To be pissed off, or is he a CF?

[Roxette]

Partner and I have been together for about 18 months, and we've just moved in together (I bought the house, we live in it together with my 2 kids, and his dog).

He works away a lot, and I have responsibility for the dog whilst he is away. I work 3 days a week, so we have a dog sitter who comes and collects the dog on those days and looks after her until I'm home. He pays for this, and it works fine. On the 2 days I don't work, I look after the dog.

At the moment, he is working away for 5 weeks. Mostly back on weekends, but not this weekend. This weekend, I'm also working on Saturday morning. I'm out of the house too long to leave the dog by herself. We talked about it this morning, and he suggested that we either get the dog sitter to have her (which is a reasonable suggestion, and I'll do that to check her availability), or "perhaps on one of your days off this week you could meet one of the people from borrow my doggy and see if they would be suitable to have her, then you can drop the dog with them on Saturday morning before work".

AIBU to be pissed off with this? The dog is lovely, but the amount of responsibility is like having another child! I feel completely dumped on to sort her out when she isn't even mine. However, I do feel guilty moaning about it because I've got 2 kids who he helps out with when they are around, although I don't expect him to look after them for days at a time.

AIBU?

Time you found yourself someone without a dog.

Go for it @roxette

Whatever happens, would be a win/win for you (and the DC when they have a day out). Either, he realises that he is not being reasonable in asking you to pick up the slack for his dog when he works away or he finds someone (else) who will do so. REsult.

These youtubers are now on reality Tv strictly, Im a celeb etc so they are famous teenagers (and some adults) are seeing this and going for likes and followers and likes and follwers now mean everything totally baffles me.

Mrs Jay think you are on the wrong thread but there is a very good Black Mirror about likes and followers and how society comes to a sticky end, I recommend it.

If he doesn't want his dog left for more than 4 hours, he needs to arrange that. It's not fair that you can't go out for the day with your children because you have to rush back for the dog! I'd arrange some days out and inform him that you can't look after the dog that day and see what his reaction is, I think it'll tell you a lot about him...

Is it a nice dog? Could you keep the dog and dump him? I guess doing the dog admin wouldn't be such an issue if it were your choice rather than his dictating it.

Could you keep the dog and dump him?

Ha! Absolutely not! If nothing else, I’ve realised I really don’t want my own dog!

So that's the conversation you need to have with him OP. After looking after dog for a number of weeks you've realised that you're not cut out to be a dog owner and in future when he's away working he needs to make alternative arrangements.

The 4 hours btw, is not a random time he’s decided, it’s the time animal welfare organisations all agree is the longest a dog should be left alone.

Doesn’t excuse him from actually being the one having to adjust his life round dog ownership rather than you... but it’s not his time limit that he’s imposing arbitrarily.

@tabulahrasa ah, thanks for that, I didn’t know that. But yes, he is the owner, it should be his life that has to adjust and not mine!