To wonder why DH shows me these photos?

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DH has started going for long walks.

He is gone for about four hours twice a week. He shows me photos he has taken while he's walking up hills in the countryside.

I have to pretend to be interested.

AIBU to tell him I don't want to see another thirty pictures of scenery?

@covetingthepreciousthings might be 👀

Not sure he does the prime number diligence though.

I’d feel the same op but I’d nod and give the ohhh and ahhhh where necessary.

It’s up to you if you want to go for a walk, if it’s your thing or not - it’s not really my thing if I’m being honest. Don’t tell him you don’t give a monkeys you’ll make him feel daft lol

My DH went on a lifestyle change over 4 years ago and shifted a stone. He looks great.

Almost every day I have to listen to him tell me about what he's eaten that day. He's still going strong years on. It's so so dull.

Well the fact he's no longer sharing IS now worrying OP. He no longer needs a cover story so doesn't need to recycle his photos etc. Maybe he's interested in bushes still though😅🤔😅

I may follow him covertly when he goes for his next walk.

Who knows what I could discover?

My husband inexplicably shows me photos of middle aged men in suits in the specialist journals that cover his field, and says things like: "That's Colin Randomman, he gave a talk on [stuff] at the ABC Conference I went to 3 years ago. Remember?" Er, no. And why? And WTF? Colin Randommman and the rest of them aren't famous or anything. I used to work in a field covered by a journal that was published once a fortnight. I always read it, I almost always had met or knew at least one person appearing in it, but I'd never have inflicted it on DH, and had I, I just know his boredom would have known no bounds.
I do make the faintest noises of interest so as not to hurt his feelings, but he is a really intelligent man with a keen eye for the ridiculous, and yet in this one respect, he is quite Partridge-esque.

I have got a disguise figured out for my covert operation.

When he announces that he's "going for a walk" I shall be ready.

My country needs me.

If you go with him maybe you’ll find his OW. Or a bush.

Either way, after all the stress I think you need a spa day.

Either way, after all the stress I think you need a spa day

Indeed.

I would have been a good candidate for SOE during the war, I think.

Oh op I’m the same. I have a through hiker fiancé and he talks about tents and bags for hours on end. I’ve been for one walk with him once and he proposed to me, he must have been so bloody shocked I was up a hill 😂

But equally I tell him things like my best friends’ sisters’ partners’ brothers’ girlfriends’ dog is pregnant and he pretends to care so it’s pretty even for us.

My DP has taken to including me when watching YouTube videos, about fishing. 14 minute YouTube videos about fishing, all different kinds of fishing, sea fishing, spear fishing, river fishing. I can't dampen his enthusiasm and have to pretend to watch in amazement.

Count yourself bloody lucky

Oh Op you think that’s bad, my FIL has just discovered YouTube on his iPad, so whenever we go round he has to show me old Spike Milligan sketches or Monty Python skits that I’ve seen a million times and watches my face very closely to make sure I’m watching and going to laugh in the right places, then he repeats what I’ve just seen to make sure I got it. 🙈 It is painful.

Enjoy your espionage 🕵️‍♀️

Men are well known for their obsessions. If it is not another woman it’s probably OK.

My DH is obsessed with vehicles, roads and logistics. He talks of nothing else and, while I love him dearly, it is a bit tedious. The other day he introduced vehicle based anecdotes into every mealtime, on our walk and at other random times. He spoke of nothing else all day.

However, it is better than when he used to rant continually about politics which I had to ban because he was so abusively angry we were nearly in divorce territory.

So if your DH has not got not another woman, and is not angry and abusive, I think OP, a few photographs are worth it for a harmonious marriage. At least you are not having your entire bandwidth taken up by having to listen attentively in order to respond.

Men do like their hobbies and do like to share them...I think it's cute. Lol at MN reaction...OW involved! Bless!

Take 40 photos at your next choir practice and see how he likes that.

Have you considered a free half hour with a solicitor?

"Sweetheart, why don't you pick out your top five. I have a hard time concentrating on so many lovely photos, I lose focus."

The bushes are all places he and the OW (or man, I’m woke) have DTD. LTB.

He's sharing his hobby/interest with you.

You're married to him.

You don't have to be thrilled but at least support him by taking an interest.

I think part of being married is that you feign interest in these sorts of things.