To be upset DD couldn't go out with her friends to celebrate A level results?

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Just that really. DD is 17, not 18 until late August. She is the youngest in her friend group and they all went out clubbing to celebrate, she couldn't go because she's not 18. She is devestated as now they're all posting pictures on social media.

Back in the 90s we were never asked for ID.

Back in the 90s, you could also smoke in clubs.

Things have changed.

Agree!

Although I suspect if I went to one of the less pleasant clubs I went to in the 90s, the same puddle of vomit would still be on the floor

It's rubbish for your DD but you can't really expect them all to stay in because she's too young. It's things like this that are making me wonder whether to hold my DD back a year starting school I must admit.

She’ll be 18 in a few weeks, surely she has something planned?

If she was already 18 would she have stayed in with her friend or gone out?

Aw. But at least she’ll be able to go clubbing to celebrate her 18th knowing all her friends can come. My eldest is a September baby and when she turned 18 only one of her friends would have been able to go out clubbing or buy an alcoholic drink with her!

In London you can't enter a club at any age without ID. I don't know how many other areas have implemented the same rule but it's more than just an age thing, many places scan the ID because they sometimes need to know in the case of an incident, who was there, who someone might be.

I can imagine how your DD feels because I've been left out of many things, as a kid and even this last weekend with a whole bunch of adults, many older than I am too. It hurts, right in the middle. Her friends should be ashamed, they could have arranged a day where everyone could come.

I’m gobsmacked, did she even try?

What would you have expected them to do OP?

Why should the whole group (of how many??? Can you clarify?) have to base their plans on one person who can't go.

Yes its shitty for your DD but I don't think it's deliberately malicious.

Yes, one of DS’s friends couldn’t go clubbing for A levels, also iirc similar happened at prom night. DS is November born so was one of the earlier ones to turn 18, it’s been strict for years, DS is 26 now. Not sure when all the stuff with ID started.

How did he start uni at 17???

@zeezee3 because Universities take students under 18. They have to have parent/guardian permission and there are different arrangements in place as they are still a minor, but it isn't unheard of for under-18s to be studying for degrees.

Friend of mine was turned away from a club a few weeks ago. She's 41 but didn't have any ID on her!

@ItsLateImTired and others - I got my A level results 20 years ago, that and GCSE results day was practically the only day every single slightly young looking person was asked for ID. I can’t actually believe so many people on here don’t think that’s a thing?

YANBU that she’s upset about it. She’ll have plenty of time to make up for it.

How did he start uni at 17???

It’s quite commonplace in Ireland, and I’ve heard of others in Scotland and other places too

Our local (small town) club takes ID off everyone and scans it in. They do check thoroughly and only take certain ID cards too, so faking isn't easy.

DD1's group went out last night and one of them wasn't 18yo, but several of them are away next week, then after that some are going to start their new courses. This week was the only chance for them before it's going to be down to less than half the group.
What they did was ask the 17yo what she wanted and then they started at the 17yo's house and met there for a couple of hours, then her mum drove them over and she waited in the queue until they went in. She did say she didn't mind, and told them not to be silly and go for it when they suggested they just stayed there. Dd1 reckoned the best bit was at her house anyway.

This was me too, and will also be DD in years to come (August babies).

The difference between now & then it’s that I could go into a pub at 14 & get served so long as I could remember my made up DOB when asked.

Photo ID wasn’t a thing like it is now.

They obviously don't take fake, photocopied NUS cards as Id anymore then 🤣😳

did she even try?
There really is no point trying. Even Wetherspoons check ID at the door past 9pm.

DD1 started uni at 17 (Scotland) and didn't turn 18 until the end of January!

I get why your DD is upset but as a parent I would not be upset at all. Result’s nights tend to consist of 18 years olds getting very drunk, very messy from early on. As a parent I would have sympathy with my child’s fear of missing out but also happy that they are not out on one of the worst days for teenage drinking.

Aww that's rough. As someone who's also a late birthday (tomorrow!) I fully understand. And they are waaaayyyy stricter with IF these days.

My ds is also late (Monday!) and he'll have this too. Although he's not a going out person atm and he won't get SM.

Another one with a 17 year old who couldn't join in with Freshers events. He could have gone to uni at 16 ( Scotland) but waiting two years to join in was too much!
Shame for your DD, it's very painful being left out at her age.

I think if I was her I’d have tried - girls look so much older now anyway. Nowhere near me checks ID