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When did it become a thing

142 replies

SilverySurfer · 19/08/2019 16:02

That people started saying 'me/myself, DH and DCs'? The correct term is DH, DCs and I. As an example, me/myself, DH and DCs went to London. I went to London is correct, me/myself went to London is obviously wrong.

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iklboo · 19/08/2019 22:03

DH is dyslexic - I've had to learn to let a lot go. What would I gain by constantly correcting him? He asks my advice on media posting. Speech wise I let it go.

70sWitch · 19/08/2019 22:12

I myself have no opinion on Brexit. Grin

BobbinThreadbare123 · 20/08/2019 06:50

"I also hate the latest thing of calling an invitation an invite, grrr."
So do I.
Also, this 'it needs gone' nonsense. Ugh it all grates.

MilkTrayLimeBarrel · 20/08/2019 06:59

SilverySurfer - Absolutely agree with you re 'invite' - it is such a horrible word. I also hate 'advert', 'soz'. 'arvo', 'convo', 'uni' and many other shortened contrived words. Why can't people just say the proper word??

Other irritants? Starting a sentence with 'so', 'ect' instead of 'etc', capitalising every word's first letter in texts or on forums such as these, not paragraphing or worse, writing a whole paragraph without any punctuation!

I could go on ......

CaptainMyCaptain · 20/08/2019 08:02

arvo', 'convo', 'uni'
I blame Neighbours for these.

iklboo · 20/08/2019 08:50

Alot
Abit
Carn't

Mariposa123 · 20/08/2019 08:52

Urgh the overuse of myself infuriated me! I think people use it to sound more professional or intelligent, but it’s always user completely wrongly!!!

GruciusMalfoy · 20/08/2019 09:06

"Bare with me".

I'd rather not, if you don't mind 😅

SayNoToCarrots · 20/08/2019 09:35

I used to get annoyed by if I lay here but then I realised it's because it's in the past tense and the next clause is in the present.

If you replace it with another word, however, it does make sense - e.g. "if I sat here, would you sit with me?".

The alternative is "if I sit here, will you sit with me" which takes it out of the subjunctive.

Alsohuman · 20/08/2019 09:47

I can’t believe someone would rather sound ignorant than apparently pretentious for using correct grammar.

Some of my MN pet hates are “reign in” - think about it, it’s obviously “rein”. And “tow the line” - where to? It’s toe, ffs.

Stressedout10 · 20/08/2019 09:57

This has been happening around here for years to the point that when my dd was in 1st year (11-12year old) her English teacher told me that she was his only student who new it was so and so and I was correct instead of me and whomever

RosaWaiting · 20/08/2019 10:08

Carrots but I still think "lie" sounds right and "lay" sounds wrong - I mean gramatically, not morally! Grin

RosaWaiting · 20/08/2019 10:09

Oh I just spelt "grammatically" incorrectly, well done me Blush

see, this is why I don't criticise anyone usually!

iklboo · 20/08/2019 10:56

'I led down on the bed'

Probably written as the pronunciation but even so it's still wrong.

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SilverySurfer · 20/08/2019 11:26

70sWitch I bet you do Wink

Totally agree with bare/bear and reign/rein and also not a fan of Australian truncated words - I once watched an Aussie police programme and thought they hit the pits by using ambo (ambulance) and Crimbo {Christmas) and no matter how heinous the crime the criminal was constantly referred to as mate.

Oh no, a typo! You're done for now Rosa Smile

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Glitterblue · 20/08/2019 11:30

I was proof reading something for a friend the other week and she had written "she asked myself for help" - it sounds so awful. The friend in question usually has absolutely perfect grammar and prides herself on it, so I didn't like to mention that!

AryaStarkWolf · 20/08/2019 11:31

When did grammar nazism become a thing more like?

iklboo · 20/08/2019 11:41

When did grammar nazism become a thing more like?

My grandparents were really keen on grammar & spelling and they were all born before 1920 so an aversion to poor practice has been around quite some time.

And the centurion in Life of Brian was a stickler for it Grin

RosaWaiting · 20/08/2019 11:45

Silvery - it's okay, I came on here asking questions, not making judgements Grin

iklboo · 20/08/2019 11:47

Oh I just spelt "grammatically" incorrectly, well done me

Muphry's Law Grin

AryaStarkWolf · 20/08/2019 11:50

My grandparents were really keen on grammar & spelling and they were all born before 1920 so an aversion to poor practice has been around quite some time.

Yes I'm aware grammar has been around for a longtime, but the outrage at people over it, especially on forums like this where people are just speaking casually/in their own dialects etc

I noticed alot of people on mumsnet seem to have an issue with "myself/yourself" for example, as an Irish person it's pretty normal to use those in everyday conversations, but it seems it's a mortal sin on here Grin

iklboo · 20/08/2019 12:57

That's what I meant. My grandparents would get 'outraged' at poor spelling & grammar. Grammar Nazism (hate that bloody term) has been around a very long time. It's only more public and noticeable now since the internet.

CaptainMyCaptain · 20/08/2019 15:39

Grammar Nazism (hate that bloody term) has been around a very long time. It's only more public and noticeable now since the internet.
I hate that term too. It's since the internet that most of us have seen the shocking spelling and grammar, though, so no wonder the comments on it have increased.

Alsohuman · 20/08/2019 16:06

I’m an unashamed grammar Nazi. Proud of it, in fact.

AryaStarkWolf · 20/08/2019 16:14

I’m an unashamed grammar Nazi. Proud of it, in fact.

Boo