When to dive in and rescue them.

[Summerlovesensation]

I feel very frustrated my son is leaving home. I would be very happy for him, but for one thing he has enrolled on another academic course. I’d like him to do well, I’d like him to come home and report just one success, but there hasn’t been a single success since August 2016. I have enjoyed having him around, but it is very disheartening being his mum.

Surely you could have just spent the time looking online rather than rambling on mumsnet?

As pp suggested, I'd say that English is not the ops first language. And possibly she can only see the most recent post, and that is what she is replying to? And appears to be ignoring other posts because she's not scrolling up /down??
My mum is not very Internet savvy and this is the type of thing that catches her out, especially on a smart phone.
But feel free to correct me if I'm wrong op 😁

At first I thought the OP was tipsy, then I started reading the posts with a Moroccan accent, so maybe English isn't her first language, I've no idea.

I do think the son is far more switched on than the OP gives him credit for, and because she rants at him he hasn't explained everything to her.

@Summerlovesensation You need to support your son in his move to university. Find out how many hours he will be in lectures, and how much studying he's expected to do, and then you might feel better about him having a part time job. I'm very impressed he's able to move away to uni and have a part tine job sorted, many students would be jealous of that!

What does he want to do once he's got his chemistry degree? It is chemistry he's going to be studying, isn't it? Or is it Chemistry Alevel he failed?

This is a woman who thought her son should just abandon the foundation degree half way through, and leave with no qualification, just incase he wanted to do another degree later. Because she didn't spend the literal 2 minutes it took to google foundation degree pathways. Language barrier or not, there's some basic lack of thinking and engaging one's brain before speaking.

I have absolutely no idea what the fuck you are trying to say.

I keep calling family meetings. We have a talking stick and a timer set for two minutes per interested family member

Batshit.

I think your DS has a good grasp of the education pathways and funding that are available. You need to start trusting him. He doesn't need you to dive in and rescue him. You've added unnecessary stress by not researching , not understanding and by not listening to him.

A good result then OP. I understand why you were worried. you thought if he did the foundation degree he would then have to go on to do another 3 years study which wouldn't be funded which is why you want him to get his A Levels instead.
To be fair to you the different paths to a degree can be confusing but it sounds like your son knows what he is doing. I suspect like most DC though he didn't really explain his reasoning preferring the 'shut up mum I know what I'm doing route' instead.
Lesson learned to trust him in future and good luck to him for his studies.

quality thread

Well, I'm completely lost.