Child-free friend excluded from new WhatsApp group 'for her own good'

[Eastie77]

I am in a Whatsapp group with a group of friends, one of whom has just given birth. There is one friend in the group, 'Jill', who does not have children. Everyone else has at least one.

Today another one of my friends created a new Whatsapp group and has invited everyone except for Jill. She has posted an intro message stating that she thinks it's a good idea to have this seperate group for any child related discusions because she is conscious that at times the other one becomes overloaded with baby/child conversations which must be annoying for Jill. The recent chat about the new baby was apparently prime example as everyone (understandbly) talked about it 'for several days'. She added that with school starting up again soon she remembered last year everyone posted pictures of their kids first day etc and so please can we avoid doing that in the main chat and keep it to the child chat group.

I do not know if Jill is childfree by choice or not. I am almost certain that she would be hurt if she discovered we were sharing all our children's pictures, updates etc in another group and completely excluding her so I exited the group. Before do so I asked my friend if
Jill had said anything to her about feeling upset/sidelined by the child related chat and she said no but I should put myself in Jill's shoes and imagine how she feels when there is an endless conversation about the merits of Calpol or formula.

I'm fine not to put up pictures of my DC's first day at school but I'm not planning to avoid mentioning them at all in the main chat. I'm not rejoining the new group. Is this really unreasonable?

[Vesperia]

I am child free & would be grateful not to be included in the general irrelevant chatter however I would be hurt if it was in secret

[Eastie77]

Arya I don't know if the other mums are still in the new group. I left soon after I was added and they will have seen that I have exited so can always ask me why. The others may be conducting 'child related' chat in the new group but the main group is carrying on as usual as far as I can see.

[sonjadog]

If Jill has been bringing up child-related topics in the main group herself, I understand even less why your other friend should suddenly decide it would be better to start a separate group without her. It makes it sound more like a deliberate action to push Jill out, sorry.