8.5 stone and I still don’t feel thin?

[Mymygivemeafry]

Been eating more healthily and walking a lot and now weigh 8 1/2 stone (I am also quite short) but still don’t feel thin- still have wobbly and blobby patches.

Is anyone else the same? What did you do?

Rubicon I mean

Seems some really want to make sure that a woman who commits the heinous crime of being happy with how she looks gets brought down a peg or 2.

Ffs

Here is a picture of me feeling fabulous (and thin) on holiday two weeks ago. All 57kg of me.

Furry you are thin!

Ignore the pps saying you are not.

Having by read several of these types of threads (my fault, I know), the conclusion I've come to is that weight/bmi discussions always end in antagonism.

You look great though, furry.

Hi op. I've not read the thread but must be a similar build to you. I have my wobbly bits, but mostly I'm covered in clothes. I try to accept I'm not massive, but I get a bit obsessive.

@Fraggling Rubicon I mean Seems some really want to make sure that a woman who commits the heinous crime of being happy with how she looks gets brought down a peg or 2.

Was just trying to inject a dose of objective reality - at that weight and height (and having seen her picture) she's neither 'thin' nor 'massive'. Just a normal healthy weight.

But sure, whatever. Get your knickers in a twist about a basic statement of fact. I don't actually care what anyone calls themselves. Have bigger problems tbh.

No I don't have an eating disorder but being if small frame and not carrying weight well, apple shape, it can take a small amount of weight for me to feel how others in this post describe. I see how easy it could be to become obsessed with your weight and for it to become an issue.
Thankfully my mental health us good, but I still worry about my comfortable weight being so small. As a result I do have to look after myself and keep things in perspective.
That's why is suggest finding forms of exercise to tone rather than people loosing more to be thin, some people arnt naturally thin, I always have been.

Why do people feel the need to do this? It's bizarre. And unhelpful, unpleasant etc

It’s a perfectly normal rational comment. Under 5’4” 8.5 stone is in the mid range.

If OP said she was that height and 7.5 stone but didn’t feel thin, then she might have an issue with body image.

OP sounds like you are a healthy height and weight but aren't happy with your body composition. Weights and resistance training are the best way to change your shape after you've lost body fat through diet.

@furrytoebean yes you do look great, and also a prefectly normal weight neither thin nor “massive.”
I don’t see why that’s seen as a criticism like a pp said it’s just factual.

Careful now furrytoe

You'll get diagnosed with self esteem issues / eating disorders / advised to go for cbt in a minute!

Thin is a highly subjective word.

Anyone bickering with another woman because she had the temerity to say she was thin, has issues of their own maybe.

It's the 'I believe in brutal honesty' thing rich is code for, I enjoy upsetting people.

Lots of fun to say stuff like that to strangers on the Internet.

Furry you look fab :)

My mother in law was like that.

Lovely in many ways but she did enjoy putting the boot in sometimes and then giving it a bit of faux naive 'I was only being honest!'

Tatiana if you'd rtft you'd see that I've posted the bmi range for 5'3 at least once

And also that the nastier comments I was referring to, in the part you've quoted, were not made to the op.

God I mean it's so boring. Pick pick snipe snipe. I think you're too thin, book cbt. I think you're too fat, lose a stone. Etc etc.

Peace and love clearly bypassed this topic for women in the uk!

"Lots of women will have read those replies and felt a bit crappy. Which was the point of them being posted. Quite obviously. And in response to them feeling crappy, they are now told to piss off the thread. "

Well, it's true that if you are hyper-sensitive about your weight and being told something like 'you're average' upsets you, you should probably not be on a thread like this.

You definitely sound slim and a 26 waist is very enviable. Slim is desirable, “thin” to me means twiggy, skinny. I’m your height and 9st 5 and feel slim but not “thin”. I’m a stone heavier than you! My waist is 28-29 and body fat 23%. I’m an Apple so will never ever get a tiny waist! I exercise a fair bit and watch my diet because otherwise I am a Terrys chocolate orange on two toothpicks
Body fat % tells a truer story than scales. Waist hip ratio too.
Our BMI max at 5’4” is 10.6 but for me that’s way too heavy-I have a fat belly at that weight.

Well no

There have been, what I would consider, some quite nasty posts on this thread. And not just me, lots of people have said that.

And its self evident surely that lots of women who are insecure about their weight will exactly be drawn to threads about weight... The people posting unpleasant comments know this. Which kind of makes it even worse, if you think about it.

Happily the woman who was told off for saying she was happy healthy fit and thin only got the single passive aggressive comment... How can anyone tell anyone, never having seen them, whether they are fat or thin, with also possibly a different idea of what 'thin' looks like (highly subjective.... Heroin chic level? Or just thinner than most others the same age /height in a country where overweight is the norm?).

Nope think it's crappy.

The justification that people who have issues with their weight shouldn't come on threads about weight is vv flimsy. Imo.

That was to gwen.

Tell a lie loads of women got in line to tell that poster she was deluded.

Only one advised the stone weight loss was necessary in order for her not to be telling porkies.

Iirc.

yeah ok i know what you are saying. i can only appreciate being 57kg at 5'3" now i am pregnant and more like 64kg. i don't have an eating disorder or body image issues. it's just hard. no advice other than if you weigh more you will be wistful af about it.

No one has been nasty, unless you think saying "you're a normal weight, not massive and not thin" is nasty. It's not, by any rational standards.

A short woman with a BMI of 22 is not fat or thin. That is not a nasty comment unless you're twisting words to claim that calling someone a normal weight is nasty.

However often you say it, it doesn't make it true.

@swingofthings you are the same as me 5’2 and 8st 3lb is my ‘normal’ that I feel I look my best and healthiest at. Stayed that weight for years until children lol! I got weighed at my 6 week postpartum appointment yesterday and I’m 9st 2lb currently so feel very out of sorts and not at all myself, clothes don’t fit etc. Cutting out sugar and crisps for breakfast along with couch to 5k and yoga should hopefully help me get back to my normal!

Rubicon what was actually said was

Furrytoes
'Well I feel utter shit reading this thread.

I came on to say that I’m 57kg and 5’3 and look great.
But apparently that’s massive.'

Answer
'It’s not massive furrytoe it’s just not thin which is the point of the thread. You would only need to lose a stone so it’s not too bad'

That's not purely factual by a long chalk. Reassuring her that she'd 'only' need to lose a stone...

Like I say. Some people like to put the boot in. That poster had already said she was feeling rubbish, so, yes plenty of people in the thread thought that and some comments that followed were unnecessary and mean spirited.

Fortunately that poster does indeed look fab so hopefully no harm done :) good thing she didn't leave the thread as instructed, after all!

@Bbang, I put on 3 stones with both my pregnancies! Lost it in 9 months with the first, did go so easily the second time and weight loss was quite gradual. Was slimmest in my late 20s and early 40s. Now late 40s, menopausal and it's hell. I am aiming for 8st 6lbs and I'll be very happy. 8st 3lbs would be fantastic.

You're only 6 weeks post birth, plenty of time to get back to your ideal weight.

I think you look fantastic! @furrytoebean and I would describe you as slim, healthy, toned, thin etc