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What’s the most minor thing your other half does that unreasonably winds you up?

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FiveFarthings · 14/08/2019 09:38

Confession time just for fun (need some light relief after being up all night with baby!)

What’s the most minor thing that your other half does that unreasonably winds you up?

For me, it’s that my husband squeezes the tube of tooth paste from the middle rather than the bottom, leaving the tube all twisted so you can’t get anything out. It is such a minor thing but my god it makes me rage and I am totally disproportionately unreasonable about it!

Anyone else have anything similar?

OP posts:
Meadowland · 15/08/2019 08:43

Pathologically incapable of shutting any cupboard/wardrobe door.
Cat jumps in unnoticed.
I shut door.
Cat trapped inside.

Oysterbabe · 15/08/2019 08:44

Hides things I need and use all the time in random cupboards then denies having seen said item or indeed having any knowledge of its existence.

Ellabella989 · 15/08/2019 08:51

Mine slurps soup very loudly.
He always leaves the light on in the pantry even if he’s just been in there for a second.
We have a laundry basket but he just leaves his dirty washing in a pile on the floor.
He doesn’t hang the towel or tea towel neatly and they look like a crumpled mess.
I’ll be trying to watch something on TV and he’ll start doing a silly dance to the music of whatever’s on. It was funny the first time but not the 18459603 time!
He knows I’m petrified of spiders and he’s always pretending there’s one behind me. Again, funny the 1st time but I just want to thump him hard now.

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FiveFarthings · 15/08/2019 08:59

Oh and another one- I will make and serve dinner but he will go into the kitchen and start the washing up. Whilst I’m sat at the table eating without him, watching his pasta go cold. When I ask him what he’s doing he’ll say, ‘It will only take a minute’. Why? Why?!?! There is no one else here, no one else needs to use that pan right this second, why don’t can’t you leave it until after? JUST. EAT. YOUR. FUCKING. DINNER!

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Gladimnotcampinginthisweather · 15/08/2019 09:07

When he gets hot in the night he pushes the bedclothes over on top of me.
Next time we need a new bed I am eyeing up twin beds.

keepingbees · 15/08/2019 09:22

My DH does SO many of these things Grin The more I read the more I think of!
He's very boring with food. He's only tried very limited things and declares he doesn't like things he's never tried. He hadn't even had pasta when I met him! He won't eat yogurt because one he had as a child was 'tangy.' He won't have salad or sauce on food or as a side, he orders everything plain. Not just some things but everything, all his food looks dry and bland. I find it very fussy-child like and annoying.

Mmmmdanone · 15/08/2019 09:33

"Tidies" by shoving things into a carrier bag then stuffing it in a wardrobe. I once found a mouldy bag with some of my clothes and a wet umbrella stuffed in MY wardrobe. And he then denied it was him. Wardrobe and all clothes smelled mouldy until we got a new one.

fussychica · 15/08/2019 09:45

Makes a G&T then leave the remains of the lemon/ lime/cucumber on the worktop. Every. Single. Time. Just put it back in the fridge ffs! But thanks for the G&TGrin

Kalim8 · 15/08/2019 09:55

I do that Mmmmmdanone Blush I genuinely mean to go back to check what I have shoved away but then I forget about it.

Dh goes on and on about whatever bee he has in his bonnet, tends to state "well it's up to you" then does whatever he likes regardless of what I say.

He also creates tasks for himself - family visiting this weekend? Instead of tidying and setting up their room, why don't we do something that could have waited, such as setting up solar lights in the garden (and not use the garden whilst the guests are here anyway)?

MrsTommyBanks · 15/08/2019 10:26

Opens a loaf of bread by ripping a big hole halfway down the plastic bag rather than undo the tag so it can be folded over and kept fresh

I got this far and am to upset to rtft.

MrsGideon · 15/08/2019 11:32

I've just thought of another thing. No matter how much or how little time I take to get ready for bed, he always manages to get into bed before me. Even if he's just been sitting at home all day and I've had a really really long day and just fancy some alone time in my lovely big bed with a book, he's always there!! And then he lies there doing the rolling around thing while watching loud videos on Reddit for hours and interrupting my reading every couple of minutes to get me to watch something.

But it's the physical act of him getting into bed before me that annoys me the most and I don't know why! Maybe I feel like if I've had a busy or stressful day I deserve to be in bed before him? So weird.

Fowles94 · 15/08/2019 11:45

Breaths.

verticality · 15/08/2019 11:49

We will be in a crowded room in public - I'll be chatting to someone. Another person will want to get past and I won't hear them because I have a hearing impediment. DH will not say to me "Watch out, there is someone behind you". He will physically move me forward or backward, without any warning. I really hate it.

Also, I will serve food and he will spend 90 seconds faffing over something. I get unreasonably pissed off about this minor delay.

purplereindeer · 15/08/2019 11:50

He takes his socks off in odd places around the house and leaves them there. I then so not find them until someone is over when I suddenly notice 675 socks in weird places.

wannabebetter · 15/08/2019 11:50

Mine has a bleach obsession - uses it on EVERYTHING from work surfaces to dining table to steeping cutlery - the smell drives me mad!! To make it worse he regularly fills the sink with bleachy water to steep things then leaves it so I have to fish out the plug then have horrible bleachy hands all day!!! He also asks me to find him clothes he doesn't own "help me find trousers, no, not jeans or track bottoms or those other ones, different ones" I end up just looking at him like Hmm

wannabebetter · 15/08/2019 11:51

Also it takes him at least 5 mins to come for his dinner, even if he's just sitting doing nothing!!!

MrsGideon · 15/08/2019 11:51

Only trims his beard about once a week and yet ALWAYS waits to do it until just after I've cleaned the bathroom.

This thread has been incredibly cathartic for me!

Oysterbabe · 15/08/2019 12:12

Mine faffs before dinner and before leaving the house too. When I call him for dinner he doesn't reply or come through so I don't know if he's heard me or not. I end up calling him multiple times and get a tetchy 'I'm coming!' after about the third time.

MelanieFrontage · 15/08/2019 12:18

This thread is hilarious! 😂

Mine would appear to be a saint compared to some DHs on here but he does the toothpaste from the middle and it DRIVES ME MAD!
He’s another who balances a new loo roll on the old empty cardboard inner roll, WHY???

Oh and his driving is absolutely appalling, up a gear, down a gear, up a gear, not down a gear (so we are bordering on stalling). I’m sure that he does it deliberately so that I do nearly all of the driving.

I do love him though 😊

historysock · 15/08/2019 13:41

Says things like 'when I used to cook I would put such and such in'. Which makes me want to screech two things; One) when was this mystical time that you 'used to cook' and to such a high standard?? and two) can you fucking start doing it again, because I do 98% of all cooking and when you do it it's always a highly complex dish of pasta with pesto on it or a fucking toastie. Fuck off giving me cooking advice!!!!!

BearRabbitPants · 15/08/2019 13:53
  1. Picks and bites his finger nails. Picks his toenails and piles the fuckers up on a coaster & 'forgets' to chuck them in the bin, also picks scabs on his legs right before they're healed & about to drop off anyway (he's always getting scrapes at work he's a builder) it fucks me off so much I just sit and look at him in disgust.
  1. Puts a dirty dish or glass in the sink instead of straight in to the dishwasher
  1. Eats Doritos loudly. Literally the only thing that he eats loudly! I say to him "do you want to chew a bit louder???" (Again with the disgusted look on my face lol)
  1. Opens letters and leaves the envelopes on the side- put them in the fucking recycling !!!!!
  1. Very irrational but I HATE IT when he's rained off work and just 'floating' round the house- just fuck off will you! Can not stand disruption to my routine lol
  1. Sits on the sofa and doesn't plump the cushions up after he's finished

There's prob more but these are the ones that I get most stabby over lol

LadyRannaldini · 15/08/2019 13:55

I'd love to see the reverse version, How does your wife annoy you? Would the niggles be as petty as many of these?

RainMinusBow · 15/08/2019 13:57

Bangs the microwave door shut!! Shock

PorpentinaScamander · 15/08/2019 13:58

Eats toast/sandwiches without cutting them in half.

I have no idea why it annoys me so much. Confused

BearRabbitPants · 15/08/2019 14:06

Oh yeah and mines a crap driver at times too, excellent at navigating and is very confident but gets ridiculous road rage over a minor thing like 'why isn't that idiot indicating' and 'why are learners on the road in rush hour' and 'why do elderly people drive so slow on Sunday's'!!! I'm sitting there thinking shut the fuck up you're boring!!! Also gets a bit 'speedy' when overtaking on the motorway, reaching 85 sometimes! Always say to him you in some kind of rush??? He doesn't even realise he's doing it like he's got fucking lead in his shoe!