About these visitors?

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Just had some friends to stay. I genuinely don't know if I am.expecting too much as I have never had non family staying for longer than one night before.

So if you went to a friend's house, in a touristy area, for 2 nights and had 2 dinners with drinks before dinner and wine with, 2 breakfasts(croissants, muesli, fruit etc) and one lunch what would you take for the hosts, or maybe buy when you were out and about to say thank you?

They sound very cheeky.

What happened to the white wine?

It's still in the fridge!

Yes, it was a mini break at our expense. That's why I'm a bit pissed off I think!

Of course you do but I'm struggling to think of a pudding that goes with du Pape.

May I be the first to suggest Rachel/Friends trifle?

"A layer of ladyfingers, a layer of jam, custard (made from scratch), raspberries, more ladyfingers, then beef sautéed with peas and onions, a little more custard, sliced banana and whipped cream"

I did have visions of them taking the wine away again, using at their next takingtheutterpiss-cation

Sounds like wine they've been given and decided to regift it to you.

Even stopping with family I would have taken flowers at the very least.

Jerboas I said that I wasn't bothered about the cost of the wine. It was that they didn't want to drink it and said they would rather have our nice stuff.

They brought cheap wine that they don't like?

CFs!

^this.
What horrible people inviting themselves, bringing crap wine, eating all your food drinking your booze and not contributing to a damm thing. Never again op.

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Of course you do but I'm struggling to think of a pudding that goes with du Pape.
May I be the first to suggest Rachel/Friends trifle?
"A layer of ladyfingers, a layer of jam, custard (made from scratch), raspberries, more ladyfingers, then beef sautéed with peas and onions, a little more custard, sliced banana and whipped cream"

Well that's me told. That sounds, err boak lovely. I shall try that on Sunday

It may be an acquired taste silverysurfer

I don't think it's snobbish. If you were serving salmon and had chosen a Pinot Grigio to accompany it, your guest, not knowing the menu may have brought Chateau neuf du Pape which would go better with eg a steak.

White with fish, bog standard, red with meat. Surely everyone’s seen that particular bond film?! 😂 Châteauneuf du Pape, only for special occasions cos I honestly only know one person who is likely to bring that or an equivalent (and I introduced that one to him, he was all snobby about it because it was from Morrison’s and had Morrison’s on the label. He soon learned)

I’d take nice chocolates, at least 2 bottles of decent wine per night. I took cat treats for a mate’s cats too.

And dark chocolate/cream based pudding with Châteauneuf.

Perhaps they invited themselves to stay with you because they couldn’t afford a holiday any other way? I recall a thread here a few months ago where a poster had been invited to stay with a friend and was asked by the friend to contribute to the cost of feeding the poster and her family (which she couldn’t afford) and everyone seemed to think it was CFery for the host to ask/expect something.

I'm more of an eatin' is cheatin' drinker. But 4 bottles between the 2 guests in one evening - is that really about about complimenting the food taste or more likely just getting on it like a car bonnet?

You don't just tell someone you are not even.good friends with that you coming to.stay with them for a free holiday!
You don't expect them to wine and dine you for free for 2 days either!

It's just good manners you ask first then contribute in some way or stay at home. Nobody is entitled to a holiday at someone else's expense.

They sound like CFs. What happens when you stay at theirs? I would invite myself over soon and have a mini break at their expense. And then never have them to stay again.

Taken champagne and chocs and would have taken entire responsibility for one meal either paying for it in a restaurant or buying it in and cooking it

I go visit my friends in a touristy place every year for 2 nights (it's always to visit them though, not as somewhere to crash whilst visiting the touristy place, as evidenced when I used to visit when they lived in the sticks!). I always text them a few days before to say "to avoid awkwardness, tell me what to bring. I'll stop in a supermarket on my way". The response is always "I've got food sorted, I drink this and she drinks that" so I make sure I bring enough drink to cover what they will have over those two evenings plus a bit more. I'll then buy lunch for us if we go out, or ice creams and treats for us all and the kids.

It's the problem of living somewhere "nice". You need to decide on a firm policy and stick to it. Otherwise these won't be the only CF's who suddenly become closer friends so they can stay.

Some people are selfish. I went to stay with a friend, I carried 1L of gin (duty free), on the first night she announced she had no shopping in, said she'd order takeaway, then instead went to sleep.

When she came to stay with me recently, I of course ensured there was food in. She...brought with her a Diet Coke. Which she sat and drank herself

She of course had no problem also drinking the alcohol that I had

We had friends stay last week and they arrived with wine that we wouldn't normally be able to afford, along with fruit and a few other bits and pieces. They offered to take us out for dinner too. I think this is what good guests do (even if we ended up eating at home).

I don’t expect people to bring anything when they stay with us. They’re our friends, we’re please to have them.

I expect to pay to host visitors, and when I visit them back, they pay. Flowers/chocs taken as a token gift.

Very rude and grasping. Next time they want to stay you’re far too busy. Shame.
When you speak to them next thank them effusively for the wine they bought and tell them it was an excellent toilet cleaner.

I’d bring a bottle of wine😅 But I expect guests to just bring themselves. If we eat out we usually split the bill. If at home I provide everything, breakfast, nice lunch, 3 course dinner and all drinks. They are guests!