To be furious at this comment

[ButterflyOne1]

I'm livid at a comment my sister has made on Facebook.

I try and raise money for a suicide prevention charity as my DP completed suicide in 2011.

This year I'm doing a charity event and I shared my justgiving page on Facebook.

My sister has commented "My latest charity I'm supporting is feed my kids at home". WTF.

I think this is so insensitive. I try to raise money as they supported me during the toughest time of my life.

My sister seems to hate the fact that I've been successful in my life. She's always putting me down but this feels too far. AIBU to be annoyed?

What the heck was she trying to say?

Block her. She sounds like a pita.

I don't understand op. She seems to be saying she's skint? I'm not sure how this is her resenting you success or putting you down?

She may have meant it as a lighthearted joke. But with families it’s hard to know, if you don’t get on then i can see why it feels inappropriate

It's unnecessary

I'd completely ignore her comment. Sounds like she's trying to say thay she's too skint to donate/sponsor you.

I think YANBU it's passive aggressive and unsupportive.

Comfort yourself with the knowledge she has just made herself look like a dick.

Has she given in the past?

Is she trying say "I cant keep giving to your fundraising, I am skint and have the kids to think about?'

Does come across as a dig but I would blank it completely and not respond or acknowledge. That way she'll be annoyed as she has apparently failed to get to you. Plus it makes her look daft whereas if you respond she can play the victim.

It’s insensitive, but I do think people get charity fatigue from constant fundraising regardless of how important / close to the heart the cause is.

Bloody hell! That’s cold. Regardless of why she wrote that (being broke, etc) it’s so easy to scroll on by.

So sorry, OP

Could it be a clumsy attempt by your sister to say she can’t afford to donate? If you raise money regularly, perhaps she’s getting a bit weary if she feels obliged to give money?

This year I'm doing a charity event and I shared my justgiving page on Facebook.

I try to raise money as they supported me during the toughest time of my life.

Those two statements are the problem. You are actually trying to get other people to give money to a cause that has little relevance to them.

People are getting charity fatigue.

If you are constantly fundraising from the same pool of people they will grow resentful.

She hasn't been the most tactful but in a way I can see where she is coming from.

A relative of mine does a lot for charity, her DCs have also started doing sponsored charity events too. She does get disappointed when we don't donate to each and every one, but we can't always afford it. I tend to just ignore the posts with just giving links.

Ew what a thing to comment. I'd be raging personally

The most charitable view is that it's her ay of saying she can't afford it. I think it would have been better not to have put any comment. Can't determine whether you are right to feel so angry about it - it depends on the dynamics of your relationship.

I think she's been incredibly insensitive. Whilst it's great you want to raise money for the charity some people do get a bit fed up of feeling pressured for money. You may not have asked her directly but I find when BILs/SILs etc post stuff you have to give something. Perhaps she's just at a bad time, although YANBU for raising money for charity either!

Leave the comment. It makes her look like a twat to all that see it. The more you or others comments about suicide prevention charity, the more twatty you’ll look.

(Once someone has posted on your Facebook page, can they take the message off?)

That should read “the more twatty SHE’LL look” sorry

It was an unnecessary thing for her to say. Especially given the circumstances. I have no idea if she’s bitter or jealous but I do understand that you’re upset.

'You're absolutely right - charity does begin at home. I didn't intend for my post to be aimed at anyone in particular, so I'm sorry if you felt that way.'
This makes her sound like a complete twat, you have risen above it and apologised nicely. Job done. And she'll learn not to put snarky responses on your posts.

That’s horrid. Even if she has got “charity fatigue” she should have just not posted at all.

She has charity fatigue

She should have just stated silent if she didn't want to donate. I used to donate to anything my friends did but then when I had something I wanted to raise money for not one of them did the same. Now I donate to none of them. I have one charity I personally support and that's it. Anything else I just scroll by.