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To buy trousers for wok on my day off?

237 replies

FutureMrsC · 13/08/2019 11:15

Dp thinks I am. Yesterday at work my work trousers got a rip in them. My other pair is a bigger size with no belt loops and will probably fall down whilst I'm working. Today is my day off I popped to shop picked up 2 pairs of trousers and put a cheque in the bank. Do rang me and said "oh your on the street" I simply said "I'm omw back 1 stop on bus from home, I was quick" he then moaned that over weekend I said I'd go put cheque in bank on Tues and he thought it wasn't necessary because I didn't need the money (money is from elderly relative for DC for a gift so has something to open on birthday rather than a piece of paper) and originally he said he would drop me to bank sat morning to pay cheque in but he overslept

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Nautiloid · 13/08/2019 12:46

He checked where you were?

LillithsFamiliar · 13/08/2019 12:46

I'm so Confused I don't know if you put the cheque in the bank today. If he's annoyed that you said you'd put the cheque in but you bought trousers instead or if he's annoyed because you're in town and he expected you to be somewhere else.
As for your title, then of course YANBU to buy work trousers on your day off.

MoreFrog · 13/08/2019 12:55

scarlettio
You are welcome to the chuckle. Even though it came at great cost to me. Honestly. MNers.

tomatostottie · 13/08/2019 12:58

Don't know why some people don't seem to understand what the issue is here. I know there are a couple of spelling mistakes in the OP and it is quite poorly written but surely it's fairly obvious that the problem is the OP's DH thinks that she is unreasonable for going to town on her day off work to buy trousers for work and to cash a cheque.

I have no idea when the DH thinks the OP should go and get trousers other than on her day off.
Perhaps if we heard more of the backstory we might be able to give more sensible advice.
Had the DH and OP arranged to do something today and she just took off to town without telling him, thereby spoiling the plans for the day? Has the DH made some kind of bizarre rule that neither of them are allowed to do anything relating to work when they are not at work? Does the DH expect that they will both spend every minute of their precious time off together?
Was the issue that OP had gone off to town without letting him know (because he was asleep) and he was left responsible for the DC but didn't realize he was supposed to be looking after him?

00100001 · 13/08/2019 13:00

.... wut?

flowery · 13/08/2019 13:02

What is the nature of your DH’s concern OP?

He obviously has some problem with you buying trousers, but it’s not clear from your post what he is concerned about?

BruceAndNosh · 13/08/2019 13:11

What colour were the trousers?

dratalanta · 13/08/2019 13:16

OP, take the mockery on this thread as a sign that your "DP" is not only BU, he is being so plainly unreasonable that people can't take your question seriously.

It's your day off - spend it buying a babygrow for the gravyboat and a fascinator for the dishwasher if you feel so inclined. If FutureMrMrsC can't cope for an hour without whatever entertainment/cleaning/cooking services he expects you to provide, he should hire a personal assistant.

Of course, it's possible that he was upset because he had planned a delightful romantic excursion for the two of you, or was intending to celebrate your day off by bringing you brunch in bed. But this is a man who had a lie in rather than giving you a lift to the bank on Saturday, so the odds aren't great.

As said upthread, this is one for Relationships. Consider carefully before marrying someone who has a meltdown if you leave the house without his permission.

CaMePlaitPas · 13/08/2019 13:17

Is this an email that you've accidentally posted here and not sent?

AquarianSquirrel · 13/08/2019 13:19

Still laughing at "oh you're on the street". No idea why that's so funny!

Choice4567 · 13/08/2019 13:23

Wow. I’m hoping you hit post too early and then had to get on the bus. Surely there’s a second half to that OP where everything becomes clear

dollydaydream114 · 13/08/2019 13:24

Where was DP calling you from? Was he at home and didn't know where you'd gone and had been expecting to spend the day with you? Or was he calling from work? If the former, then I can see why he wondered where you'd disappeared to, but has no right to be in a strop once you'd explained that you'd popped out to the shops for an hour or so.

If the latter, then he's a fucking control freak and you need to get rid of him pretty sharpish. What the hell has it got to do with him whether you go shopping for a pair of trousers on your day off? Why would you spend your day off sitting in the house?

alligatorsmile · 13/08/2019 13:26

I've read it 3 times now and still none the wiser.

emerencemaybehopeful · 13/08/2019 13:26

Would it have been ok with him if you also bought non-work clothes?

Tonnerre · 13/08/2019 13:28

If my DP questioned what I choose to do on my day off like this, I'd tell him to get lost. How does it hurt him if you choose to bank the cheque and buy the trousers today? After all, if you weren't doing that you might have chosen to be out for other reasons, even just for a walk, it would make no difference to him.

LovePoppy · 13/08/2019 13:29

Wtf is wrong with your partner

DrierThanANunsNasty · 13/08/2019 13:31

This reads like one of those bot things.
Like OP fed 10,000 AIBU threads into a machine and this is what came out...

In the other hand, YANBU to do whatever the hell you like on your day off work.

BlackCatSleeping · 13/08/2019 13:41

The OP is only obvious if you use your imagination to fill in the blanks. Based on what was written, it makes no sense whatsoever.

MustStop · 13/08/2019 13:42

well tell him to cancel the cheque.

WendyBagina · 13/08/2019 13:43

@usersouthcoast

Could I have the korma recipe, please?

Illberidingshotgun · 13/08/2019 13:45

So he's moaning about how you are spending your day off?? What is his issue with buying some trousers? What does he think you should be doing instead??

Rach000 · 13/08/2019 13:51

So you had to justify that you were quick going out. So he doesn't like you leaving the house on your day off? Should you be spending the time doing the house chores and cooking? And does he track you as well?

Piglet89 · 13/08/2019 13:53

Is this something you learned on the Food Network? That your Asian cookery pan now needs clothing?

Ellie56 · 13/08/2019 13:57

Why does the wok need trousers? Does it need underwear and socks as well?

zeezee3 · 13/08/2019 13:58

@FutureMrsC

I literally did not understand a word of your OP.

Probably get a ticking off now from the forum police @NaughtToThreeSadOnions or @Wonkybanana Wink