Dm makes me choose dc gifts and then she pays.

[thecatinthetwat]

I’m probably being unreasonable but it really annoys me.

Dm always rings me up just before dcs birthday and asks me what to get them. I give some ideas.

She then calls back and says it’s too hard to choose anything and can I pick something.

I tell her to narrow it down and then I’ll take a look, but she says she can’t.

So I basically just find something myself and she pays for it. I find it so frustrating. For example, puzzle plus dc age. That’s what I do and then just pick one. She could do that herself. It’s like she can’t be bothered. Aibu to be so annoyed by it?

FWIW, she’s very internet savvy and has loads of time on her hands as she doesn’t work.

My Mil used to ask for a list. Then she would ask me to choose. Then she would ask me to buy the present and she would pay me back. Then she suggested that I may as well wrap said present/s, as I was doing the rest.

I think it is better to get a gift that is definitely wanted/useful, however the lack of effort does irritate me. I make a point of dropping the gifts to her to wrap which makes me feel slightly less irritated!!!

If I don't know what someone wants as a present, then I get them something to eat chocs, cake or fruit. That way, it's not going to be hanging around the house forevermore, and just dragged out when they know I'm due to visit. It doesn't be work for dc though.

I would love it if my in-laws and family did this so I think YABU.