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Yesivenamechanged11 · 14/08/2019 15:12

NC for this one.
20 weeks pregnant, lost my job three months ago and money is tight. Maternity allowance won't kick in for another 7 weeks.
Been offered a job interview next week (2 stage process) an hour away from where I live and am currently car-less so it will be a big effort to get there. Industry I work in generally has a 6 month probationary period so I could get canned at any time.

I am showing a bit but generally just look a bit tubby.
Do I say anything at interview?? Gut instinct says no but not sure I need the stress of being let go again (on top of taking legal action against former employer) so part of me wants to decline but I know that isn't wise.

Thoughts?

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NoSauce · 16/08/2019 14:22

If you went for the interview you run the risk of being fired within the probationary period anyway. Personally I think you’ve nothing to lose by being upfront and honest, you never know that might be something they admire in a potential employee. I know it’s a tricky one and I know that the majority would say don’t tell them but I can’t imagine many employers would be happy with someone telling them their new employee is 20 weeks pregnant. I think it would piss most of them off.

Yesivenamechanged11 · 16/08/2019 14:27

@CoughSplutter start date would be mid September which means I’d be working for a maximum of 10 weeks, and DP has to work away for a time so would need to be near home to pick up DC, just feels like too much stuff stacked against me. And I do feel guilty about going to interview and not saying anything. Need to preserve my emotional resilience for the tribunal!

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KatherineJaneway · 17/08/2019 09:02

Could you do some temporary work even if it is just admin / office support to get some cash in?

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