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What’s the most minor thing your other half does that unreasonably winds you up?

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FiveFarthings · 14/08/2019 09:38

Confession time just for fun (need some light relief after being up all night with baby!)

What’s the most minor thing that your other half does that unreasonably winds you up?

For me, it’s that my husband squeezes the tube of tooth paste from the middle rather than the bottom, leaving the tube all twisted so you can’t get anything out. It is such a minor thing but my god it makes me rage and I am totally disproportionately unreasonable about it!

Anyone else have anything similar?

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SaintWillibald · 14/08/2019 17:00

Leaves kitchen cabinet doors open (for me to walk into I assume).

Puts the chopping knives in the dishwasher (constantly surprised when I ask him not to).

Used to salt his food before tasting it (cured him of that by over-salting his plate once).

Chews loudly (I have misophonia though so he’s never going to win that one).

Cannot remember who is who in my family (we’ve been married 20 years).

Breathes.

Aquamarine1029 · 14/08/2019 17:03

My husband is a very tidy person, except for his socks. We have a hamper right in our bedroom, and he puts every article of his clothing in it as soon as he take it off, yet he leaves his socks on the floor next to the bed. He will have a pile going for a few days then randomly pick them all up and put them in the hamper. Whhhhhyyyyyyy? It makes me crazy but I've never said anything about it because other than that he's wonderful. But WHY do this??

notso · 14/08/2019 17:11

Eats yoghurt in the most annoying way. He takes a spoonful brings it slowly, slowly to his mouth then really quickly puts it into his mouth clacking the spoon on his teeth. If that's not enough he scrapes every last tiny, morsel out of the pot, and usually leaves the pot on the floor.
He fucking loves yoghurts too so it's a twice daily occurrence.

He uses any bag that's in the house as a bin. Even if it's next to the bin.
So many times I've gone to take clothes back and found his scrunched up junk mail, crisp packets or worse yoghurt lids in the bag with the clothes.

He loses his shit if one of the kids wears their shoes on the carpet but he will merrily stroll around outside in socks or cut the lawn in slippers then wander all over the house.

When he is relaxing, he takes his heels out of his socks so his feet are wearing little sock hats.
He sits like that for hours and walks around with the stupid sock hats on. It infuriates me. Just take them off.

Flamingo84 · 14/08/2019 17:15

In the supermarket if I ask him to go back an aisle as we’ve missed the milk for example, he takes forever. I’ve watched him stand there just looking at all the milk. We get 2pints of semi skimmed, have done for 17 years.
SO WHY ARE YOU JUST STARING AT THE MILK!

I’ve even tried being really specific. ‘Can you grab the Ski yogurts there, the raspberry flavour’. There were two flavours, raspberry or mango ones with fruit pieces. It was for DS to have with real fruit, he was aware of this and I specifically said ‘get the raspberry’. I watch him walk to them and stare. Then he picks up the one with the fruit pieces and turns. The look on my face, shaking of my head and the mouthing of ‘raspberry ‘ alert him to the fact that he might have made a wrong selection. Eventually he lumbers over with the right one...
Every food shop takes over an hour due to this pointless dithering and is the reason I try to do it online. It may save my marriage!

letsgomaths · 14/08/2019 17:16

He gives me little presents regularly, always thoughtfully chosen, which I love to receive, and he wraps them nicely too. Smile But...

He makes me jump through hoops to get them: he makes me guess what they are, makes me listen to reasons why I deserve them, leaves clues round the house that lead me to them, makes me play "hit the pot" to find them... just give them to me!!! It reminds me of Christmas presents being slowly handed out, one by one, at about 4pm.

MrsGideon · 14/08/2019 17:16

@SaintWillibald YES! I can recite all of my DH's friends' and colleagues' names, occupations, family histories and personal dramas at the drop of a hat, but can he remember literally even the names of mine? Can he fuck. Even people he's MET!

Shefliesonherownwings · 14/08/2019 17:20

Folds all wrappers (chocolate bars, crisps etc...) into triangles and leaves them lying around everywhere.

Another loud sneezer

Is incapable of putting condiments he has used away in the cupboard again. If it were up to him, they would stay out on the side for weeks.

If, on the very rare occasion he gets up before me in the week to go to a meeting (he normally works from home), he is like a tornado, banging around, turning all the lights on, generally being loud. I, on the other hand, get up at 6 almost every day for work and try to be quiet, get my clothes ready the night before, get dressed in the dark while he snores away. Not that I am better at him getting more sleep than me, of course not.

Shefliesonherownwings · 14/08/2019 17:21

*bitter, not better.

Parttimewasteoftime · 14/08/2019 17:21

Piles of post everywhere its a fire hazard. We have the same initial and surname so he says he's dealing with it then gets mad if I look at his letter when of course its not been dealt with!

AmateurSwami · 14/08/2019 17:23

He puts stuff in the dishwasher but doesn’t turn it on. Ditto washing machine, ditto dryer. And leaves the oven on.

Cryalot2 · 14/08/2019 17:26

He looked after a relative who several times a day and night made demands ( dh is self employed and poor health)
Yet at home his attitude is why do something when he can put it off for as long as possible. It really annoys me , especially when he did different for awful relative.

Whatjusthappenedthere · 14/08/2019 17:26

Fuck, I’m doomed. My DH does almost all of these things on a daily basis.
To be fair though, I’m the one who walks about when brushing my teeth. I didn’t appreciate it could actually be a flaw GrinConfused

clucky3 · 14/08/2019 17:34

I love this thread. Thought I was the only one with an incredibly irritating other half

AmateurSwami · 14/08/2019 17:35

@Drogosnextwife Sad

LittleDoritt · 14/08/2019 17:36

Mine has month long phases of eating paleo when he will drone on and on about the health benefits until I want to stab him with a fork, and then will crack and I'll find him eating golden syrup from the tin or demolishing a twelve pack of crisps. I'm not sure which version pisses me off the most.

Jaxhog · 14/08/2019 17:37

Mine leaves the bathroom light on, with the door closed! Sometimes I wake up in the middle of the night to see a light under the door and just HAVE to get up and switch the lights off.

clucky3 · 14/08/2019 17:38

Puts the chopping knives in the dishwasher (constantly surprised when I ask him not to).

Why shouldn't chopping knives go in the dishwasher @SaintWillibald ?

ChocOrCheese · 14/08/2019 17:39

He bought a special soap dish on which our scouring pad is supposed to sit, by his decree. And he NEVER puts the bastard pad on the dish.

Sarcelle · 14/08/2019 17:40

The way he twirls spaghetti on a fork using the base of a spoon. It is probably the correct way to eat it but I have to look the other way.

ladymalfoy · 14/08/2019 17:43

Howls when he yawns.
Crashes around the kitchen when I’m reading to DD at bedtime.
Claps his hands really loudly,just once,for no reason.
Wipes his fingers on his trousers,shorts,jeans after every crisp,nut or nibble. Nibble wipe,wipe.
When I’m looking for something asks’What have you lost?’
I hate it. I’ve told him I haven’t lost anything.

ConkerGame · 14/08/2019 17:47

Uses a separate fork / spoon for each single action when cooking, so by the end has used nearly all 12 in our drawer! Eg, uses a fork to take items out of wrapping and place in pan. Then discards that fork and uses a separate one for stirring the pan, then discards that one to get another ingredient into a bowl, then discards that one and uses yet another fork to move food from pan to plates. All the discarded forks end up all over the place - one in the sink, one on the sideboard, one on the chopping board, one on top of the microwave. So random and fairly infuriating!

SaintWillibald · 14/08/2019 17:47

@MrsGideon thank you, feels good to know I’m not alone!

He says that I have an amazing memory as if it’s a fault. No, it’s normal to remember family and friends and to show an interest. Ask him to recall a Tottenham player/score from 100 years ago and he’s all over it like a cheap suit!

Iamthewombat · 14/08/2019 17:50

Oh yeah, ‘have you lost something?’ when I am plainly looking for something.

I now say, why, do you know where it is?

I see that telling us things when we are trying to leave the house is a common habit. Glad it’s not just me.

Buddytheelf85 · 14/08/2019 17:50

Noisy eating.

Clinks his cutlery against his teeth when eating which makes me feel ill.

Whatthefunk · 14/08/2019 17:51

My Dh is lovely, but he insists on switching my hairdryer off, at the socket, every time he passes......drives me crazy!!!!!