To feel hurt by smug boyfriend comments?

[OrlaithLaw]

Last break up I was cheated on and left, around the same time best friend got with her new boyfriend.

It’s been 6/7 months now and I just get comments all the time of -

• All his friends are saying he’s whipped
• All his friends are saying they’ve never seen him this way before
• His sister introduced me as the future SIL.
• He said that his friends are OUR friends
• Constantly showing me and telling me about the bruises from their amazing sex life

I want to feel happy for her ... but it’s hard when it’s being shoved in my face.

Aibu and a horrible friend to feel like this?

I’m on OP’s side with this. It can be difficult to get over a break up. It depends on how intense the relationship was, and for some relationships, six months is not enough time.

OP is trying to be happy for her friend, but her friend is over-sharing. Her friend sounds smug, insensitive, and (I hesitate to say it, but maybe) intentionally cruel.

how horrible it is to be single
A KIND friend would NOT say this to someone 6 months after a painful break up.

I have friends who I know want to be married. They’re not devastated to be single but I know they don’t prefer it. When we spend time together I hardly ever mention my husband or kids - there are plenty of other things to talk about! It’s called being sensitive and kind.

OP, you’re not in the wrong for feeling this way. If your friend hurts you with what she says, then don’t spend time with her until you feel strong enough to deal with it. Spend some time doing other things and work on getting your confidence back.

'Whipped' is vile.

It's short for 'pussy whipped', which is such a lovely colloquialism for 'under the thumb'.

Thanks SuperSara. I looked it up in the Urban Dictionary and the 'top definition' is:

whipped
To be totally controlled and dominated by your girlfriend to the point of being completely distracted, ditching your friends, and/ or doing anything and everything she says.

NOTE: there is a difference between sincerely loving your girlfriend and being whipped. Being whipped involves doing everything she says. Sincerely loving her means you may do nice things for her, but you at least know where to draw the line.
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Hmmmmmmm.

I feel a bit for the op and hope something good happens to pick up her spirits.

I think YAB a bit U. Does she talk about other stuff or just him? If the latter, that does sound dull.

Unlike other posters the bruises don’t bother me. DH and I are all vanilla now but when we met we often made each other purple in places!

Unlike other posters the bruises don’t bother me. DH and I are all vanilla now but when we met we often made each other purple in places!

Why share this? No one cares

No one cares. Yawn.

People can be insensitive when they are in throes of a new relationship and 6/7 months is still fairly new ,I remember years ago going on holiday with a friend who had been seeing her new boyfriend a couple of months and every time she phoned him she would be telling me how much he loved adored her etc ,I had just been dumped a couple of weeks before so.it stung a bit ,years later having been happily married for 14 years I can look back and laugh but it was very insensitive ( if not intentionally) on her part.