To think certain places can have a bad energy?

[NineteenThirtyOne]

Lived in our current house for 10 months. Pretty much from day one it felt like it had a dark energy, to the point where visitors would comment on how it felt. It feels dull and the atmosphere is oppressive. It's honestly very depressing to live here but we can't afford to move house just yet.

Not to mention that so many bad things have happened since we moved here

AIBU to think that some places just feel strange? Has anyone else been somewhere and experienced this?

And you don’t think it’s more likely that having had a seriously miserable time since you moved in, with relationship problems and the struggle of adjusting to life with a baby, that this causes your dark view of the house rather than is caused by it? Your parents’ house represents a break from that, and hence feels lighter.

And honestly, I have difficulty believing that your family actually say ‘We don’t want to visit you because your house is creepy, so see ya!’

@SperanzaWilde It isn't just that though is it, because visitors also say the same thing. are you saying that what's happening in their lives is also causing them to have the same feelings as soon as they step foot into the house?

As PP have said, unless you've experienced it then you really have no idea.

I just have difficulty imagining visitors spontaneously telling you how unpleasant your house feels unless they’re responding to what you say about it,...?

Yes, very true! Coming back to this thread later. Am jet lagging hard and my melatonin is finally kicking in.

I had this with a friends house . It was modern not old . Same thing just heavy cold feeling every time I visited . Apparently they did find out something about where it was built ? Crossing of lay lines or something that used to happen there years ago . Sorry can’t remember what it was. But they felt it too , hence why they investigated.

@Tryingtoslim just after you leave Leeds, on the way to Manchester on the M62, there is a bridge that is a well known suicide spot. It has been used all too frequently in recent months & the motorway has to shut down while they sort out the aftermath. They’re talking about putting one of those roof cages on it.

I read this thread last night and creeped myself out. But today I've just realised this has happened to me.
A house when I was growing up- NEVER warm.

I moved into my parents bedroom when they had an extension and many nights I would get scared and have the feeling of being watched.

But the family didn't talk about it- only when we moved out did we mention what we felt and different going's on.

I had completely forgotten until now. The house never felt happy.

Do you have a carbon monoxide alarm?

Has the house recently been refurbished? That can cause an oppressive feeling, eg if new floors are laid on top of old, creating strange echoes or sound waves.

Have you got any high frequency plug ins eg the sort to repel mice?

I'd be tempted to burn white sage in all the rooms (can buy it from eBay in dried bundles all ready for smudging!)

Also ask your local vicar to pop in. My friend's a vicar and says she gets asked to bless/perform exorcisms on houses a lot, it's not an unusual request.

I'd try to maximise light, maybe replace some of the light fittings and add lamps, air the whole house often, add bright colours.

I once lived in a house that felt very oppressive and foreboding. We'd renovated it and it seemed to disturb the energy of the house or something (it felt fine before we started knocking down walls!) My exH and his first wife divorced while living in that house and we divorced after only a few years of marriage. The house was old and full of shadows/dark corners/weird stuff in the attics/strange objects we dug up in the garden.

Lived in one as a student that was huge, some rooms I hated going into and there was a spot on the stairs none of us limed. My mother refused to cross the threshold the first time she visited, said the energy was overwhelmingly bad. Lot of odd stuff happened there, and when I researched it it had a lot of connections to my family. Very strange and I still have nightmares about it 30 years later.

@FairportConvention What kind of connections?

When I first moved out I lived in a ground floor flat with my partner. It was a conversion of some sort and not laid out like a normal home at all. There was a weird bedroom/walk in wardrobe bit at the back which had a misted out window. A short while after my daughter was born I started having dreams about this flat. There was always something bad coming out of this room. I used to wake in the night and find myself staring at it. One morning I felt like there was something so bad in there that I had a panic attack. I cannot describe it. Something just didn't feel right in that place. I have never felt like that about any other homes I have visited.

No. There are many conscious and subconscious factors that create aversion to places but just saying 'energy' is bad science.

100% this.

I despair at this thread...salt circles, sage, blessings etc. Complete bunkum. The lack of critical thinking skills by so many is what I find depressing, more so than any "bad house vibes".

Get a grip people. It's a pile of nicely arranged bricks with a roof, divided into rooms. Ithas not bad or good energy. It is what you make of it.

Yes, I'm sensitive to the atmosphere in houses. I can walk into a building and know instantly that I can't live there.

Of course there's every possibility this is nothing but a subjective phenomenon, but what's interesting is when numerous people get the same vibes about the same place.

That said, a woman supposedly gassed herself to death in my Grandma's old kitchen: a warm, sunny, pleasant room where we never felt anything other than safe and comfortable.

The whole of our universe: the stars, planets, even us, is supposedly created from the same energy (I'm no astrophysicist, so TBF I'm not understanding this in the least). But it's not entirely beyond the bounds of possibility that some of that energy remains when the (human-constructed) linear space-time continuum has moved on. But nor do I subscribe to the materialist stance that if I can't physically see it, I don't believe in it.

Interesting thread!

Sometimes you feel the opposite. Our house is 1920s, we’re only the third owners. All have raised three children in it like us, everybody walks in and just feels the ‘home’ sense. Upright women with cleaning obsessions I’ve seen kick off their shoes and snuggle into an old blanket really quickly. We know old owners, they say the same. It just feels good in some way, it’s not fancy or anything and is a bit tired. It’s not a neutral feel of being ok, just warm peaceful feeling to it all.

Not sure it’s quite the same but also is. I’ve only been on the m62 between Leeds and Manchester 3 times but all the times I’ve felt really uncomfortable. The last time I was driving and I found it so hard to concentrate and decided I would try very hard not to go on it again. Not sure why just felt weird

I feel the same on that stretch of road, whenever I've been in a car or coach on it, just makes me feel really uncomfortable but not sure why.

I have definitely experienced this in other people's houses but thankfully not my own.

I believe the reverse also exists. When I was house hunting after I retired I had barely stepped foot inside my current home before I knew I had to buy it.

As soon as I got in the EA's car outside I made an offer which the owner turned down. So I offered full asking price which she accepted. I would have paid more if she had asked. I've lived here 16 years now and still love it and will never move.

I hope you can find your perfect place too.

"I'm no astrophysicist"

You're surprising no one.

"I'm no astrophysicist"

You're surprising no one.

Any need? How ill-mannered and rude you are. Hope your mother's proud of you.

NC
With work we used to have to check this very lonely place by a railway sidings at night. I went there with three male colleagues and you go down an alley, over a caged bridge and the path continues but the ground is more open although it’s wooded/waste ground.
Despite being with the 3 men I was absolutely terrified and felt sure something bad was going to happen to me. One of the men said something dreadful has happened here.
I think it’s part of the Green Chain Walk in S London.

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This is one of the reasons why I never mock or dismiss people who experience "woo" type phenomenon.

Over 20 years ago I used to work for a company that made vibration analysis equipment. One of the industry journals published a very similar story about an engineer who was working in a lab that had a haunted reputation. He was testing vibration analysis equipment and when he experienced the sensation of someone standing behind him he decided to test everything in the lab.

He discovered a pipe that was vibrating at a certain frequency and then using the equipment was able to work out what was causing the pipe to intermittently vibrate at that frequency. Fixed the problem and goodbye haunted lab.

This was published in a reputable journal and was a case study in how vibration analysis could be used to problem solve.

I think a lot of things that people experience as supernatural are either things that have a scientific basis we don't necessarily understand or psychological phenomena. Eg the whole succabus/sleep paralysis phenomena.

There have always been rooms in various places where I felt a sense of fear.
One was at my current workplace. Most of the time it was fine, but on some things occasions when locking up I couldn't get out of there quick enough and always left one of the doors open and ran.
I eventually came to realise that this only happened on a Friday. On Friday minor ops happen in that room and often the ultrasound machine is left on.
So it's something to do with that.
This has made me much more willing to believe that other experiences had a simple explanation.

I’m an open-minded person who will always try to look for a range if possible reasons for something. But the bottom line is if a place feels troubling and doing a blessing ir smudging feels useful, just do it! Some things don’t need an evidence base - if doing them causes no harm and psychologically we feel better. The bad feeling could be caused by anything from the way light falls through to electromagnetic energy. Personally, I feel that places can hold a feeling for good or ill and it’s interesting to consider why.

One PP has mentioned that she knew instantly that she had to have house she viewed. Did any of the PP who are uncomfortable in their homes have any feelings that their prospective homes had a bad feeling?
I have sage smudged a house but I could not live there. I did the smudging because of a family squabble that took place in the house. I could not live there because of it being a townhouse with so many stairs. Each room on a different level. I have a congenital problem with my legs. So not the house's fault I could not live there

My last house. I couldn’t explain it, as visually it was a beautiful property, but I felt uneasy and unhappy the whole time we lived there. We ended up moving, and lost a lot of money due to this, but it was the best decision we could have made.