughter who was four for over an hour. It happened, we resolved it and moved on. I get being pissed off I do, trust me, but ffs complaining that the guy didn’t do some dishes because he fell asleep and because you are so low on cutlery you chose (because you certainly didn’t ask him) to wash up before doing other things. Don’t do something and then get pissy because you did it lol.

How long do you think I should wait for him to clean up?.... I dont think having 6 sets of cutlery in total is low theres only three of us in the house!? One was in my bag.... because he went out as soon as I got home?? Should I have left it all till next day? A week? He has two bloody things I ask him to do and yet he did neither.... now I'm sorry if your a saint not to complain but when someone has been at work all day its bloody annoying.... although buying more cutlery is not going to change all the shit that was over the side.....

I think you resent how much you must work. Can you cut back hours and get him to take on more? It might help, maybe write out a chore list and give him a set time to be done by? Obviously a week is too long but he could have done them that evening or the next morning and I wouldn’t consider that piss taking. Like I say though, maybe a set each or ones only he can use and then if he needs five he can buy more or wash up quicker? Hope the problems resolve soon.

I don't resent anything about my job, I enjoy my job I've worked hard to get where I am, I'm not about to drop pay so he doesnt have to wash up.... I was annoyed about him not cleaning up after himself, I have expected a clean palace when I walk through the door.... a little bit of courtesy to the only other adult in the house, that's not exactly grounds for me to take a back step from my career.

I havent expected a clean palace when I walk through the door that was meant to say