AIBU to ask people to pay for their own tickets?

[ScoobyBoo]

Ds has his second birthday in a few months time and I was thinking a trip to sea life aquarium might be a nice idea, perhaps a picnic beforehand. Dh wants to invite his family. He thinks we should pay for all their tickets if we invite them, I think we should invite them but make it clear in the invitation they have to pay for their own tickets if they want to come. With DH's parents, step parents, siblings and their partners it's about 9 people not including us or any my family (which would just be my parents).
Is it cheeky to say to DH's family they are welcome to come, no pressure but they have to pay for their own tickets? What's the best way to word it? Do I provide picnic food for everyone?

Not rtft but I have two 2 for 1 vouchers if you need them let me know .

Oh dear. Just don't go. Say you've changed your minds and want to do a simple picnic with cake, as that's what you think DS will enjoy most.

Your DH doesn't mind that his sister's boyfriend expects to use him as his personal cash machine?

Your DH must be very, very rich. Or very, very easily-led. He's being suckered by these people. They don't respect him. That's not a nice position to be in.

StealthPolarBear thanks for the offer. Think I might see if I can use tesco clubcard points to get them, think its three times the value offer or something

lottiegarbanzo
Yeah might have to cancel or just go on our own. Unfortunately it's the dh is easily led and walked over when it comes to his family.

Surely that makes you uncomfortable on his behalf? And your own? And jeopardises your family finances in favour of members of his family, and their friends?

Reading this makes me feel very, very uncomfortable for him and you.

How long has SIL's BF been on the scene? What gives him the idea your DH should pay for his DCs' party? There's a real lack of self-respect, as well as respect for others, going on here. It's not normal.

lottiegarbanzo I always have to put my foot down and end up being the bad guy. Sil has always been cheeky and very demanding. Think she has been dating boyfriend for just over a year.