To buy trousers for wok on my day off?

[FutureMrsC]

Dp thinks I am. Yesterday at work my work trousers got a rip in them. My other pair is a bigger size with no belt loops and will probably fall down whilst I'm working. Today is my day off I popped to shop picked up 2 pairs of trousers and put a cheque in the bank. Do rang me and said "oh your on the street" I simply said "I'm omw back 1 stop on bus from home, I was quick" he then moaned that over weekend I said I'd go put cheque in bank on Tues and he thought it wasn't necessary because I didn't need the money (money is from elderly relative for DC for a gift so has something to open on birthday rather than a piece of paper) and originally he said he would drop me to bank sat morning to pay cheque in but he overslept

Do people really think the ‘wok’ jokes are funny? Especially as OP says ‘work’ in her OP?

This sounds like financial abuse at the very least but people have frightened away OP

Plenty of people have explained in naice MC language that you should be able to read

Oh my gosh. Are you actually suggesting that working class folk are less able to write intelligible text than middle class individuals?

Trousers with belt loops, woks, husbands and cheques. I don’t have any of those things and I’m feeling fine.

@JemimaPuddlePeacock no, I’m suggesting that the stuck up cows who are mocking the OP should read the translations that had been kindly written out for them.

As I’m a “working class folk” type myself.

Whst a ridiculous thing to worry about. When are you supposed to buy trousers? While you're at work?
Christ on a cracker..

But people haven’t said what happened. They have filled in the blanks and made their own story.

No one knows what happened except the OP and she hasn’t been back.

It’s incomprehensible.

There's no wonder the op hasn't been back. Sounds to me like she wanted advice, has a controlling partner and people have just taken the piss!

He sounds controlling

The OP isn't written that clearly, but it's it hard to see what she's asking about!

OP - it is not unreasonable of you to leave the house on your day off. The fact that you felt you needed an excuse to do so is worrying. Does he usually restrict what you are allowed to do? Or make it such a hassle for you (having to justify yourself etc.) that you give up and stay home?

^ 'it isn't hard to see'

For those struggling to understand:

Do rang me and said "oh your on the street"
Her DP questioned her about being out of the home (not necessarily an issue in itself)

I simply said "I'm omw [on my way] back 1 stop on bus from home, I was quick"
OP's response is defensive - it's clear that she feels the need to justify herself to him. It's the kind of response a young child might give if they'd gone out without permission, which indicates that there is a problem here.

he then moaned that over weekend I said I'd go put cheque in bank on Tues and he thought it wasn't necessary because I didn't need the money... ...originally he said he would drop me to bank sat morning to pay cheque in
This makes it pretty clear he doesn't like her going out generally, unless he's there to supervise. She was happy to go on her own, he told her she shouldn't.

Not so hard to understand, is it?

It’s pretty obvious that either English is not the OP’s first language or she’s just not very good at articulating her thoughts into typing. Most of you are way too old to still be behaving like playground bullies with your superior sneering. There’s no wonder the OP hasn’t come back.

This ^

One or two comments about a "wok" needing trousers - fine.

But it stopped being funny at about the third (same-y) comment on what was obviously a typo.

I think it’s less about the wok typo, more about how nonsensical the post is. Seems to veer from one topic to another and then end abruptly with no real AIBU, just a vague story about a cheque. I think OP would be better off posting again on the relationships board but checking her post before hitting ‘submit’ so it’s more literate and she’ll get better replies.

Ffs mn typo!!!!! Obv I meant work not wok. English is my first language, I'm as English as they come. Fast typing causes missed letters clearly!!

So what was your DP's issue then?

Right, let's try again. Saturday do was supposed to take me to bank to cash in cheque (cheque from elderly relative for DC for gift for birthday so have something to open on day) he overslept Saturday so I said I'd do it on Tuesday (today also my day off) I sent him a text this morning saying I will need to go to the shop to buy trousers for work as mid ripped at work yesterday. He didn't reply. I text him so if he tried to contact me and couldn't get through it because shopping centre has really bad signal for whatever reason. Just a polite thing to Do. He was not at home, he was at work so we had nothing planned obv. He rang me when I was on bus, 1 stop away from my house wanting to know where i was because he thought I was making an excuse to go out? :s even though from the time I went out til the time I came back was just under 40mins to go into 2 shops (I bought birthday card for DC as well as the work trousers got myself) and the bank. And 10mins of that time was actually waiting for the bus back!!!

*dp not do!!!

I don't understand why he thinks you shouldn't go out on your day off?

Why would you need an excuse to go out? He sounds like a knob.

So what if you wanted to go out?

Why would you need to make an excuse to go out?

I don’t understand. What was the reason he was cross?

So he thinks you shouldn’t have gone out and that you need his permission, is that it?

I still don’t get it.

You went out on your day off...and??