Is my dh a skinflint or aibu ? ( lighthearted)

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Off out to a bbq later , told just to bring whatever alcohol consuming, food will be provided.
Dh drives me mad as only ever wants to bring a couple of beers , and will probably end up drink 3 times what he brings as it will go on to the evening. I said you should bring enough to drink I said it's unreasonable to bring a couple of beers and drink the hosts . My dh thinks differently and said host should provide who's right ?
Dh has got all arsey with me now for calling him stingy.
For what it's worth dh would be annoyed if someone arrived to our bbq with no or hardly any drink and proceed to spend the evening drinking our alcohol. I'd hate to think that others would call us skinflints.

Your DH is BU.
Definitely tight.

Tightarse!

You always bring at least what you’re going to drink plus bottle of something/something for the bbq for the hosts.

Check his wallet for moths and cobwebs.

HIBVU. Host has said to bring whatever you want to drink.

If your husband doesn't like that, he should decline the invitation.

Tight especially if he knows he’s going to drink more than that.

He would actually show up with 2 cans of beer?

I’ve cringed myself inside out.

TIGHT. The absolute worst trait I think.

Your husband is a skinflint. You should bring what you are going to drink plus a bottle for the hosts if they are providing your food.

That's definitely being tight I'm afraid.

Always always bring more than what you drink.

Yes he is.
Is he like that with money ?

I'm a beer drinker. My rule is i bring what i would drink plus 50% so would take 8 to 12 cans to a bbq. I would also take a bottle of wine as a gift for the host.

He could at least bring a pack of beer.

I'd bring at least what me and the kids were drinking, bottle of something for the hosts and a contribution to the food pudding etc. I think hes tight.

Yes, that's beyond tight. It's so rude.

If he takes 2 beers he only drinks 2 beers.

Host said BYOB.

Him taking 2 and drinking other people's or the hosts is the epitome of CF.

I'm embarrassed for you.

Thank you , I knew I was right it's just that he got all arsey with me .
Oh he will bring way more than 2 bottles ( he's not embarrassing me ) and I'll bring wine of course.
He's not normally so skinflint I think he does thing that the hosts should provide .

Think this is going to be a unanimous AIBU!

Always take more than you will drink plus extra for hosts providing food

He is being tight as a knat's chuff and VVU

You take at least twice as much as you plan to drink.

Tight and fucking rude. 'Host should provide' should stay at home for BYOBs then, that's the whole point, you bring your own shit.

Not just a tight arse, but an entitled fucker as well, expecting other people to find his drinking FFS.

He should decline the invitation if he doesn’t agree to the terms.

Is he a regular host himself ? What are the rules then ? Or is a professional guest and this is where the host based ideology has it’s skinflint origins ?

Show him the thread, he is definitely being a tight arse !

Only bring a couple of beers indeed !

Sponging off your mates deliberately by guzzling their booze is bloody poor behaviour :(

he should take what he is drinking plus a couple more and leave it there if he doesn't finish it

Actually it is considered rude to bring alcohol to drink at a hosts dinner party. Unless they've asked you to it assumes your hosts can't afford to host their own party properly. They should have matched wine to the food they are serving. You should take a bottle as a gift.

However, that is now considered a bit old fashioned and I would always check with hosts these days and a casual bbq is a slightly different beast.

But just wanted to make the point that it isn't always 'tight'. if your DH wouldn't want that scenario if he's hosting then it's not the norm in your social group and he should take what he wants to drink.

A mean man is a dreadful creation.

He's a total tightarse.
Yuk.

it is considered rude to bring alcohol to drink at a hosts dinner party. Unless they've asked

They have asked though, it’s the very first sentence of the OP.

“told just to bring whatever alcohol consuming”

Aside from that, your rule is not universal tbh.