To think certain places can have a bad energy?

[NineteenThirtyOne]

Lived in our current house for 10 months. Pretty much from day one it felt like it had a dark energy, to the point where visitors would comment on how it felt. It feels dull and the atmosphere is oppressive. It's honestly very depressing to live here but we can't afford to move house just yet.

Not to mention that so many bad things have happened since we moved here

AIBU to think that some places just feel strange? Has anyone else been somewhere and experienced this?

I agree completely OP! We used to live in a very old house that had previously been 2 cottages - I always felt uneasy in the half that had been one cottage and perfectly fine in the other. It was a very old, Tudor house, so lots of quirks, creaky floors etc, but one ‘cottage’ felt warm and comfortable and the other felt odd. We moved - I didn’t like it.

@littlepeas How strange! Something horrible must have occurred in the other cottage for it to feel like that.

What have you seen OP?

We were very very happy when we moved here initially, but actually since living here we've split up twice..

Well there you go then.

You have relationship problems. That's bound to make you feel and depressed.

It's not the pile of bricks surrounding you.

Yes. My dad went out with a woman whose mother lived in a house with the most horrendously dark atmosphere. I was 13 and wouldn't go to the loo on my own. The whole house made me feel like there was a heavy weight on my shoulders.

A couple of years ago on holiday we were driving around Porlock and Porlock Weir, I had a feeling of dread and unease all around that area, I felt like a weight had been lifted when we got in to Minehead. Really odd.

Yes, our neighbors house goes up for rent every few years. We’ve been here 16 years and every couple in that house splits up within a year of them moving in.

@BenWillbondsPants I was going through the nesting period just before DS arrived. I couldn't sleep for weeks, had terrible insomnia and often did the house work at 2/3am in the morning.

Anyway, I was downstairs in the kitchen doing the dishes. We have a dining room in between the front room and the kitchen. In the corner of my eye I saw a white figure in the dining room walking through to the front room.

I actually left the kitchen and walked into the front room to see if it was there..

You’re experiencing it yourself, you know it’s true.
Some people are less perceptive about it than others, but I doubt there is anyone who feels exactly as comfortable anywhere, no matter what.

I also think it is not necessarily the obvious things that make a house creepy. We currently live opposite a graveyard and next to a Victorian mental institution (from the torture days) and our house is warm and lovely and I’m completely comfortable here. My mum’s perfectly standard interwar house is weird though and I don’t like going there.

@littlepeas Agree about that. My dad lived very close to a cemetery and his house never felt strange, in fact the opposite.

I've also always hated being in my sister's house.

She's had loads of things done to it and it's bright and airy but there's a negative energy in it which feels oppressive to me.

I can't explain it. She and her family love it though. But I feel sad and lonely inside the house. Even the garden makes me miserable.

@NineteenThirtyOne well that would freak me out too. Could it have been lack of sleep? Sometimes our mind plays tricks on us when we're so completely exhausted.

I used to work in a pub many moons ago and I never felt comfortable in the area around the fireplace. No idea why, I just felt almost panicked whenever I was there even if it was full of people.

Thinking about it now my cousins house had layers of this. Certain areas in her house were fine but step out of those and something was really off. I particularly hated the bottom of her stairs and the top landing just below the (highly decorated) glass loft hatch.

@BenWillbondsPants I don't think so, no. I slept a lot during the day because I had iron deficiency so I never felt tired at night.

I was always wide awake at night time

I have a couple of friends who swear this is true and that it affects their own properties. One avoids entering certain rooms in his own house. Both friends claim to have seen ghosts.

Despite being credulous suggestible to woo in my youth (now a dyed in the wool sceptic) I have never felt anything amiss in either property.

Some cemetries aren't creepy at all, my little village one in Italy has 4/5 (possibly more) generations of my relatives in it so I pop in most times I pass it to say 'hello'.

@CathyorClaire Yes, certain rooms in my house I also avoid.

Absolutely, yes. l've only ever 'saged' one house, and l still can't tell you why. l just felt like l needed to do it. l was only there for a short time (5 months) and it was just weird.
l'd be lying in bed and there'd be noises downstairs as if somebody was rattling a door handle, trying to open a door. lt was a detached house right in the corner of the estate, so it wasn't neighbour noise, and l never heard it when l was downstairs. l can't say l was sorry to leave. '

Maybe I'll try sage. We have only 2 months to go until our tenancy is finished and I can't wait.

Actually, now l come to think of it, l went to stay with an ex in Wales. Perfectly nice house on the face of it, but l couldn't bear it - it felt very oppressive and stifling. lt got so bad one evening that l suggested we walk to the all night supermarket (in the pouring rain!) just so l could get out of there.
lt was his parents house (they were away on holiday) and it just didn't feel right. l never went back, he always came to me after that.

I would

1. Get the house blessed
2. Get in touch with a good quality local psychic
3. Perform some form of ritual (with sage) but ask the spirit what it wants might be able to help them/ release the energy

Totally agree. I don't think it's anything supernatural, more that some places just have an atmosphere.

It always makes me wonder what must've happened here for it to feel so awful.

I think that if this is how you feel OP then it is 100% valid. Whether there's anything in it or not is immaterial really. My SIL is a bit woo like this and moved house three times in two years for this very reason. She's been where she is now for around a decade and says the house has a 'good' feel to it.
I think this is one of those things that if you haven't experienced it you probably shouldn't denounce it as nonsense. It clearly IS NOT nonsense to the OP.