To buy an engagement ring for myself?

[EllaChakka]

I am a regular but NC often to protect privacy.

I have been with DP for a year, he had been separated for a while when we got together and finally divorced recently. He is not keen on the idea of remarrying, and to be honest I don’t care much either way. We are very happy together.

However, I am sometimes a bit jealous of some of my female friends’ gorgeous engagement rings. So I am entertaining the idea of buying a lovely diamond ring for myself as a Christmas present this year.

Would that be really bad? Would it look crass? Am I a total nutter for even thinking this?

You can buy yourself anything you like..

But you can't call it an engagement ring if it isn't actually an engagement ring

Absolutely fine to buy yourself a ring, but I'm not sure you could cal it an engagement ring. That would denote that you were planning to get married, which it seems you're not.

But yes, get yourself a lovely ring for no other reason than you can!

Okay I said can't..

I meant don't..

Otherwise you will sound insane

Enjoy lovely ring shopping

I suppose I mean a ring that looks like a typical engagement ring, but obviously it would just be a diamond ring for me

Yes, buy yourself some lovely jewellery but don’t call it an engagement ring or wear it on that finger. You will look like a bunny boiler

How about buying a beautiful ring for a different finger? It'll still be a diamond ring either way.

Yeah, just buy the ring, you don't even have to call it a Christmas present, you could just buy it the next time you have the time and money to go ring shopping. A revelation, I know.

Be prepared for people to assume it's an engagement ring and pester you about how he proposed, when the big day is, etc etc.

Just ask him if you can buy a ring and call it an engagement ring, but tell him your not expecting to marry, but if he ever wants to go further he can buy you an eternity ring and name a date.

Yes, buy yourself a ring if you want but don’t call it an engagement ring. I think you can wear it on any finger you like. I don’t wear either my engagement ring or wedding ring on the correct finger.

Ooh yes buy yourself something lovely. I always admire diamond rings sadly my only one is in a box now post divorce! Can't bring myself to put it on now.

My sister got a "commitment" ring from her partner - neither of them wanted to marry again but she wanted that bit of symbolism. Might your partner buy you something nice with the same sentiment?

Of course you can buy yourself an engagement ring. Just don’t call it that

I did OP. We had decided to get married but DH was skint and not a believer in traditions like that. I bought my own.

By all means, buy yourself a ring but please don't call it an engagement ring or wear it on your ring finger!

If you buy yourself a diamond ring for your self, be real clear and wear it on the other hand, or you come across as a bit deluded

When he asks you what you would like for Christmas, tell him you would like a ring.

You can buy yourself whatever you want but it’s daft to buy a diamond ring that looks just like an engagement ring because you’re jealous of your friends’ rings and wear it on your left ring finger if you’re not engaged.

Be prepared for lots of people congratulating you and then thinking you’re deranged when you tell them you’re not engaged?

You can buy any ring you like, but it would be very odd to call it an engagement ring if you're not engaged

Absolutely buy yourself a ring you love. I'm all for that. Nothing wrong with it at all. I never want to get married again (I'm still married but not really with my husband anymore) and had hawked my engagement ring to pay an emergency plumbing bill, lol. But I hope to one day have a beautiful large diamond ring again too. I imagine it's something I'll buy myself when I am in the position to.

I would not buy a traditional sort of engagement ring even to wear on my right hand. However there are ALL sorts of really, really beautiful cocktail style rings with diamonds and precious stones and I absolutely would buy one of them - and then your friends will be looking at your rinf enviously. I am eyeing up an incredible ruby and diamond ring by a Danish jeweller at the moment.

I am such a magpie and constantly look at rings and jewellery and at the drop of a hat I could pick out about a dozen gorgeous things I'd love to buy, budget allowing!!

Why don't you propose and buy the rings?

Buy yourself anything you like - you shouldn’t have to wait for a man to buy you jewellery.

I wouldn’t call it an engagement ring or wear it on your engagement finger though, as that would look a bit desperate.

DP and I have been together for 16 years and we have no intention of marrying; I’ve never wanted a wedding. But I also love jewellery so would happily treat myself to a gorgeous ring if I could afford it!

If you feel weird about buying a ring yourself (although there’s no reason why you should feel weird of course) you could ask for one as a birthday present to wear on a different finger. DP actually bought me a ring for my 40th.

Do it! What kind of ring are you going to get?

Buy whatever jewellery you want and wear it how you wish. Don't call it an engagement ring if it isn't, as that sounds demented.

If you aren’t engaged then it’s just a ring, and of course you can buy one of those if you want. But I think buying one that looks like an engagement ring and wearing it on your ring finger would be massively embarrassing and pressuring for him when people see it and congratulate you both, so don’t do that or you’ll look a bit mad.

ive got a beuatiful ring my gran gave me.its quite pretty engagementy looks better on that finger so i do.no problems and have never been asked if im engaged.(probably because they take one look at me though )