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Original poster

To take 1yo DS to the docs because I have a "bad feeling"?

118 replies

Hmmmmminteresting · 27/08/2019 20:39

I wish I knew why I have this awful gut feeling all the time that something is wrong with my 1 year old. I feel terrible even writing it - like I will make it come true.
Ds is 16 months and up till 4 months ago was a perfectly happy healthy boy.
Gradually he has changed and now hes like a different child. He cries all day every day. He has gradually stopped eating pretty much anything. Refuses most meals and snacks even things he loves (today he pushed away the handful of buttons I offered). He will drink cup after cup of water.
He was a fantastic sleeper, now he cries for over an hour at bedtime and then is up through the night sobbing.
He has constant high temperatures. Usually between 38-39.5 at least 3 times a week. We can bring it down with meds.
He has repeat chest infections and is now on daily medication to open up his airways (no history of anything in our families chest related and we dont smoke) and is under a paediatrician but isn't due back for 4 more months.
Developmentally he is switched on. He recently started to walk and will copy a lot of what we say.
I just miss my happy child. I feel like something is wrong but I have no idea what. I feel like if I go to the docs and say this they'll just laugh me out as this is just a grumpy baby.
What do I do! I'm at a loss. It's really getting to me now.
Just to add, I have a 3yo who is perfectly fit and healthy and have never had concerns about him.

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BrexitBingoGenerator · 27/08/2019 20:43

Could it be something to do with his teeth?

People have been to the doctor for worse reasons, I think it’s defo worth going. Maybe you should start making a journal to see if any patterns emerge with regard to eating or sleeping etc. You can show it to them at the appointment. Good luck op, I hope you have him back to his best self soon.

Sizeofalentil · 27/08/2019 20:43

If you're concerned go to a doctor. If nothing else, it'll put your mind at rest

HysteryMystery · 27/08/2019 20:43

YANBU. Our doctor would treat that as a "bring him in now" appointment.

XXcstatic · 27/08/2019 20:44

I am sure your GP will be able to talk through your concerns (I'm a GP). Try not to worry too much though - your DS is already under a paediatrician and it doesn't sound as if the paediatrician thinks that there is anything serious wrong. The long wait for the next appointment suggests the paediatrician thinks your DS is on the right treatment for his chest, and is giving it time to work Flowers

Boyo7 · 27/08/2019 20:46

The temperatures would ring alarm bells for me. I would take him asap, and not be fobbed off til you get to the bottom of it.

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Hmmmmminteresting · 27/08/2019 20:51

Thanks all for the responses. I appreciate it.

@BrexitBingoGenerator I spent the first 2 months convincing myself it was teeth related but it's allday every day. theres no let up so I'm just not sure now.

@XXcstatic thanks for the reassurance. The paediatrician apt was right back when the rest of these issues started. He was purely looking at his chest and diagnosed as "almost certainly asthma" so we are on the sachets and then he will review once hed been on them around 8 months. None of these other issues were an issue when we saw him. Annoyingly the sachets dont seem to be doing a great deal either, he still is getting infections and coughing a lot

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XXcstatic · 27/08/2019 20:52

not be fobbed off til you get to the bottom of it

She hasn't been fobbed off Hmm - she has been referred to a paediatrician.

XXcstatic · 27/08/2019 20:56

(Cross-post with update from OP). If you tell your GP about the new issues, OP, the GP can let the paediatrician know. It's also possible that the GP will be able to identify a cause of the newer symptoms, for example an ear infection - sometimes young children don't have obvious signs like clutching an ear. Urine infections are another possibility. If you take a urine sample to the appointment (you can use any clean container), the GP can dip-test it.

NB these are only examples - I am not trying to diagnose your DC - impossible over the internet Smile. I hope you find out what is wrong.

DotCottan · 27/08/2019 20:59

Would it be possible to ask to see the pediatrician sooner? Also, it could be teething related because I’ve had younger siblings as well as nieces and nephews who were feverish, with high temp and diarrhea etc not to mention weight loss just because of teething. Their docs mentioned that some babies just become unwell when teething and others are quite content with using teething toys and cold flannels and then they’re fine.

DotCottan · 27/08/2019 21:00

But it could be anything else and sometimes it’s good to go back to the GP because then they will know it’s an ongoing issue.

Herocomplex · 27/08/2019 21:02

He has numerous symptoms. I’m not sure why you think that’s a ‘bad feeling’. Your baby sounds really miserable and actually quite ill. I’d definitely go back and get a proper review. Best of luck.

HeadintheiClouds · 27/08/2019 21:03

Of course you need to go.

PapaShango · 27/08/2019 21:04

Op, did they put him on montelukast by any chance?

Mumpkind · 27/08/2019 21:04

This is reminiscent of the child of a friend who eventually turned out to have something stuck up their nose causing infections and general misery.

PapaShango · 27/08/2019 21:05

Also called Singulair

castlecutie · 27/08/2019 21:07

any bowel issues? the not eating etc. could be uncomfortable if he's struggling to go?

vintagesewingmachine · 27/08/2019 21:08

HCP here. A swinging pyrexia? Bring him tomorrow. If no GP appointment, your local Urgent Care/ Walk in Service may be able to help.

castlecutie · 27/08/2019 21:08

but definitely take him to the doctor and try see the paediatrician sooner

Falafel19 · 27/08/2019 21:08

Have you had his ears, adenoids and tonsils checked by an ENT consultant for any fluid, swelling, infection?

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Hmmmmminteresting · 27/08/2019 21:10

@PapaShango yes that's the one. Do you have any negative experience of this? I've often wondered if it could be the meds causing the problem because it all went downhill when he started on it!

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Iggly · 27/08/2019 21:12

I would keep a diary if you’re not already and refer to this when you go back to the GP. I would go back to be honest - it is possible to ask to see the paediatrician sooner?

My dd went through her first few years of constant low level infections and tonsillitis which she never quite fought off. It’s not until she got to about 7 that she’s had a run of 6 months of not being ill!

Original poster
Hmmmmminteresting · 27/08/2019 21:12

Nothing has ever been checked on him, no heat xray, no looking at ears or nose. No urine test. Will definitely attempt to get a urine sample out of him tomorrow morning and take him to the gp.

@vintagesewingmachine I'm off to Google your comment, will come back shortly.

Thank you everyone :-)

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Hmmmmminteresting · 27/08/2019 21:13

heat xray = chest xray

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youarenotkiddingme · 27/08/2019 21:16

Was also going to ask if he was given montelukast and if symptoms started around the same time.

I've only ever known 1 child who hasn't had severe side effects with it.

youarenotkiddingme · 27/08/2019 21:18

Also the fever and symptoms - have a look at period fever syndrome. It's quite rare but you can see if anything fits the pattern.