To buy an engagement ring for myself?

[EllaChakka]

I am a regular but NC often to protect privacy.

I have been with DP for a year, he had been separated for a while when we got together and finally divorced recently. He is not keen on the idea of remarrying, and to be honest I don’t care much either way. We are very happy together.

However, I am sometimes a bit jealous of some of my female friends’ gorgeous engagement rings. So I am entertaining the idea of buying a lovely diamond ring for myself as a Christmas present this year.

Would that be really bad? Would it look crass? Am I a total nutter for even thinking this?

This is a bit weird. I think deep down you're trying to find a way to get your DP to propose to you, otherwise this thread would have been about asking if it's ok to splash out on a sparkly ring for yourself. If you just want a ring then all the details in your OP are irrelevant. No one needs an excuse to buy themselves a ring, you've muddied the water by stating your DP's newly divorced and your friends all being engaged.

I am guessing the OP means a traditional style engagement ring eg diamond solitaire
If you are wearing it as you said on a different finger go for it

Buy yourself a lovely diamond ring. A really blingy one. But don't call it an engagement ring as you will come across as a bit loopy and actually it might just upset or frustrate you to call it that.

If you just want a ring then all the details in your OP are irrelevant. No one needs an excuse to buy themselves a ring, you've muddied the water by stating your DP's newly divorced and your friends all being engaged.

Good point. Why did you bring these issues up, OP?

Would that be really bad? Would it look crass?

Why would wearing a ring that you like, look really bad or crass? I’m a bit confused really-why is this even an AIBU?

Just be clear about if you really want the jewellery, or if you're jealous of the supposed symbolism of a piece of jewellery that says "look at the monetary value that my DC had placed on his love for me, see how he must love me a lot because this diamond is huge!"
Because obviously you won't have that and you will have to explain to everyone that you bought it for yourself, which in all likelihood will make you embarrassed.
Also, isn't wearing the ring on the right hand supposed to symbolise that your husband/fiance is dead?

I bought a few diamond rings that were classed as engagement rings for myself. Got fed up waiting for one .

SunshineCake
I think you've changed your tune, OP. Be honest with what you want

This ^

I think, OP, that you are not as relaxed as you make out about never marrying your DP, and its fine to feel that way, but be honest about it. I think your original post was about buying a ring to wear on your engagement finger, otherwise, as many posters have pointed out, what would be the point of posting about buying a pretty ring for your right hand?