To think this isn't neglect?

[KadieFae]

Popped to the shop leaving baby downstairs. DP upstairs listening out. Not asleep or dead or anything. Baby in playpen. Playing quietly. I was gone less than a minute (shop is essentially next door)

Sounds fine right?

My DM has phoned the SS on me. AIBU?

Mental. I would be cutting her out of my life ASAP. That's insane behaviour.

And to those worried, the baby in question is 16 months old. Not exactly tiny baby stage!

Bloody hell KadieFae, i am sorry that your dm is such an interfering cunt.

Time to go nc dont you think?

I'd be going none contact in that case and possibly wondering if she needed mental health support as her reaction is so abnormal. Why should you justify yourself and your actions to her? Your child has 2 capable parents and one of them was at home with them just because that parent has a penis doesn't mean he is incapable of looking after the child.

Did your Dm realise there was another adult in the house? Btw, as there was, the shop could be hours away.

Next time you see her walk the other way, she is being unbalanced

i'm surprised no one has mentioned the 'd 'word [has she got it] or questioned her mh tbh. she sounds best avoided though.

It's always been the same shit, bar the SS phoning thats a new one!

Weaned baby at 5.5 months ON DOCTORS ADVICE and she went off on one then as well, saying I was going to make my child seriously ill.

Put baby in own room when she was 8 months - mom was going off asking me what i would do if baby stopped breathing or choked on his own sick?

her* sorry, its been a long day!

cross posted.

I’d go no contact with DM!

She is mental.

Do not ever expose DC to THAT.

Ever.

YANBU

She's in her early 40s!

Time to perhaps stop giving her any information about your life? Or even cut her right out? she sounds as though she enjoys sabotaging you.

I would get her checked, there's interfering and then there's your mum

you know what's best for your child rather than dm she really needs to pipe it down.

Your mother is batshit crazy. The baby was not home alone. If baby is in own room at night is she going to report you for sleeping. Tell her there are children being beaten with in an inch of their lives being failed because too many cases in the system and she feels the need to waste resources. That potentially causes a child in serious need to miss out because they have to investigate every case. I would point out the sleeping in different room thing just to make a point your not physically able to watch baby 24 7 same as she couldn't you.

You left your DC with its father?

In future I wouldn't be telling you mother anything

Don’t leave your DC alone with her ever she sounds unhinged possibly jealous of you.

Well if there's nothing mentally wrong with her then i would cut contact, she called social services on her own child for no valid reason, that's pretty unforgivable

Is your DP totally incompetent? I can’t fathom how leaving your child with your partner is SS worthy.

I'm in my early forties too but I'm still calling her a nosy old bat. I wouldn't tell her a single thing, nothing.

In fact I wouldn't bother speaking to her again. Is she of sound mind?

You need to go No Contact with your mum, she is seriously batshit.

Unless your DP is medically/physically unable to take care of a child (full paralysis, uncontrolled psychosis or dangerous personality disorder) then your baby wasn't abandoned or neglected for a moment.

She needs blocking.

She is beyond barking!