To buy trousers for wok on my day off?

[FutureMrsC]

Dp thinks I am. Yesterday at work my work trousers got a rip in them. My other pair is a bigger size with no belt loops and will probably fall down whilst I'm working. Today is my day off I popped to shop picked up 2 pairs of trousers and put a cheque in the bank. Do rang me and said "oh your on the street" I simply said "I'm omw back 1 stop on bus from home, I was quick" he then moaned that over weekend I said I'd go put cheque in bank on Tues and he thought it wasn't necessary because I didn't need the money (money is from elderly relative for DC for a gift so has something to open on birthday rather than a piece of paper) and originally he said he would drop me to bank sat morning to pay cheque in but he overslept

I'm off to buy a wok for my work trousers.

Just hope DH doesn't realise I've slipped out without the Scratch Card.

morefrog no, not all men are like this.
Only the controlling dickhead ones.

@MoreFrog

All men are like that. It's just a matter of time.

This really, really isn't true!

@PinkHeart

I have a feeling someone did mention the all-important word "controlling" upthread.

Nobody has suggested the immortal line LTB yet though.

Do you want to go first?

I didn’t find the OP confusing to read, or funny, or boring.

I find OP’s partner’s objection to her perfectly mundane activities confusing, but that’s on him not on OP’s story telling.

OP, YADNBU and based on this your partner sounds like a dick.

The fact that you are having to check in case he might have a point makes me wonder if he is always an absolute dick, because it would be more normal for you to feel confident he is being totally unreasonable. It’s almost like you’ve grown accustomed to putting up with ridiculous controlling behaviour.

What in the name of god is your post about?

I guess he might not be controlling at all, it might just be a particularly gloomy whiney critical conversation style, but nonetheless I’d find that pretty hard going in a partner.

@JemimaPuddlePeacock

NellWilsonsWhiteHair can enlighten you.

morefrog no, not all men are like this.
Only the controlling dickhead ones

Well I had my tongue firmly in my cheek and was aiming for mildly comic. Missed the mark, obvs.

Does he think your employer should give you a (paid) hour out of the work environment to buy new work trousers?

Good luck with that!

I don't understand his objection - why can't you spend your day off in whatever way you choose?

I have been trying to persuade my wok to put its trousers on for ages and it simply refuses. I have very obstinate kitchen implements

I bought my work trousers off amazon... from the comfort of my fat lass sofa, maybe that would avoid these issues in the future? 🤷🏼‍♀️

If he makes you this anxious every time you displease him, you are being very unreasonable planning to marry him.

Seriously, think about it.

"oh your on the street"

Which street OP?

Well, was he at home? I can imagine if you woke up and your partner wasn’t there and hadn’t said where they were going, you might be annoyed.

If he was at work, it’s really weird for him to be bothered by this.

I did find the post confusing TBH.

Which street OP?

On The Street Where You Live.

@MoreFrog not all men are like that. A lot of them just have too much going on in their lives to worry what their female partner is doing on her day off - and going to buy work trousers and pay a cheque into the bank is tedious in the extreme.

LTB

Oh ffs. The post is not quite perfect English, there's a typo in the thread title, so everyone piles on being hilarious (not).

OP why does he think YABU for buying trousers work trousers on your day off? Don't most people buy their clothes when they're off work? He's obviously got some sort of problem with it, does he demand that you spend every spare moment with him? Does he have a problem with you spending money- even if it's yours and on something for you? You need to get to the root of why he's being arsey, but no, YANBU for buying work trousers on your day off.

@Wonkybanana

I’m pretty sure it’s the “why” that’s confusing people. It’s a pretty vital piece of information.

@ morefrog well I thought it was bloody funny , but I suppose there are a few folk out there with limited humour. You gave me a chuckle, in any case.

But when else are you supposed to buy them? When you're at work? When you're asleep?

He sounds very nosey and controlling; it's totally up to you what you do with your time off. Tell him to bugger off.

I think I understand you OP
I also think your DH is a controlling prat. Why is something so mundane even up for discussion between you?

I don't think people, at least not everyone, are trying to be hilarious. Just genuinely confused as to what the partner's problem is.