To take 1yo DS to the docs because I have a "bad feeling"?

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I wish I knew why I have this awful gut feeling all the time that something is wrong with my 1 year old. I feel terrible even writing it - like I will make it come true.
Ds is 16 months and up till 4 months ago was a perfectly happy healthy boy.
Gradually he has changed and now hes like a different child. He cries all day every day. He has gradually stopped eating pretty much anything. Refuses most meals and snacks even things he loves (today he pushed away the handful of buttons I offered). He will drink cup after cup of water.
He was a fantastic sleeper, now he cries for over an hour at bedtime and then is up through the night sobbing.
He has constant high temperatures. Usually between 38-39.5 at least 3 times a week. We can bring it down with meds.
He has repeat chest infections and is now on daily medication to open up his airways (no history of anything in our families chest related and we dont smoke) and is under a paediatrician but isn't due back for 4 more months.
Developmentally he is switched on. He recently started to walk and will copy a lot of what we say.
I just miss my happy child. I feel like something is wrong but I have no idea what. I feel like if I go to the docs and say this they'll just laugh me out as this is just a grumpy baby.
What do I do! I'm at a loss. It's really getting to me now.
Just to add, I have a 3yo who is perfectly fit and healthy and have never had concerns about him.

Op this sounds just like my daughter. She changed drastically, especially with regards to sleep at 13 months. A couple of months later and loads of puss came out of her ears. Turns out she had middle ear infections which built up pressure for so long that her ear drums perforated, the poor thing. She treated she started sleeping through again and was happier. The difficulty was that because it's an inner ear infection, you can't really see anything wrong until it burst.

With temps I would want a blood test done, has his counts been checked? Is he losing weight?

1FineDane Read the whole thread,for goodness' sake. Asthma is the least of OP's worries just now.

Glad you're being taken seriously OP. Top notch Mum action, trusting your instincts and getting him seen. Well done. and unmumsnetty hugs for you and your wee man.

Sorry just seen your other update, I’m glad you’ve been seen and had bloods. I’m sure they will discuss them with you. It’s possible to drink huge amounts and still be dehydrated. Hopefully they will get to the bottom of it xxxx

My daughter is asthmatic and on inhalers. She was given montelukast and it had made her have such terrible crying episodes, tempers, nightmares. We were baffled until I read about the people in America taking the drug company to court over their children developing psychotic symptoms and it all made sense. I spoke first with her asthma nurse and consultant and it was stopped. Within three days she was my happy child again and I would never let her have it again. She is treated with flixotide and Ventolin and an asthma plan which we follow. I wish they had explained about the effect on her mood and mental health before she took it but I do know some people can take it safely and without side effects but sadly that wasn't our experience.

I haven't read the whole thread - apologies. As soon as I read your DS was on Singulair I had to reply immediately.

We had a nasty experience with it, child's behaviour changed hugely, miserable all the time, prone to aggression and unbelievable tantrums. Horrendous nightmares, sweating and crying throughout the night.

It took me a few weeks to realise it was the medication and they were taken off it straight away and the symptoms disappeared.

My GP never discussed the possible side effects when prescribing it but I spoke to the pharmacist at length when my child came off it and he said the side effects were surprisingly common.

I would ask for an alternative medication, mine now has a brown preventer inhaler and it works very well.

@FlashAHHHHH when you do catch up with the thread you'll see your suspicions confirmed, and you're definitely not the only one. Makes you wonder why the side-effects aren't more clearly spelled put before prescription doesn't it.

OP I hope your sweet little guy responds well to the change in meds. Hopefully the high urea coupled with lots of water is his body's way of trying to flush out the medication (can you tell I'm not a doctor!) and settles down very soon. What an awful experience, my heart goes out to you.

@Hmmmmminteresting ignore the asthma crew, if they can't RTFT then don't bother with their posts.

Your GP sounds like she was really proactive. The hospital took everything on board.

Yes. Call them or your GP back if you're unsure. Perhaps on Monday.

Don't worry about the numbers. He's still the same little boy he was yesterday but without that medication now.

Breathe. Cuddles for him. 🍷 for you x

I rang the hospital... they lost his blood sample didn't even make it as far as the lab. We have to go back Monday for a third test! He is going to lose his mind, it's so bloody traumatic! I'm actually fuming

Ok so I'm not a doctor, and I'm probably putting 2+2 together and coming out with 82, but...

@havelockvetinari said the Urea thing could be a sign of heart problems.

A cough that gets worse at night is a sign of heart problems. It was the first sign of my dad's heart attack.

Thirst is a sign of heart problems, as is lethargy and low appetite.

Your baby had sepsis. Sepsis can cause organ problems.

I'm fairly sure there's a heart infection condition that can come on over a few months and cause a raised temperature. I can't remember what it's called though.

I'm not trying to scare you, but maybe flag it to your doctors if you think it's something worth exploring. Best of luck

YADDDNBU

!!! Fancy losing a babys blood sample! We all know how difficult it is to obtain

Poor thing. Hes in the right system now at least

Tarts as kindly as possible I’m suggesting you don’t make wild diagnosis like that. However well intentioned it’s just not helpful to tell people over the internet that you think their baby has heart problems.

Blood tests on little ones are awful. Another poster here taught me a hold which has served us well.

The nurse sits behind you and the baby sits on your knee at a right angle to you cuddled up to you (so if you’re facing 12 o clock, they’re facing 3 or 9). Their arm slips under your arm and you use your other hand to distract them with a toy, give them a bottle etc. It really helped one of my twins when he had to be cannulated and again for a recent blood test.

How did it go on Monday @Hmmmmminteresting?

I'm sorry I didn't see your update before. You can buy EMLA numbing cream over the counter at Superdrug if you know of any more GP blood tests in advance

@Hmmmmminteresting - how are thing's?

@Hmmmmminteresting how are you getting on? Hope little one is ok