Workings mums

[AliceWho12]

Without full context for full view which of these is more reasonable

1. Mum who works away Monday - Friday but has 15 weeks of holiday per year.

1. Mum who works four days a week, unable to take holiday in January, July and August and the four days are long days (leaving at 6am returning at 8pm).

No 1. Earns 11k more.

Kids ages 8, 5, 3.

Held settle a debate between me and my husband.

Neither is unreasonable.

Both have their pros and cons. That’s not much help though.

More reasonable, on what? The children?

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What hours does mum 1 work? How many weeks holiday does mum 2 get?

Both ok but I think 2 is better.

Depends on what you both want tbh.
Personally I wouldn’t want an extra 11k if it meant having to live away from my family 5 nights a week. That’s just me though I’m a home bird and always have been.
You might prefer the longer holidays and work away.
It’s not really a right or wrong situation I don’t think.
What works best for all the family?

Yes more reasonable long term, for the children.

1 would be my preferred option, assuming annual leave can be taken to coincide with school holidays

1. works more standard 35/40 hour week.

1. Gets 5 weeks (pro-rated) holiday a year.

I suspect the children would prefer 2

Hmm...if I was the mum in question I would probably prefer option 2. Holidays could be taken in June (I'm in Scotland so slightly earlier school holidays) and I'd at least have the chance of seeing my kids at night. I don't think the extra money would be worth it for me.

This is impossible with no context. Every family is different. Pointless to ask randoms to judge.

No. 2 means you're out of the house during the children's waking hours anyway, given their ages

I think 3 is too young to cope without mum Monday-Friday. Fully admit that view is hypocritical when I wouldn't say the same if dad worked away.

I would prefer option 1.

Let’s be honest you cannot have 3 young children and not be there for them Monday to Friday .
In my opinion it’s outrageous.
I don’t care how much money the person earns or how big a house they have or how well looked after they are by nannies or family .
It’s outrageous .

Is there a similar debate going on over the dad’s working pattern?

Mum earns double currently than Dad.

Dad works from home.

avamiah what makes you think they aren’t being looked after by their other parent?

avamiah Even if dad was a sahd or his work hours allowed this?

Why is it different for mum?

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15 weeks is a good amount off (I currently have 13 weeks off per year) quality over quantity. And option 2 means never taking time off in school holidays

2 for me, but it’s a personal decision. My DH is great, very hands on & works better hours so either would work for us.

For clarity - confident the children would get attentive parental care (as they currently do) in both situations.

1 as long as the other parent is onboard with it.