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What’s the most minor thing your other half does that unreasonably winds you up?

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FiveFarthings · 14/08/2019 09:38

Confession time just for fun (need some light relief after being up all night with baby!)

What’s the most minor thing that your other half does that unreasonably winds you up?

For me, it’s that my husband squeezes the tube of tooth paste from the middle rather than the bottom, leaving the tube all twisted so you can’t get anything out. It is such a minor thing but my god it makes me rage and I am totally disproportionately unreasonable about it!

Anyone else have anything similar?

OP posts:
Meggie2008 · 14/08/2019 10:14

My boyfriend also squeezes toothpaste from the middle and it makes me want to kill people. It's sooooo aggravating!
He also chews on his hands. He's a guitar player and I'm assuming he's chewing callouses but it makes the most vile noise and I hate it.

Krisskrosskiss · 14/08/2019 10:15

Dirty washing on top of the laundry basket instead of inside... and he folds it up neatly.. I mean could he not use the folding time to instead put it actually in the basket?!! And he just leaves his shoes in the middle of rooms.. we have a shoe rack but his shoes just end up mid floor in random rooms.. but again neatly placed next to each other not just chucked or anything... it boggles the mind honestly.
I have tried to tell him but I've given up because its so petty that I get more annoyed at myself for going on about it than I am at him for doing it...
Just why though?!?

SmartCapybara · 14/08/2019 10:15

When he puts salt on his food, he does it from a great height and it gets everywhere! Apparently "Jamie says this is how it should be done" Arrrgh JAMIE doesn't have to bloody clean it up every time, FFS

Nabana · 14/08/2019 10:16

He leaves the fan on and blackout curtains drawn when he gets up. I am always up first so when I need to go in there later I have to make my way through the long narrow room in the dark and clamber over the bed to open the curtains and turn the fan off. What is so difficult about just opening the curtains, isn't that a normal thing to do?! Rage

Nabana · 14/08/2019 10:17

I'm always first up*

Krisskrosskiss · 14/08/2019 10:19

@Aprinceinapaupersgrave omg my husband does this too!! Does the easy washing up then leaves the pans 'to soak'... which just means hes left them for me... and also sometimes starts the washing up by piling everything in the filled sink then just loses interest meaning I have to put my hands in the grim cold water to empty it and pick all the rank plates out by hand to start again... I'd honestly prefer it if he just stacked everything neatly by the side of the sink to be washed.

JohnLapsleyParlabane · 14/08/2019 10:20

My DH almost never says the word 'yes', except for when it's totally unnecessary. For example:
Q. Do you want a coffee?
A. That would be nice / not at present thanks

Q. How was your day?
A. Yes, ok thanks

Jupiters · 14/08/2019 10:21

Tidies up after me, not in a helpful way
This is what mine does. If I take my eye off something for 5 seconds this is what he does. I can be in the middle of writing a card, get up to get a stamp and by the time I've got back he'll have put my pen away.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 14/08/2019 10:21

Explosively loud sneezing. It once terrified a very tiny dd into crying for ages - he felt awful so I thought that might cure him - but he's still doing it over 40 years later.
I've given up.

Sicario · 14/08/2019 10:23

Never closes a door. Ever.

Says "do you want me to..." (put the bins out, mow the lawn, or any other job that needs doing. No, I don't want you to do it. You should just fucking do it without making it my decision or responsibility for making you do it.)

Has to have the whole big sofa to himself to put his feet up while everyone else crams onto the small one.

Goes to the shop to buy what he needs but never thinks to check if we need anything normal like milk or bread.

Snores.

ElleEmDee · 14/08/2019 10:24

Puts the empty toilet roll on top of the bin. Which is right next to the toilet. Literally take about two more seconds to lift the bin lid and put inside. I may, or may not, deliberately pack the dishwasher wrong (his pet hate) in silent revenge.

Mushroomparty · 14/08/2019 10:26

He balances his cigarettes on anything but an ashtray. Literally anything: a box of matches, a lighter, the corner of the table, a pen, a CD case... ANYTHING. Even if there's an ashtray 2 inches from his hand. WHY ????

And he makes so much noise when he eats I could murder him.

Skittlesandbeer · 14/08/2019 10:29

Mine’s a great one for ‘tidying things away’. Only he doesn’t ever plan a ‘spot’ for each thing, or ask where it lives, or even divide it from the other unrelated things near it. Just as long as it’s out of sight, job’s done.

Went to visit my granny for two weeks, came home to the tidiest house ever. Found bits of my clothing (used & clean) everywhere from the garage to the kitchen cupboards. Wish I was kidding. Secateurs in the bathroom, new loo roll tucked neatly in the pantry next to the rice.

All I can say (and I did) is that it’s going to be bloody difficult to prove senile dementia when it kicks in one day. I’m guessing we’d be eligible for a full range of services right now, on their normal assessment criteria.

clucky3 · 14/08/2019 10:29

He doesn't cough properly. He does this sort of weird top of the throat cheek blowing out cough thing. It's beyond irritating. Just fucking cough like a normal person!

And don't start me on how he loads the dishwasher.

@FlyingElbows i think we might be married to the same man.

Also saying "summat" instead of "something". He's generally well spoken but insists on using this horrible word ALL THE FUCKING TIME

clucky3 · 14/08/2019 10:31

Goes to the shop to buy what he needs but never thinks to check if we need anything normal like milk or bread.

Snores.*

This too

edwinbear · 14/08/2019 10:31

Breathes.

YesItsMeIDontCare · 14/08/2019 10:32

I love DH dearly, but if he doesn't stop putting things on coat hangers back to front I might have to kill him.

Bunglefromrainbow · 14/08/2019 10:34

In my mind I’m screaming It’s TEA! DO YOU WANT TEA

Haha, @MayFayner , in my house if I ask "do you want Tea" that means "do you want dinner".

Similarly what annoys me is when my DP asks for "a tea" just as the show we are watching has started. You knew you wanted it but waited until the opening credits had finished before asking, I'm deliberately not putting enough milk in now :)

SunshineCake · 14/08/2019 10:34

All you posters saying you "have to do" whatever because he doesn't. Stop. You're not having mother. Tell him to grow up and man up and stop being a lazy twat. You are their to clear up after yourselves and small children, not grown lazy men.

Arkengarthdale · 14/08/2019 10:34

Mine is particularly pissing me off at the moment. Hits his plate with his knife and fork just too many times. Every mouthful takes at least a dozen hits of the plate. Scrape scrape scrape scrape scrape. Cuts food up too viciously by pressing so strongly on his knife the glaze on the plates is becoming scored.

Doesn't listen and is going deaf but won't do anything about it. Never heard me first time then gets cross when I raise my voice so he can hear me.

Picks his feet right next to me on the sofa then throws the dry skin into the coal bucket. I object every single time but he still does it.

Aryaneedle · 14/08/2019 10:35

Mine is so overly polite and obsessed with not getting in other people's way that he is constantly moving me (who is oblivious and often looking at the sky/reading a notice/falling off my bike) gently out of people's way. It INFURIATES me.

We were in Denmark recently and he did it so much I snapped and told him to stop fucking moving me. He then pointed out I was about get run over but honestly, I got through 40 years without having him about to 'guide' my spatial awareness. Drives me insane.

RiftGibbon · 14/08/2019 10:36

Pushing and mashing every spoonful of cereal around the bowl until it's a load of slush.

Bezalelle · 14/08/2019 10:37

When I'm doing the dishes he hovers around like a pelican of doom, waiting to rearrange the clean dishes in the drying rack. Infuriating! And he's so smug when he manages to arrange them with optimum use of space. You'd think he'd won a Nobel prize or something!

Arkengarthdale · 14/08/2019 10:38

Oh and says he going to have 'a breakfast' when he stays in a hotel.

Won't hang his towel on the towel rail, hangs it on the door. The door is now mouldy underneath where it's always damp. And you can't shut the bathroom door properly because his towel's on it.

Little things individually but it's becoming unbearable 😢

han01uk · 14/08/2019 10:38

Reloads the dishwasher....
Cleans the bathroom but "forgets" to do the floor,shower,bath,toilet seat...thus not really cleaning the bathroom at all....
Does lists of things just so he can cross things off he has done,then leaves the list somewhere for me to see...
But the most annoying is just before he blows he nose,he does this ridiculously big inhale of breath so we all know he's about to blow his nose... 😡