To wonder why DH shows me these photos?

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DH has started going for long walks.

He is gone for about four hours twice a week. He shows me photos he has taken while he's walking up hills in the countryside.

I have to pretend to be interested.

AIBU to tell him I don't want to see another thirty pictures of scenery?

hazandduck oh god, my FIL is the same. Recently discovered YouTube and thinks no one else has seen it. We go to visit and he explains to me how it works, then proceeds to show me a load of boring shit that was doing the rounds 15 years ago.

My mum is currently doing the same with memes on Pinterest.

DH travels the country for work and likes to visit the nearest Football Stadium of each place. He WhatsApp's me photographs of them accompanied by a fact.
I have to think of something nice to reply, he gets miffed if I over use the thumbs up emoji.

I dont want to put a spanner in the works here. But are you sure hes walking ?.
8hrs a week seems kind of weird to me.
And is he doing this alone ?.
Has he invited you to go along with him?.
Sorry if I sound a pessimist but life`s lessons teach you not to take everything literally.

But he's thinking about you! That's a good thing no?

Take lengthy videos of your choir practice, OP. Every time he gets out his photos, insist on showing him your choir sessions. Comment on every bar, and how poor old Cynthia is struggling with her top notes, and you don’t like the new alto, and what does DH think of the conductor’s haircut...
He’ll get the message.

My DH just have an in depth summery it the skills of the different characters on his xbox game.
It was actually hard to pretend to care.
But he pretneds listens to me telling him about the new shocking/appaling/funny MN posts I'm reading. So its give and take. 😁

I should have proof read that post but hopefully you'll get the gist.

Next time he does it, let your eyes go into soft focus just to the left (or right) of the phone, then drift off to your happy place for the duration. You can practice a 5 minute relaxation technique in your head while he drones on. (I have perfected this during endless minecraft 'tutorials'). At the end of the allotted time, they are happy that they've had a chance to whitter on and you are lovely and relaxed.

Look at his photos. Go for a walk with him,just the once if that's all you can bear, but you never know, you might both enjoy it. Just be kind, that's all.

OP my dh does this too but he takes it one further and sits on the computer for ages and " changes them" so I have to sit through 4-10 of the same photo " slightly different" the ONLY difference I can see is black and white v colour and when he blurs the background.. He genuinely gets hurt If I explain I am not interested. So I sit through about half then make an excuse and go off.

He would go nuts if I expected him to pay attention to one of my knitting/crochet patterns.. I see it in a similar vein I expect him to show interest in the final product hence I sit through some..

DH used to keep talking to me about pro tennis. He knew it bored pants off me but he told me lots of details anyway. If that is worst I can say about my marriage, I'm a very lucky girl!

Presumably this was meant to be lighthearted? I’m sure it is, but I always remember reading about ‘bids’ for attention in relationships. I think it was Gottman...Not just married couples, but parent/child etc.

It’s not the depth of intimacy in conversations that matters. Maybe it doesn’t even matter whether couples agree or disagree. The important thing is how these people pay attention to each other, no matter what they’re talking about or doing.

I think he might be having an affair and is overdoing it to prove he was on a long walk.

"It’s not the depth of intimacy in conversations that matters. Maybe it doesn’t even matter whether couples agree or disagree. The important thing is how these people pay attention to each other, no matter what they’re talking about or doing."

Yes I like that.

What I wanted to add there is that I find the kind of eye rolling, dismissive, "he's such a bore" chat that women so often participate it when talking about their husband really sad. And also dull.

I married my husband because I love him and I'm generally interested in what he's saying. I'd find it really sad if he acted like "oh she's talking about baking again, here we go."

NB I never talk about baking, just insert your own preferred hobby.

Just wondering what on earth Lora8 could have written that was deleted.

Beginning to wish I'd remembered to write Light-Hearted at the beginning of this thread

I think he might be having an affair and is overdoing it to prove he was on a long walk

He wouldn't wear his crappiest old clothes and neglect to shave if this were the case.

Anyway he always asks me if I want to come with him - and sometimes I do.

But I do think that walking is an overrated pastime.

Finally went for a walk with him.

It was terribly boring.

But he enjoyed it. And for once he didn't take any photos.

Result.

Next time he goes for his walk and you don't feel like going, make sure you take lots of photos of uninteresting things around the house. Then you can do a photo swap exercise.

Oh dear you might be expected to do this activity on a regular basis now

I would set him a little project a different animal each week and that is what he should take photos of

Moles and hedgehogs can be regularly added to the list as highly unlikely to see them or get chance to snap a picture of them

@EnthusiasmIsDisturbed

That is an excellent idea.

I could also ask him to take photos of various midges while on his travels.