What is the most annoying thing that your relatives do that give you unreasonable rage?

[FiveFarthings]

Following on from another thread of what your partner does that gives you unreasonable rage, what do your relatives do that make you grind your teeth/ want to punch yourself/them/ make you see red?

My in-laws are the loveliest people ever but my god they are incapable of saying good bye and actually leaving! It drives me up the wall! We will attempt to leave their house and they will then remember 100 million things they forget to tell us in three hours we have been there and that they must tell us before we leave. I have learnt now to start making noises about leaving 45 minutes before we actually have to leave, otherwise we can never get out the door!

In my family we just say, ‘Right we’re off, love you bye’ and walk out so my in-laws faffing drives me mad! We see the in-laws every couple of days so it’s not because we hardly see them and they are trying to make the most of it!

What do your relatives do that give you unreasonable rage?

@dollydaydream114, that was such a vividly hellish picture that I swear my blood pressure just spiked in recognition.

I have an aunt who is a habitual liar. She will swear blind she was somewhere or did something that the entire family know is untrue. The latest has been her saying she was at a wedding when she was in fact in hospital having a hip replacement.

She also will not take no for an answer when offering food.
Aunt, would you like a mince pie.
Me, no thank you.
2 minutes later, Aunt, would you like a mince pie.
Me, no thanks, I don’t really like them.
Aunt, but I made them, do have a mince pie.
Me, no.
Aunt, how very dare you. They aren’t poisoned.

My DH wears those tiny in-ear earphones all over the house and I can never tell if he's listening to something. If I try and speak to him, he will look at me like I'm mental, take one earphone out and go 'WHAT?"

My mother can have an entire phone convo without taking a breath or listening to a single thing anyone else has to say. I swear to God I can walk off and empty the dishwasher or whatever, go back to the phone and she will still be talking away oblivious. If I try and interject or ask a question she will act shocked that I've spoken!

You lot have the patience of a saint!!
I think I would have murdered most of these people.

If you're a jobbing, hitwoman, @Bookworm4, you may have hit a rich seam of potential clients.

ConstanzaAndSalieri
I'm not alone!
The "whatever suits" is so annoying!
But then they clearly do have a preference and it's obvious if you don't get it right.

Sigh.

It’s just me and DM in the house now but my sister pops by often, usually with her kids and partner, and no one, including DM, ever uses the fucking bin. We had one with a swingy lid, I asked why no one ever used it. Apparently lid was dirty. Fair, I’ve prob not wiped it a few times (not that anything is stopping anyone else doing it) so I bought a pedal bin so no one has to touch the lid. Still no one uses it! They just pile everything up by the side! I asked why and now no one can answer me! Drives me mad. Especially as my sister will put used kitchen roll or wipes into a bowl of half eaten spaghetti or something so I then have to fish it out and put it in the bin. She also starts opening all our cupboards looking for food and if we complain she gets all wounded and says “but this is still my home too”, I mean yes it is it’s always been made clear to her that even tho she’s moved out it’s still her home but she doesn’t actually live here anymore so it’s pretty shit to come in and start rootling through all the food DM and I have bought ourselves and eating it or giving it to the kids. Especially when it’s the last of something.

MIL only ever talks about other people.

One of the ones who sit there going on like "oh you heard about so an so" or "so and so has just bought this or that" its so boring it puts us off seeing her. I hate talking about people its all things and concepts with me :D

My sister phoned me whilst I had a friend in the house.
I asked her if I could call her back later as haven't seen best friend in ages .
Fast forward 1 and half hours sis still on phone going on about mememememememe if I wanted to I wouldn't get a word in
So during the memememe session i
put the phone on the sofa and went and made me and BF tea and toast DS didn`t even notice
Me and bf were in hysterics.
eventually she said gotta go sis I need a drink.
WONDER WHY ?.
Still laugh about it to this day and it was probably a good 15 yrs ago.
And even funnier she never asked me once how I or my family were doing.

@Frangible
Could be a new enterprise 😉

My youngest has severe allergies (anaphylactic). My family members always try to feed him said allergens. Every. Single. Time. Not by accident either!

We’ve limited contact. There’s only so many times I can put up with them saying “oh, a little bit won’t hurt” or “he needs to keep eating it so he can grow out of the allergy!” And my favourite “oh stop being so fussy about food!”
I could scream!

My brother and SIL are always late for fucking everything. You have to tell them to be there at least half an hour before you want them to be anywhere near where they're meant to be.

SIL is also an extremely annoying drunk. She's lovely but she has this thing of repeating herself really loudly when she's had too many.

I have an aunt who insists on buying birthday and Christmas presents for me that I don't want, which makes me feel both annoyed and deeply ungrateful. She always asks me if there's anything I would like and then just gets what she was going to anyway. Last time, I saw theatre tickets in an envelope and got really excited about what we were going to see, to discover it was a bloody pantomime. I hate panto and she knows that. She even made wisecracks on the night along the lines of "I'm sure Small would rather be watching something more highbrow but I like panto." I am not a snob - I would have been ecstatic with tickets for a cheesy musical or Strictly Come Dancing Live, for example. I just don't like panto.

My DCs always walk directly in front of us when we're out and about.
Like a step in front of us, so they regularly get booted in the arse bumped into.

MIL is a perfectly competent, and capable woman.
Yet she insists she cannot use anything vaguely technical. Won't even try to understand. It's infuriating.

DM, every time I call her, without fail: "oh, i was just about to call you!"
What she really means is "I was meaning to call you at some point, but got distracted by something else".

DF has a habit of sharing his own experiences as soon as someone starts talking about something. He does it because he thinks it shows interest, but by the time he's stopped talking, he's come across completely self-interested, and everybody's lost the will to live. It's got worse as he's got older.

@dollydaydream114 - I’m sorry your Dad is unwell but your description was very funny- a Scotch Egg - wtf .
My DM is obsessively clean & tidy in her own home but messy as fuck in mine. I don’t even want to get started on her, it’ll spoil my good mood.

My dad is lovely but seive me nuts. I speak to him on the phone and he is relaying the message to my mum at the same time. I asked him to stop as I cant concentrate on the conversation. So now he just repeats affirms everything I say in the hope that I wont notice that he is doing the same. Damn
.thing. e.g. Me: Ooh dad you should see what your grandson has done, he has been bouncing on a trampoline. DAD: What was that love? You say my grandson has been on a trampoline. Bless him hes a clever boy. MUM ( from the background) Ooh did he have a lovely time.? Me: Dad can you just put me on speaker phone then I can speak to you both at once?? ( Queue discussion with mum about how to do speaker phone and a few buttons a pressed phone goes dead) THEN THEY RING BACK

Sorry drives me nuts not seieve.

my DM slags everyone off then is best friends with them then they go and she hates them....like say oh look at her, filthy cow,her house is terrible ..shes useless ..i cant be bothered with the likes of her,,then it is hi lovely to see you I was just saying how lovely you looked when i saw you the other day heres tea and cake,then they pull everyone else to bits then she goes and m will say told you .she stinks,did you see the state of her shoes...ugh ....
and my inlaws breathe ..that is all!

Stepmother is always but ALWAYS late.

My aunt has started to ask me how much anything I buy costs (so I’ve stopped telling her if we have anything new/work done on the house).

When FIL stays, he’ll say ‘goodnight’, pop to kitchen to get a glass of water then stand in front of the tv watching It. Just sit and watch it with us if you don’t want to go to bed.

When we visit BIL, he can’t say goodbye and just let us go. No, there’s always something he’s just remembered or a joke he needs to tell. I drove off without my husband once as we needed to be somewhere and he was politely indulging BIL. The kicker was, we were coming back later that day!

My half-brothers refer to our dad as their dad and not ‘our’ dad (that hurts more than irritates TBH).

Am sure I do plenty to irritate my relatives though

@Sunnysidegold and @hardrainsgonnafall are you sure it's not a phone delay? My parents phone is like this, depending on whether you're calling or answering their phone you either get apparent silence on the other end, or you can hear them but they can't hear you for a few seconds.

The fact that your oh is asking if you can't hear him would suggest that he has previously been saying hello, and has heard you repeatedly saying hello, just you haven't heard him.

@brefugee I think we are married to the same man! Next time he comes home to you, please keep him, he’s all yours and I really don’t mind not sharing him anymore!

My Dsis and her partner are great, we get on with them well and see them all the time. But they’re terrible at taking their turn to host. So, they must have been around to dinner at our house a dozen times this year. Not once have they invited us back to theirs.

They have a lovely spacious home and the DP is a great cook. Not sure why they don’t invite us.

The only time we get to go to theirs is if, for example, we ask if they’re in for a cuppa on our way back from a trip to town. Then they’ll say fine and give us a cuppa. Literally just that.

I was walking the dog at a park near their house a few weeks back, and I popped in to see them ( I did ring first don’t panic) and lunchtime was coming up so it was the perfect opportunity for them to say “hey, you’ve fed us 12 times this year, would you like a sandwich?”
Instead, the DP got two slices of ham out of the fridge, one for him and one for her, replacing the rest of the pack back in the fridge. He made them both sandwiches in front of me, and I felt so awkward at them not offering one to me, I made my excuses and left.

It annoys me and my DP but I can’t allow us to fall out over it. I honestly think if we didn’t instigate the get togethers we’d never see them!

haha @SaintWillibald no dice. we can share 50/50...

My sil and bil come every year for Christmas lunch and sometimes Easter too. They never ever bring any wine or food. Not even a token box of chocs. They never help to clear the table or kitchen either. Not even an offer. We've had 2 Christmas's at theirs and never enough food-we have 6 children they have none. It's always top quality ie Waitrose but just never enough. Growing boys eat more than 1 roast potato!! When we went to theirs I always asked what courses they'd like brought-generally soup and a massive trifle. Plus a bottle of bubbles and a desert wine. I just find their behaviour bizarre 🤷🏻‍♀️

My dB is so accurate with punctuality it's mad say if you will pop round at 1pm and it's 1.01pm ( I'm not joking he's texting asking where I am . I wouldn't mind if I was always late but I'm always on time but didn't realise I had to be exact .
My dm and dd are odd about food eating times they think we are odd because we have evening meal 6.30-7pm they eat 5pm the same with Christmas dinner it has to be 12 noon . I stopped arranging to see them on Christmas Day because we had to see them at 11am and leave by 11.30am if we stayed later hints were dropped like what times your dinner and I cant wait for dinner etc and 1 small coffee was offered , If they came to us they requested alcohol which of course I didn't mind it's Christmas . So we have a much more relaxed Christmas and see them another day .
My dh insists on staying up late then falls asleep ( just come to bed when your tired ) drives me mad .
He has a shocking memory never ever remembers anything.
Also he will look in the fridge and say any beer ? ( even though he knows there is none left) I'll say no the beer fairy hasn't been . He'll then be all offended at my sarcasm and say I'm only asking .

Also my dm ( I love her really ) claims to not remember things I've told her .
For example she'll ask me how a friend is and I'll say Fred's not very well he's on medication.
Dm - that's a shame
2 weeks later I'll mention Fred's illness. my dm will claim that she didn't know Fred was ill . It drives me bonkers .