My DD age 11 sees her dad EOW, during the summer hols we do a week each.
My DS is 5 and lives with me & his dad.
We all do a range of things together as a family. Swimming, parks, day trips, travelling, cinema, holidays, parties.
We also chill at home, go to the library, make up tutorials, pamper nights, movie nights,Lego, bike rides etc..
If the particular activity doesn’t appeal to one child they will get to choose something next time.
Both kids also get to do an activity with me alone.
My daughter seems to think it’s unfair that her brother gets to do things when she’s at her dads. She expects us all not to do anything or go anywhere because she can’t come.
Her dad also does things with her and his family although probably not as much as us.
He is taking her abroad this year so they haven’t had any outings so far this summer holiday. Which sucks a bit I suppose to an 11 year old. But she gets free range on her dads compound, hangs out with her mates all day etc.
I have started keeping some things secret from my daughter so i don’t spark jealousy in her. She could completely kick off at the thought of her brother getting a McDonald’s whilst out shopping.
Some of my friends said that she needs to learn that her time is spent with her dad and it’s unreasonable to expect us to sit at home thumb twiddling. But I can’t deal with the headache of her tantrums.
Should I continue keeping it a secret?