What is the most annoying thing that your relatives do that give you unreasonable rage?

[FiveFarthings]

Following on from another thread of what your partner does that gives you unreasonable rage, what do your relatives do that make you grind your teeth/ want to punch yourself/them/ make you see red?

My in-laws are the loveliest people ever but my god they are incapable of saying good bye and actually leaving! It drives me up the wall! We will attempt to leave their house and they will then remember 100 million things they forget to tell us in three hours we have been there and that they must tell us before we leave. I have learnt now to start making noises about leaving 45 minutes before we actually have to leave, otherwise we can never get out the door!

In my family we just say, ‘Right we’re off, love you bye’ and walk out so my in-laws faffing drives me mad! We see the in-laws every couple of days so it’s not because we hardly see them and they are trying to make the most of it!

What do your relatives do that give you unreasonable rage?

[ipswichwitch]

When DM and DSD visit they seemingly lose the ability to make a decision for themselves. I’ll ask “do you want a cup of tea?” and it’s never a yes or no:
DM: “oh I don’t know, are you having one DSD?”
DSD: “well I don’t know dear, what time is it?”
DM “it’s 10.37. I don’t know if that’s too close to lunch so maybe I should wait til after. What time is lunch Ipswich?”
Me: probably about 1ish
DM: oh, well we eat at 12.30 so I don’t know if I can wait til after 1 for a cup of tea. Maybe i should have one now
DSD: yes whatever you’re having dear
Me: so do you want a cup of tea?......
I long for the day they just say yea or no! And it’s like this for everything so it takes fecking ages to achieve anything!

[Sunflowers211]

My mam telling me that I am not allowed to waste my own money when we go shopping.

[DitheringBlidiot]

My mum claims she is always on time but say you agree to meet her to go for lunch and you say “I’ll meet you outside the pub at 2” you’ll get there at 2 and she won’t be there so you ring her and she’ll say something like “ooooh I’m here, but I’m just in marks and Spencer looking at hats” marks and Spencer, or wherever the place may be that she is, is never less than 10 minutes away.

She also rings you up and continues a conversation she is having with herself to you so it will go

Me - “hello!”
Mum - they’re blue, size 6 sort of pointy toe. Shall I get you them?
Me - errr..

My stepdad says “pompadoms” instead of poppadoms

At every single meal we have out my brother will announce “we’ll i ordered the best thing on the menu again” and he does this weird clunky thing with his jaw every time he eats something. 30 years I’ve been listening to that

Good job I love them!

[60sbird]

If my DP is watching something on tv or talking on the phone I have to be silent BUT if I’m watching tv, he will talk non stop to me until I pause it, then he stops talking until I un pause it then starts talking again,I end up turning tv off. when I’m on the phone he tries to tell me things to say and when I don’t he gets huffy with WTF it’s my phone call

[Orangepancakes]

DP chews SO loudly- makes me want to stab him with my fork!

[Confrontayshunme]

My SIL gets praised for buying secondhand clothes, toys, uniform and equipment "even though they can afford new". I, on the other hand, get told that my DD MUST have new school uniform or she will get bullied.

So, I got sick of it and said "If you want her to have new, please feel free to purchase it yourself". Got £120 worth of free uniform, and now DD will never get bullied!

[soulrunner]

DM: gets involved in community volunteering/ committees of her own volition and then moans about it

DF: won’t get a hearing aid despite having to listen to the tv at literally the highest volume setting.

DSIS: sniffs and comes round and eats all the pickle.

[Brefugee]

DH holds his knife like a pen.
I wan to rip it out of his hands and stab him with it. I don't know when it started but I'm definitely sure that he didn't do it when we first met because then I wouldn't have married him i would have noticed

[CandyLeBonBon]

Dm constantly clears her throat. Especially after drinking coffee and eating chocolate.

😱

[thecatsthecats]

MIL has an absolutely batty fixation on furniture.

They have a double garage, which is fully stocked with old furniture she doesn't want to part with.

Except they offer it to us. Frequently. My DH has warned me under no circumstances accept.

We have a 3 bed house, the size you'd expect. She wanted her 10 seater dining table to go in our dining room. But not forever. It's HERS. She might want it back. We must take very good care of it. We must also host lovely family get togethers around her lovely table.

It doesn't fit in our dining room plus room to breathe.
It doesn't suit our dining room.
We're actually well off enough to afford our own dining table.
Even if we weren't, we could not live up to the standards of the Sacred Ten Seater.
She actually has AMPLE room for this table in her own kitchen diner.
Instead they have a somewhat cramped arrangement with a table smaller than our own.

It's not a big deal by any stretch of the imagination, but it's just sheer bonkers.

[DinosaurFineosaur]

I went out for dinner with my parents last night which has reminded me of lots more annoyances.

They are so bloody rude to service staff, clicking their fingers at waiters and shoving empty glasses and dishes towards them while they are already trying to clear the table, saying "that needs taken away, and tat needs taken away..." or bellowing their order at a waiter who is trying to answer a question or take an order from the other end of the table.

My mum doesn't take milk in her tea so when it is served with the inevitable accompanying milk jug she thrusts it right back at the staff member with "and you can take that away". Dad doesn't like ice in his drinks but, again, instead of saying this at the outside, he pulls a face and makes a big scene when his drink is served. Meanwhile I'm usually hissing at him to be quiet and I'll take away his ice later.

Then there is the fact that my dad won't read a menu properly. He'll see one word and fixate on that, no matter the rest of the description. So on one occasion he ordered ham hock terrine and then threw a toddler-style tantrum because he wanted sliced ham and not a pate-style dish, on other occasions he's ended up with curries, which he doesn't like) because he just saw "chicken or beef" and didn't read the rest. Last night he announced that he was going to have "the lamb", so we all scoured the menu trying to find what he meant. It was ragu of lamb with pappardelle. We were all trying to explain to him that this was a pasta dish (he doesn't like pasta of any sort) but he kept saying that we would just eat the lamb and leave the pasta on the side, so we tried to explain that it would all be mixed up and there would unlikely be "chunks" of lamb. By the time he started wondering what cut of lamb it would be, we decided there was no hope so in order to avoid the inevitable tantrum, we took matters into our own hands and spoke to the staff (it s a place DH and I visit regularly) to tell him that the lamb was off. That backfired though because instead he chose "the steak" and we didn't have time to check that. Turned out he had ordered a steak burger and was most displeased.

[TrueFriendsStabYouInTheFront]

My sister only contacts me if she wants something. Any contact I make is just met with one word answers.

My brother treats women like absolute shit and I feel sorry for all his ex's, his current gf and any in the future!

My DH says "eh?" After every single question even though he's heard. He says it in place of 'umm' as a pause for thought, but half the time I end up repeating myself needlessly! He also heads straight to the bathroom as soon as our alarm goes off, for a lengthy poo with iPad, leaving everyone absolutely bursting for a wee!

My MIL launches into lengthy monologues any time I see her, where I don't get a single word in. These include stories I've heard umpteen times before and include the minutest of detail like what she had for lunch that particular day. She also tells me every detail about her daughter's life which I don't want to know about, I don't know the woman, and the amount of debt she's in, what her sofas are like or how much rent she pays is none of my fucking business!!!

[CookPassBabtridge]

My mum bombards us with stuff she's bought and just won't sit down and relax with us and the kids, for the first few hours anyway. It's all go go go and a mad influx of information. Just sit down and chill. We always leave with a headache

My mother in law lives abroad so about 2500 miles away. We'd love them to be in the UK for the ours and the kids sake, but when they plan where to live, she's always saying "ooh let's get a house together/live next door/on same street/in same village" No no no... just live a normal distance away It's one extreme or the other with them.

[CookPassBabtridge]

Has anyone on the thread said "they'll be dead one day" yet...

[Frangible]

Has anyone on the thread said "they'll be dead one day" yet...

DH and I tend to say it in undertones to one another when one of our parents has been particularly maddening.

[ALadyofLetters]

Mine love to bring random stuff and leave it at my house.

“What’s this”- pointing at bag on the side
“Oh we had to replace all our door handles”
“Ok, so...”
“We thought you could make use of them”
“Thanks but we don’t need any door handles”
“Well we’ll leave them here, some of your friends may want them”

[handslikecowstits]

Every time my mother gets out of my car she closes the door with such force, the cabin rattles. Despite telling her that it's quite a new one and she doesn't need to try to force it through to the other side of the car with a single slam, she still does it.

[blackfriars]

@dollydaydream114 struggling not to burst out laughing at my desk at the scotch egg request

[Brig93]

Best comments so far 😂😂😂😂 dementia

[shearwater]

My mum says "Eh?" at everything as well. Including when I'm not actually talking to her at all. But her hearing is perfect apparently, even though she is 80, it can't have deteriorated one bit. And for years she nagged my dad about getting hearing aids. I think he enjoyed not hearing sometimes!

Also she gets involved with everything when she doesn't need to. I go into another room with DDs to help with homework, she starts coming in and getting involved. From the other end of the room, where she can't see the book, so gets the wrong end of the stick.

Then if I ask her not to, she gets all huffy about it. This is the response to anything remotely critical at all. Yet she is very critical herself about DDs, they are always messy (well, they can be but are only average for 14 and 10 year olds) "Too much sugar" if they are having a laugh about something- when she is Type 2 diabetic, life long sweet tooth and buys ridiculously large chocolate bars for them and herself. Also if we have a debate about something in the news, she takes it very personally if you argue against her position and don't feel exactly the same way. She is very critical about any woman on the TV's appearance, and generally if she decides she doesn't like someone, they could be voted top person and canonised and she would never agree they are a nice person.

I feel simultaneously guilty and relieved writing that.

[shearwater]

I'm very lucky with my MIL in general. But recently I don't think she has realised that DDs need adult portions (they are 14 and 10, 5'5" and 5'0" respectively), when they go round for their tea. They eat more than me at home as they are still growing. She is a fantastic cook, but they come home hungry so I have to feed them again a couple of hours later. Perhaps DH should mention it- I've tried saying it casually when we were talking about food in general "I find DDs need more food than me these days!" but she hasn't taken the hint.

[shearwater]

LOL dolly, if I wasn't an only child and for the fact that my dad is no longer with us I'd think you were talking about the same parents.

[Laiste]

DM stands right in front of where you are/are about to go/in the doorway with her arms spread out like a star fish holding the door frame/work tops/table. You'll go to walk past but she wont shift. She knows damn well you're trying to get past or round her but she makes you say excuse me? or can you budge over? every.bloody.time. The holding on to things is meant to be because she's unsteady, but bugger me if she doesn't know i can see her she zooms round the house touching nothing!

[allabouteve1]

Licking their finger before turning the page of a book. Annoys me slightly when it's their book makes me twitch and glare when it is one of my books they have borrowed whilst visiting. It's gross!

[TheSmallClangerWhistlesAgain]

My mum phoned me earlier and I remembered that she screams when she sneezes and it's infuriating.