To buy trousers for wok on my day off?

[FutureMrsC]

Dp thinks I am. Yesterday at work my work trousers got a rip in them. My other pair is a bigger size with no belt loops and will probably fall down whilst I'm working. Today is my day off I popped to shop picked up 2 pairs of trousers and put a cheque in the bank. Do rang me and said "oh your on the street" I simply said "I'm omw back 1 stop on bus from home, I was quick" he then moaned that over weekend I said I'd go put cheque in bank on Tues and he thought it wasn't necessary because I didn't need the money (money is from elderly relative for DC for a gift so has something to open on birthday rather than a piece of paper) and originally he said he would drop me to bank sat morning to pay cheque in but he overslept

Your DP is controlling you. You shouldn't feel the need to let them know where you are going or how you spend your free time. Or worry they can't contact you for an hour because of signal. Also, is he tracking you via find my iPhone or something? Might just be how I read it but I thought that was what you meant.

On my day off I'll do whatever I need/want to. If DP txts asking what I'm up to I'll tell him obv but I don't txt him at work to say where I'm going or look for approval.

So he doesn’t like you going out unless he deems it “worth it”?
Is it because you’re going out alone or does he just not like you doing something without his permission?
YANBU whatever his reasoning is he can’t stop you deciding what you need to do or would like to do with your time.

Were you expecting people to be on his side? I think you know that he is not being fair

OP is agree with others, he sounds like a controlling prick

Why should it matter how long you're out on your day off

OP, judging from your nickname, you’re planning to marry your DP right? Regardless of what happened that morning exactly, I’d be very wary to pledge to spend my entire life with someone who controls you to this degree. Even if it’s not abusive-controlling, but grumbling and nagging, stay away from him - it will wear you down completely.

I lived over 15 years with a grumbler who would call me as soon as I was running 1 minute late. Not any more. My quality of life and mental health has improved drastically.

He's the unreasonable one. You are an adult and you are allowed to go anywhere you want to without asking DH (in this case those letters might mean dickhead!). He sounds very controlling and you deserve to be with someone who respects you and doesn't question everything you do. I hope I'm wrong and have misinterpreted the situation, but if not, you should strongly consider your situation. Good luck

Unless you were supposed to he waiting in for a parcel or were supposed to be looking after something at home, then I don't understand the problem and agree with other posters that you're currently in a coercive relationship with someone who is likely a sociopath.

My partner sometimes sends me "are you still alive" texts if I've taken longer than expected. It's all in concern /humour because I'm easily sidetracked though. I'd tell him to sod off if he tried to control my movements (not that he would try)

I need to know, do you live together now as a family of 4? Did you find out the sex of your second twin?

I don't have any better advice OP than everyone else..

Listen to the others. He's a control freak. It's very difficult to extract yourself from relationships but I am an older woman; life is short. Too short to give it to horrid people.

I was in a relationship like yours (no dc). He dumped me. Broke my heart. I then met my dh. We've been together 30 years now. He's lovely. We argue but he remains my best friend.

Figure out why you chose your partner. He's probably similar to something in your history (we often choose familiar problems to look for solutions).

Choose a healthy life OP, you deserve it.

You are not unreasonable.

He is, however.

I would give him the elbow.

It sounds to me like he's upset with himself for letting you down on Saturday and so he should be the one taking you to the bank, but he thinks you've made some excuse to go out and did it yourself, thus somehow emasculating him.
Silly male pride

Buy yourself trainers instead & leg it!!

Just tried to see the previous thread doing AS - and it's giving me an error message.

Have you had it deleted, FutureMrsC?

Oh deary me, the OP is the one who her and DP have a child each in separate houses. I’m sure most people remember this
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3646085-To-be-annoyed-at-plans-cancelled-last-minute

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/parenting/3651284-Ex-partner-wants-a-phone-call-every-night-from-children
Sounds like a utter shitshow of a way to live.

he IS NOT the boss of you.do whatchu like when you like.the end

Thanks Bookworm - that's the thread I was trying to find but was getting an "Oops!" message from MN when I clicked on it through Advanced Search.

Good wind up. Were you bored?Try doing a word search it passes the time 😛

Hear hear @gingersausage

So this is a fake thread? Her stories don’t match...

I'm sure people come on AIBU to be nasty and bitchy in a way that they cant in real life. No need at all.

So this is a fake thread? Her stories don’t match

I thought that ... From what i can work out. She and her DP live seperately then they've split less than a month ago now hes calling her camplaining about buying trousers for work

@naught
When they split they took one pre school aged child each to live separately, she’s completely oblivious to the damage she’s doing to her kids only ever posts about the mannnnnnn 🤬

But they havent split have they bookworm else whats he doing phoning her about her work trousers

Her stories dont match up

She was quite clear in pp they had separate houses and a child each, I also think she’s the PP who orchestrated a split to be with an ex if I remember right🤔 Poor kids be better off in foster.