To wonder why DH shows me these photos?

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DH has started going for long walks.

He is gone for about four hours twice a week. He shows me photos he has taken while he's walking up hills in the countryside.

I have to pretend to be interested.

AIBU to tell him I don't want to see another thirty pictures of scenery?

Can you tell him to get an Instagram account? I love walks and taking photos, dh will look at a couple half heartedly then wants to move on. I have great fun playing with filters and editing/cropping photos and posting them on Instagram with the hashtags.

I really wish I'd set up the YABU/YANBU option on this thread.

I don't think he knows what Instagram is and neither do I so that bird won't fly.

Get him to set up an Instagram account. Randomly "like" his pictures and "comment" on each prime numbered one with "print this" etc. You can do this whilst on the toilet, in the bath and so on.

Yes!! Excellent idea.

You see, I am enjoying just sitting at home messing about on MN and eating so it's still a win-win situation.

I don't think my marriage is in trouble over this.

I think this is a bit harsh. I regularly spend about 10 minutes talking about stuff my DH probably tunes out for, as do I when he talks about certain topics. But you be polite and never tell them. I think it is nice that he like sharing what he has seen with you.

Do you do anything together? If not maybe he is trying to include you in his hobby?

I was wondering if anyone would tell me there's another woman...

I like Slight"s suggestion...that could work for DH cycling hobby

My husband does this. I used to do photography as a hobby so I’ve been to a lot of exhibitions, know all the mechanics of it etc and enjoy looking at and discussing photography. Even I struggle to sit through DHs iPhone photos.

He is trying to share the pleasure he got.from the walk with you. Would a shorter , slower walk be something you could.share occasionally. A 4 hour walk would.be my idea.of hell too but an hour or so, not too fast or strenuous ( more an amble really,) might.mean you find yourselves talking and connecting.

Try it once OP, you might surprise yourself

Maybe ask him to collate them and show you once a month, you only have to feign interest once then!

LTB

Also - I think it's sweet that he wants to include you, you read all the time about DHs that piss off doing a hobby without any thought for the DW, he clearly isn't one of those!

My husband used to talk to me about car engines which didn't interest me one bit. Now he has died I would give anything to have him here telling me about cam shafts.

It's a fact that people with hobbies often don't understand why others aren't interested.

Just try and keep the conversations shortographs, smile at the phot and be nice. I'm sure you are actually, you're just telling us how you feel.

Here's something for you which probably wouldn't be found growing wild .

YANBU

My sister used to go to Kenya on safari every year and she couldn't understand why I didn't want to sit through hours and hours of video footage each time.

Say in the post office queue caller voice 'interested face number 287'

My DH is into in all sorts of blokey stuff, I tell him I'm not interested but he still chats away regardless. I just put the subtitles on the TV and zone out. He doesn't mind, he just laughs.

You're lucky he doesn't show you where he's been on a map with a pointy stick. Don't we all show people pictures of where we've been?

my DH does this but about every single dog he’s met on his walks with our ddogs.

He goes so in-depth and expects me to keep up, e.g.

Him: gah I just really hope he’s ok today
Me: who??
Him: Monty?
Me: ?
Him: the cocker spaniel from no.6, he’s having his first trim. I told you about it weeks ago.
Me: oh.

At least you can make the same comments on repeat.

That's a good one
What lovely countryside
Ooh nice

When people tell me boring endless stories I have learnt to say 'never! Omg but how did it end?!' to speed them to the end of their boring monologue but seem interested.

There must be a gentle, humorous way you can communicate your lack of interest. Maybe a good-natured chuckle and "honestly DH, I think you had to be there!" or "tell you what, pick your favourite five to show me". It's a bit mystifying that he thinks endless rural iPhone photographs would be interesting to anyone

What lovely countryside

Buy him a landscape photography workshop course for christmas/birthday.

• he'll share fewer photos because he'll be more self-critical.
• he'll be taking better photographs.

YANBU. My DH likes to talk me through every game of golf he plays, hole by hole. I feign interest but it is very boring. He also often talks me through his car journey home from work and all the drivers that annoyed him. I have been guilty of similar though - I was showing my mum (quite a few) photos of my dog frolicking in the bluebells. She looked at about 6 with ever declining interest and eventually said "I've seen your bloody dog!"

This is my husband and I but the other way round. He calls me Bill Oddie. Suggest to your DH to download the iNaturalist app. He can log all his wildlife and nature findings on it and make identifications and comment on other people's posts.

I have found since using this I don't bore my husband to tears (quite so much) as I feel I have somewhere to share my excitement.