Hi all. Me again, and Facebook again 
This time, a woman posted a photo in a parenting group of her ten week old baby’s cot. It had a cot bumper and loose teddies in it. In the post the mother said she removes the teddies when her baby is asleep but keeps the bumper on as her baby gets their legs caught in the bars.
I commented: ‘Hey, not sure if you knew this, but cot bumpers are very unsafe and pose a potential suffocation/strangulation risk. If you’re worried about baby getting their legs caught in the bars you can put them in a sleeping bag.’
Perfectly polite and non-confrontational, or so I thought. But I then had a few comments saying that I was ‘shaming’ the mother ‘for her choices’ and I was a ‘keyboard warrior’.
I appreciate that being told something you’ve done is potentially unsafe for your child may be galling/upsetting, but I considered that she may not have even been aware that bumpers were unsafe. There were some things regarding safe sleep that I wasn’t aware of until someone told me (I have a baby myself). Also, if I discovered that a baby had suffocated on a bumper and I had known that there were bumpers in their cot but had not said anything for fear of upsetting the mother, I don’t think I could live with myself.
I am all for choices in regards to parenting (I’m firmly in the ‘fed is best’ camp when it comes to breast v bottle feeding and don’t think a mother should be shamed for whatever choice she makes in that regard) but when it comes to safety?
Am I wrong here? Should I have just kept my mouth shut?