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What’s the most minor thing your other half does that unreasonably winds you up?

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FiveFarthings · 14/08/2019 09:38

Confession time just for fun (need some light relief after being up all night with baby!)

What’s the most minor thing that your other half does that unreasonably winds you up?

For me, it’s that my husband squeezes the tube of tooth paste from the middle rather than the bottom, leaving the tube all twisted so you can’t get anything out. It is such a minor thing but my god it makes me rage and I am totally disproportionately unreasonable about it!

Anyone else have anything similar?

OP posts:
youhaveafacefortheinternet · 15/08/2019 06:33

Goes for a shit immediately before coming to bed

Oysterbabe · 15/08/2019 06:41

He never closes the lid of the wet wipes, or as they're known in this house dry wipes.

Gladimnotcampinginthisweather · 15/08/2019 06:44

Folds clothes the wrong way, so if he folds something in half the front is inside, not outside.
Uses a spoon to stir the tea leaves in the pot, leaves it to dry, reuses it next time. Sometimes (as he makes most of the tea) it stays there all day building up brown layers.

Cannyhandleit · 15/08/2019 06:53

Goes for a shit as soon as he opens his eyes in the morning so even if it's my morning for a long lie I have to watch them for half and hour hour while he sits on the crapper! Maybe go downstairs and leave the door open like I have to do every bloody day when he's at work!

Pinkiii · 15/08/2019 06:54

Faffs ALOT! can never simply leave the house without doing a million other things

But my biggest pet peeve-puts dishes/empties dishwasher a lot, which is lovely of him, but if there are certain items that can’t be dish washed, or dishwasher is full and say for example doesnt have space for 1 last plate, he will NEVER handwash it, just leaves it on the side for me to do, and if I do wash it and leave it on the basin, he will NEVER put it away! Drives me maddddd! Angry i tested it, left a pan that had been hand washed on the basin was still there 3 days later

LaMarschallin · 15/08/2019 06:55

Oh the sneezing!
Not only is it LOUD, it takes him by surprise. Every bloody time:
"AHHHWOOOOSHOOOOOO! Ooh! Oh! Where did that come from?".

Me: "You sneezed. People do. It's normal".

I find it hard to believe he never gets that sort of prickly-nose effect that gives most people (NORMAL people) the hint they might be about to sneeze.

demureandgraceful · 15/08/2019 06:56

DP sleeps in until 11-1 on his days off unless we have planned to do anything and is reluctant to come up with a schedule for the day so most weekend days are wasted with me waiting for him to get up not being able to do anything as I do not know what the plans are. I try not to nag him as he works so hard monday to friday

LadyGAgain · 15/08/2019 06:58

Chews.
His food.
Noisily.
Makes me rage.

LadyGAgain · 15/08/2019 06:58

Glugs water.
Noisily.
Makes me rage.

Oysterbabe · 15/08/2019 07:06

My DH does crunch things really loudly. I'm sure he does it on purpose. He also inhales bowls of cereal so fast because he can't stand it if they soak up any milk and go a bit soft. I have to leave the room, the sound of the spoon against his teeth makes me stabby.

Fillmitchell · 15/08/2019 07:17

Toilet roll on the wrong way.
Hovers around me whilst I’m cooking, desperate to pick up and throw any bits of packaging from food items or dirty bowls / cutlery that can go straight in the dishwasher.
Removes and discards the tops off aerosol cans or lids off things ‘as they are surplus as so it save throwing them out later’
Removes wet clothing from the washing machine all creased up and hangs them like that straight on the washing line. No giving them a shake / flap first to get some of the creases out.
Will fill up and leave the ironing water jug standing in the room where the ironing board is set up for days at a time (to save time when next filling the iron) by then the water is green and slimy.

Reading that back, he is quite strange really.

IdrisElbasLeftTesticle · 15/08/2019 07:42

Hovers over me and tries to talk, including offering helpful ‘advice’ while I am cooking.

I AM IN THE KITCHEN! IT IS MY HAPPY PLACE! GO AWAAAAAAAAAAYYYYYYY!!!

namechangedforthis1980 · 15/08/2019 07:53

Does big dramatic sneezes, with a hack to the throat. Then moans that his throat now hurts Hmm!

Will get the ironing board out to iron his work shirt, then ask if there's any school uniform he could do FOR ME. Why for me?! They're not just my children!

Looks for things by just skimming an area, then gets very dramatic about how it's lost forever blah blah. I come along, pick something up and it's underneath Confused

DH over exaggerates how long it is before we have to leave to go somewhere. So if we need to leave in an hour, he'll immediately announce we're leaving in 45 minutes. It would be fine but he gets very stressed about it. So if I do something ( like put a quick wash load on) that will be finished by the time we need to leave, he gets incredibly anxious about it. I really wish he'd stop this one, he gets so wound up and I'm sure he'll make himself ill one day!!

rachelb76 · 15/08/2019 08:05

Oo I've got another one - can't choose a space in an empty car park, he needs to do three laps before a decision is made.

LaMarschallin · 15/08/2019 08:17

can't choose a space in an empty car park, he needs to do three laps before a decision is made.
I thought I was alone!

Although, my OH is a little more extreme...
The first time he gave me a lift (he was my boss at the time, purely someone from the workplace, so didn't feel I could say anything) we drove into a practically empty car park. He took several grand tours of it and scared me to death by yelling, "You bastard!" at another driver who just come in and parked - well away from us - in a space that presumably future OH had deemed would (eventually) be his.

LaMarschallin · 15/08/2019 08:19

I mean, yelling in the closed car about the other driver.
Not actually at them in their earshot or anything.

That would be unreasonable...

Itstheprinciple · 15/08/2019 08:23

This one applies to DH and DD. No one can ever take the initiative to get ready to leave the house until I say its time to go. I sit there waiting, just to see what will happen and the time ticks by until we absolutely have to leave or we'll be late and still no one makes a move to go to the loo or get their shoes on until I say! Just for once, I'd like other people to keep an eye on the time and nag everyone else to leave.

And yes to the skim look. Unless the item leaps from the fridge into his hands, he can't find it. Heaven forbid he might have to look behind the mayo jar.

Mystarisup · 15/08/2019 08:25

He hangs the tea-towel over the cupboard door under the sink by the tiniest amount of material.

So every single time you open the cupboarf door, the tea-towel falls to the floor.

We've nearly divorced over this.

golddustwomen · 15/08/2019 08:29

Never puts ANYTHING away.

Will wash up but gets water EVERYWHERE. Will never wipe the sides down either.

Eats so. fucking. loud.

Sniffs constantly.

This one is petty as hell but it winds me up so much I could scream. Never ever pushes his chair back in after eating at the table. Its such a simple thing I don't get why he can't physically do it ???!!!

Never folds his towel onto the radiator. Just chucks it on any old way and then complains it's still damp.

Folds his socks before putting into the washing basket/on the floor next to the basket!!

nornironrock · 15/08/2019 08:30

She puts jumpers/sweaters in the wash with one arm inside out and one arm the correct way.

She puts trousers in the wash with one leg inside out, and one leg the correct way.

She stacks things in a way that absolutely guarantees that they will fall over.

Original poster
FiveFarthings · 15/08/2019 08:33

A couple of other things my DH does that give me the rage-

Will leave the tap running whilst he cleans his teeth. Why?! The environment is suffering enough as it is without wasting two minutes of water. We have an en-suite so I can hear him whilst I’m in bed- I used to shout at him to turn the tap off but now I get out of bed and march into the bathroom to slam the tap off. Just wet your toothbrush at the start and turn the tap on and off when you need it you annoying man!

Will ‘have a tidy up’ but in reality this means combining several piles of paperwork and stuff into one bigger pile which he will line up with the corner of the table so it looks ‘tidier’ but in reality doesn’t actually put anything away.

Has several magazine subscriptions for cars/cycling but he doesn’t read them (they get a quick flick through and maybe a read on the toilet) but he will not throw them out! I went to chuck a cycling magazine that actually had a layer of dust on which was six months old and he objected saying he hadn’t read it yet. Grrrrrr you haven’t read the last six magazines that have come in the last six months, you are not suddenly going to sit down and read this one! Give me strength!

OP posts:
Daisypie · 15/08/2019 08:37

When I ask 'where is the tv remote?' he says 'I haven't the remotest idea.' Every time.
When he goes to the loo in the night he always wakes me by violently flinging open and slamming shut the bedroom and bathroom doors.

Racingthorn · 15/08/2019 08:39

Here are mine - very lighthearted
Doesn't dry his back after a shower so his shirt is always wet leaving the house
Apologises for everything - say if I dropped a cup he will say I'm sorry that's happened to you
Leaves every door and cupboard open
Doesn't drive into our driveway straight and cuts off the corner ever time so we go bump over the kerb and bash the rose bush every single time
He would say of me:
I'm a neat freak
I spend too much time on Mumsnet
I'm always telling him how to be a better driver
I'm bossy - I'm not I just like to be organised!

Daisypie · 15/08/2019 08:40

Leading to the furious conversation;
Why are you so loud with the doors? Why do you fling them open like that?
I wasn't loud. I don't know what you mean.
But you woke me up. Why do you think I'm awake if not for your loud door usage?

RavenLG · 15/08/2019 08:42

We’re waiting to redecorate the hall and will be getting (well DP is making a shoe cupboard) but currently they’re sat all lined up in the hall. Expect he doesn’t line them up and just leaves his massive clown shoes strewn about the hall! It pisses me off no end, I’m forever straightening them all back up.