Is this cheeky or sensible?

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A school friend of mine and his wife had a baby a few months ago. They are very big advocates for environmentalism. They're also really well off (she's a lawyer and he's an engineer). This is just for context.

A couple of times since the baby was born, my friend has posted on Facebook asking for donations of specific second hand items for the baby. The most recent post asked for clothes, a stroller, a bouncy seat, a few educational toys, a play pen, a crib mattress and a high chair.

The reason they've given for the request is that they want to minimise waste by not getting the baby new things, and that's an aim I am totally on board with. And the request has been phrased very nicely, with an explanation of the principles behind it.

But part of me also feels it's cheeky because they can definitely afford to buy these things themselves (even if second hand), and because they've been so specific about what they want. I feel like there are other less well off parents out there who would benefit more from this stuff than them, and that while it's totally fine to accept donations of second hand baby items, posting a shopping list of what is wanted seems grabby.

AIBU? Is this just a sensible practical solution to mitigating the environmental impact of having a baby? Or is their behaviour a bit entitled? And given that I have some clothes in the sizes they want, should I post them to my friend or should I donate them to charity (which was my original plan before I saw the post).

TIA!

Bit of both IMO. Completely see the benefits of not buying new when you have a baby, there is so much - especially clothes, that just end up in landfill. However, I personally think that a very specific shopping list is a bit cheeky, if that includes a specific branded stroller for instance. If it's purely about "zero waste" then surely the specific stroller, bouncer etc wouldn't matter? If they want items that are typically very expensive then it does seem a little bit grabby if they can afford to buy them (either new or 2nd hand) when there are so many families who would be desperate for things but can't afford them.
That said, if you don't ask you don't get!

I know a very well off couple who are often asking for things on fb, or who are quick to snap things up on free sites... makes me a bit too, I think because it feels unfair that it’s taking away from people that couldn’t afford these things otherwise

There is sometimes a ‘reverse snobbery’ about accepting free items from people on a low income as if they don’t want to be seen accepting ‘handouts’.

In the charity shop I run we have lots of lovely children’s clothes, some brand new from a well known High Street retailer, but it is very hard to sell (we only put out things in immaculate condition at very low prices) but it is usually the more obviously affluent who buy it.