Friend helped herself to Calpol while house-sitting

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Got a message from my friend (call her L) who had been house-sitting and dog-sitting (for no pay) for her friend ('D') who has a lovely massive house while D was away. L told me that she felt unwell and helped herself to some Calpol in the house. However, she forgot to replace it and now D is going bananas at her saying it wasn't there when her son needed it. L doesn't know what to do... was she BU in using it in the first place? 🤔

and what adult actually uses Calpol!?)

Er, one wanting paracetamol where none otherwise available or wanting it in liquid form!

OP, why didn’t you just eat the jam sooner / make jam sandwiches / freeze the jam / buy more jam? I mean, I like jam, but even the ones you get at Fortnums are max £6 a jar.

Would D have said no to L using some calpol, because posters are assuming shes a tight bitch etc. Or was it the fact she thought she had medicine in her house and found out when she went to use it.

I mean either way kicking off over it is extreme and I dont know anyone who would even mention it, but there is a difference.

You all sound absolutely ridiculous!

She should apologise for forgetting to mention she'd taken it and say it hadn't occurred to her but of course she now realises why she should have done if there were none left.

Beyond that, she can "waive" the cost of dog-sitters and dog-walkers to make up for her absent-mindedness.

The problem here is the "massive lovely house" and the idea that the friend is the one therefore being done the favour for being granted the luxury of staying there and looking after the dog for no pay.

We keep opened jam in the fridge for weeks.

I don't have more than one bottle of calpol in my house but then thankfully I don't have to fund my mate's cleaner with it either.

Jam lasts forever.

Week? I reckon I’ve kept jam for years. Isn’t the point that it’s preserved?

It said on the jar can be kept up to 6 weeks in the fridge once opened...

And you actually throw it away after 6 weeks? Mwhahaaaa

Sounds like she needs new friends. Who uses a friend for free dog sitting but then begrudges the same friend some calpol and jam.

I see l funds her lavish cleaner including lifestyle by raiding others cupboards I see where this is going!

The problem here is the "massive lovely house" and the idea that the friend is the one therefore being done the favour for being granted the luxury of staying there and looking after the dog for no pay.

That's what makes me think the OP is D. Like L should be so flattered to be afforded the opportunity to stay in her beautiful home, picking up the beautiful shit of her (no doubt pedigree) dog - how dare she also help herself to meds from the bathroom cabinet when she has a headache. Cheeky bitch.

How much did she take that there was none left in the bottle? Or do you mean she took the bottle away with her? That’s an odd thing to do, though it’s probably equally odd to cause a scene about it

I have opened jam in the fridge for months - just googled this.

How long does opened strawberry jam last in the refrigerator? Strawberry jam that has been continuously refrigerated will generally stay at best quality for about 1 year.

It says on Apple / orange juice etc it should be drunk within 3 days. I ignore that. You chose to follow the 6 weeks batshit guidelines. Jam lasts months in the fridge. When I was a kid my parents never refrigerated marmalade, jam etc and would take any mould off the top. No one died.

You sound inhospitable if you think guests should ask before opening s jar of jam.

L needs new friends.

She can be my friend I'll share my medicine and jam with her no problem. Esp if she'll dog sit for free doing me a massive favour.

Sometimes I buy liquid painkillers for myself they have added placebo because I think they work quicker...no idea if thars true.

Incidentally, when L stays over at mine, she often helps herself to stuff, sometimes without asking... (Usually food / meds)

So basically she has a nasty habit of just helping herself to other people's stuff on a regular basis - and never thinks to ASK or REPLACE anything?

Stop allowing her to do this!

I totally get how she engineers the situation to make herself the 'innocent victim' and other people come across as 'petty' and 'mean'.....it's the classic manipulative behavior of a piss-taker.
If it was a one-off you could let it go - but she does this regularly.

Why can't she carry basic meds with her if she 'needs' them?
Why can't you assert your boundaries?

I'd be absolutely furious if I went to get my sick baby some calpol and there wasn't any because the dog sitter had taken it.

If it's easy to replace calpol then that argument works both ways! It's easy for the dog sitter to go get paracetamol!

I’d be pissed of if I realised at 3am with a screaming baby that someone had finished the calpol.

Serious over reaction. It’s paracetamol.
But I don’t have medicine in the house for just Incase.

@elvis86 why are you being so nasty?!
You don't need to call her a bitch. You don't know her!
So what if she is D. You're very spiteful. Do you always get this much enjoyment out of being nasty? Pathetic.

I'd be absolutely furious if I went to get my sick baby some calpol and there wasn't any because the dog sitter had taken it.

She's not a paid dog-sitter, though. She's a friend doing a favour?

I'd be livid if I'd house and dog-sat for a friend, used some Calpol and forgot to replace or mention it, and got an ear-bashing over it when they realised!

And you actually throw it away after 6 weeks? Mwhahaaaa

So much this. I have jam in the fridge that I’m still eating 1.5 years on (I like a huge range of flavours). If it’s not furry, I’m eating it on toast.

I think the OP is D. It's now gone from the friend using some Calpol whilst house and dog-sitting, to her just waltzing into friends' houses and raiding their fridges. hmm

Agreed. What a bizarre insertion.