Were adults such as teachers ever hateful to you when you were small?

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Just something on my mind today. It strikes me as bizarre when looking back, how contemptuous and cold certain adults were to me when I was a child. A couple of teachers, a sports coach, etc.

I was born to an unmarried mother in Ireland over thirty years ago and wonder if maybe part of it was because of that. My grandparents were well regarded in the community though.

One of the adults in my home life was a bit of a bully, which definitely affected my self-esteem, and I wonder if these other adults who were scornful of me maybe picked up on some vulnerability in me - combined with their ideas that I was 'illegitimate', maybe that was their justification because somebody like me didn't count? I don't know.

I'm not talking about anything extreme and I had lots of nice other teachers and neighbours too!

The whole thing though makes me think that was a mad way to behave - I couldn't imagine saying nasty things to a child, or going out of my way make them feel small, or ignoring a distressed child.

Was childhood just a bit tougher back then for everyone? Did people not think much of how their words or actions could impact on small kids?

My year 5 teacher (age 9) was an absolute bitch, picked on me relentlessly, humiliated me when I didn't have my PE kit (my mum was neglectful).
A year 6 teacher covering our lesson humiliated me when I scratched my head (psoriasis) and stood me up in front of the class to check for nits.
In year 7 my French teacher bullied me and excluded me when I wouldn't answer her when she called me the wrong name- how was I to know she meant me? The head of year backed her up.
Head of year excluded me for minor things but when I went to her as I'd been beaten up by a popular kid they got no consequences.
The PE teachers were awful to anyone not into sport. I was humiliated for not being able to do a push up.
My head teacher bullied and threatened me regarding homework when they thought my parents were away so I had no back up.

Every single teacher I had failed me and my brothers for not reporting my mum to social services.

PE teachers, some worse than others. I was tall and not sporty at all. How does shouting, bullying and generally humiliating kids ever work? I never understood that. The male ones were the worst.

There were others but the PE teachers really stand out for me, they really ruined school for a lot of kids.

PE teachers (female) at my all-girls secondary were complete bitches
I loved gymnastics and dance - and was reasonable at both. I got to pre-elementary level at ballet when I stopped and could do some good gymnastics moves. But I was never allowed to be in any productions and constantly sneered at for showing any enthusiasm. It wasn’t just me-they only liked the sporty girls-even tho most of those girls could not dance they would be allowed to enter. The rest of us, even if we made an effort were treated with contempt. I still feel bitter about it 30 years later.
I still do gymnastics and dance but their behaviour really affected my confidence for years and I thought I was crap. It’s only now that I’ve taken stock and thought “there aren’t many 40-somethings doing gymnastics” that I feel a bit vindicated.

My maths teacher, threw me out of lesson for laughing very quietly at someone else's joke. If I was a brat I could understand but I wasnt very popular, very quiet, always did my work and was no trouble maker. No idea why she disliked me so much (it was more of any opportunity to humiliate me she jumped on) shouted at me in class that I was a failure and would definitely fail my GCSE and what a joke I was. I started bunking off maths lessons and my mum was called in. She started lying to my mum about things I'd supposedly done and again repeating what a failure I was. My mum laughed in her face, put her right in her place, and took me home afterwards (she was bloody amazing and an ex teacher herself). I skipped majority of maths after that, taught myself what I needed to know and was just a few marks off an A. Its bizarre how some people can be so bitter and twisted.

The first form tutor at senior school should have been sacked for the way she treated pupils. She shouted & screamed at us every day, put us in detention for no reason, terrified the life out of us & never understood that we were already terrified because we were the smallest & youngest in a school that had over 2000 pupils. The PE teacher that belittled me because I couldnt run & made me do extra laps because I came last, she didn't care that I had been born with dislocated hips & struggled to walk.

Margaret Jemmett - music teacher - yelled and screamed in my face many, many times while slamming her fists onto the table. "YOU DON'T LISTEN!" Hated me but liked everyone else in the class. Memories of her still haunt me today.

I went to Roman Catholic schools and experienced and witnessed the most awful treatment and bullying of pupils by teachers.

I remember in primary after my dad got done for dealing and it in the papers, my teacher wouldn't let me go on trips (he was in prison at this point so surely rosk was gone). I qasnt allowed to be house captain of the school quiz. Cant remember wgat else but she made me cry regularly out of humiliation in class.

My flute teacher was awful to me! The head music teacher after seeing me crying coming out of her lesson once asked me why I still bothered going!! Looking back he should really have been tackling the teacher!

It wasn't like I was bad at it either, I won several competitions and did very well in exams. After I had won rather than saying well done, the flute teacher was very scathing and said she didn't think I should have won!

This is outing but who cares it is true.
We had a PE teacher in secondary school, he always stood at an angle in tight clothing to emphasise the size of his dick, he was very aggressive to the boys a perv with the girls.
He had a thing for pretty blonde girls, one in particular, he eventually married her they have 2 children, she wasn't his first ex student sexual relationship.
Yes Mr B I am talking about you.

Mr K - maths teacher
Mr R - maths teacher
Mrs C - PE teacher
Mrs M - PE teacher
Mr N - head of 6th form.
Miss L - student English teacher

They were all at Catholic schools. If you were one of their favourites you'd be fine, but if not, even if a good polite kid, they would pick on you and humiliate you.

Yes, when I was 10-13 we had a class teacher who seemed to hate children, particularly me and a few others. For example, he would make fun of my father's profession. My dad (now retired) was a youth worker, but my teacher always pretended to think he was a nursery nurse, which he found hilarious, saying things like "your dad just plays with children all day, doesn't he?". I think he had a massive chip on his shoulder for some reason. We also had a PE teacher who told us really inappropriate dirty jokes.

My year 2 primary teacher. For some reason she hated me intensely and made it clear. She was a bit of a stroppy bitch in general and had little patience with the kids.

Every time I spoke she would sneer or shout at me. A simple question would be met with yelling, telling off or she may even completely ignore me. I decided not to speak unless it was absolutely necessary in her class. She once made me read on from do the class and when I couldn’t read something she snatched it off me, yelled at me and sent me to sit back down. I was so humiliated but even as a child remember thinking ‘if I can’t read well surely that’s partly your fault’. She used to keep me back at break for no reason, made fun of me if I cried and on one occasion pretended she wasn’t going to let me go home. I was fully convinced that this meant I had to sleep on the class all night bad was terrified. She kept me back for 10 mins then let me go, she was just trying to scare me. My grandmother was waiting outside of the school gates for me and wouldn’t believe me when I said the teacher told me I couldn’t go home and I got in trouble again! I wasn’t a naughty kid, in fact I wouldn’t say boo to a goose, especially in her class. What makes in worse is that at the beginning of that school, I had lots my beloved grandfather. I lived with him and she would have known this as it was a small village school. You would have thought she would have cut me some slack!

I remember having crippling stomach pain during that year, they sometimes kept me off school or got me sent ho @SailorJakeme. Looking back, I think it was anxiety.

I had the most awful form teacher when I was 10. Everyone was terrified of her, including me. She would shout, act irrationally, so you never knew what was the correct thing to do, and she just loved belittling pupils and frightening them. Her name was Miss Gatter, and she must be long dead, but I would have loved to have met her again and told her what I thought of her teaching style. The fear I felt every school day as a child was horrific.

Yes. Early to mid 1980s.

My primary school teachers were snippy and catty.

In middle school, I remember our science teacher picking up a boy and slamming him against the wall.

In middle school, there was lots of mocking of children's work.

In high school, the teachers seemed more respectful and managed to be reasonably pleasant.

I've been shocked by a few stories my ds1 is telling me now about the teachers at his prep school.......three years after he's left.

One teacher used to make us slap ourselves round the face for crimes such as talking in class.

He later became the town mayor and there's a (very, very short) road named after him. I feel disgusted every time I see the road sign.

Debbie Woodp....primary school teacher in the 1980's....another evil cow who favoured the pretty blonde girls with parents with professional careers....I am dark skinned and my parents were factory workers...
I can remember this vile bitch asking the class to put their hands up if they liked me....
Years later me and my sister found her home number in the phone book and prank called her.

Wood not Woodp lol

We also had a Mr B who wasn't a PE teacher but was always the pointman involved in selecting pupils for extra curricular stuff, usually fun stuff representing the school.

Always girls
Always blonde
Always middle class parents

This preference was SO fucking noticeable during my final school event, Prizegiving/Leavers that it frankly amazes me that his colleagues never thought to have it quietly addressed as a concern

80s and 90s. My yr2 teacher was absolutely evil to me - things like making me stand on the desk for the rest of the day for asking for help with maths. Looking back on it, I suspect she was racist as well as a nasty cold bitch. No one ever dealt with her.

Then at senior school there were 2 teachers who outright bullied me - constantly gathering me (and only me) into classrooms on my own and tag teaming each other telling me how awful I was. They got worse and worse, I think with hindsight because they couldn't "break" me. Eventually they sent me to the headmistress, who was absolutely horrified when I told her what had been going on, and sorted them out properly.

I had an awful relief teacher. She really hated children. Her favourite punishment was to make you stand on a chair with your arm up in the air. I had malaria and my knees were uncontrollably knocking the table. She went mad at my not sitting still and made me stand on the chair. I passed out and fell off the chair, had to be sent home. Always hated that woman.

Yes. I started boarding school last year juniors ( equivalent to y6) back in 1984. There were two housemistresses, miss s and miss m. Think the sisters in James and the giant peach. That's a very exaggerated version of what they looked like physically. Miss s was there 90% if the time and she was a nasty bitch. Her reactions to the tiniest incident were cruel and clearly meant to cause distress to children who were vunerable and unable to leave the situation. Her actions were both physical ( hair pulling etc) and mental ( not allowing me to go home one weekend when I coughed a bit because I was 'diseased') Cracked out the smiles when parents appeared. Called us dirty, stupid, unlovable and so on. Miss m was nice to us on the surface but would throw vindictive comments and random moments. Omg the relief when I started senior school. Our beloved housemistress was so lovely. I hope those other two died a painful and lonely death.

It is crazy, these attitudes simply would not be tolerated now.

You would think, but my DD had the same experience as this but only a few years ago.

Yes they were my reception teacher was a right wicked cow, and I don’t mean in a disceplinerian way. I mean she was just a nasty bitch. I was terrified of her. I was school phobic for years.

Terrible stories here, and I don't know why people are being so reticent about naming and shaming. My tormentor, Miss Hilda Maud Kitchen Wynne, is long dead, but should never have been allowed access to children. She was sadistic and ignorant. Thank goodness teachers can no longer use corporal punishment. As head teacher of a small prep school she took full advantage of being allowed to beat children with a cane in the 1950s and 1960s. In particular I remember one boy being called into her room throughout the course of an entire day for repeated beatings (this was punishment for swearing) and another being caned on the bottom for being seen in his uniform in a graveyard - he had been looking for his grandfather's grave. Her cane slipped and caught his bare leg, at which he jumped and went "Ow!" and she went "yes, OW, ow , ow" repeatedly caning his legs for what seemed like ages.
Rot in hell, you vile bitch.

Not so much hatred, so a bit off topic, but the Art teacher in his late 50s who pinched and slapped my butt as he walked by, when I was 15 years old and wearing an above knee length skirt.