Heterosexuality is not a disease? Or aibu?

[theoriginalgin]

I have an acquaintance who has for many years identified as Queer. She's gradually become more and more militant about LGBT + rights in recent times and has started to make some quite offensive statements about heterosexuality and heterosexuals in general.

As a heterosexual person I generally hear these things and don't react because I don't feel that there's any response I can give that won't get me an ear bashing about "the patriarchy" and my "privilege".

However today she's bought home a cushion that she's posted a photo of on Instagram which says "heterosexuality is a disease". I strongly disagree with this and I find it truly offensive. I don't think any sexuality is a disease and I don't think that this is an ok thing to say. I think if a heterosexual person said that about homosexuality for example, they'd be called out for it and probably absolutely lambasted for being homophobic on social media. And yet nobody has said a word to her about this!

AIBU? And if not, any ideas for a witty response to get the point across?

It would have been edgy and thought provoking in the 50s or 60s, just yawn inducing now.

NottonightJosepheen go right ahead!

Please explain why on earth its relevant to bring in a specific case into THIS discussion?

The comment you were referring to was talking about POC in general (as the oppressed group) and somehow you think that its related to the Rochdale grooming gang?

Reread her comment about WHY oppressed groups can make jokes rather than discuss what you feel specific people can or cant do.

As a white person, I will never have a problem with people of colour making jokes about white people.

Me neither, but this doesn't make it ok, any more than some black people not objecting to jokes about them makes that ok.

You cant be racist towards white people. The end.

Josephine...

R U ok Hun?

It's a joke pillow mocking the fact that this has been said about homosexuals for years. It is to point out how ridiculous it is and you have proved the point!

Also OP you seem so offended by a statement you've seen once on a pillow? Imagine if people said mean things to your face, how would you cope.

People have said awful things to me for years, I've been spat at, hit, mocked at work, not taken seriously and told i'm "greedy" because im bisexual. Literally something that has nothing to do with anyone else.

It's not a case of 2 wrongs don't make a right it's about making a point to show how ridiculous it is to think sexuality is a disease. You dont think it is (great) but some people still do so this statement is aimed at them.

Oh, good lord, it is a joke FFS.

I am so, so, so endlessly tired of this idea you must never, ever use sarcasm of humour to get a point across.

Fine if you don't find it hilarious funny.

Fine if you think it's boring.

Fine if you just really don't give a shit.

But FFS, don't go around desperate to take offence. It makes you sound like a po-faced teenager who wouldn't recognise real life if it farted indiscreetly in your presence.

Invite yourself for coffee. Surreptitiously fart on her cushion.

Well, the cushion is right, according to the old joke - “Life is a sexually transmitted terminal disease”!
I’d ignore the cushion, and not give her the satisfaction of getting a rise out of you.
Do you still enjoy her company, or is she starting to be an uber woke, self righteous pain? If the latter, time to back off and find new friends.

heaven forbid we hurt the feelings of the terminally oppressed straight people hahaha.

@East7thst terminally repressed, you mean

It seems like a joke to me, a play on the idea that people used to say homosexuality was a disease - an attempt at being subversive

You can’t challenge this without the AHA! moment from the person trying for a reaction. It doesn’t sound like she meant it as a joke.

I’d ignore it and if she asks, tell her I think it’s as stupid a comment as ‘homosexuality is a disease’.

I don’t think it’s funny, ironically or not. It’s about as interesting as having a cushion with ‘my house is square’ on it.

What does her being a vegan got to do with the cushions? Why mix the two issues OP?

I wouldn't be offended by this, but I wouldn't engage with her either. Just block/unfollow or pretend you're out when she knocks if you know her in real life.

What does her being a vegan got to do with the cushions?

It's not that she is Vegan but that she is a militant Vegan - sounds like she always goes aggressively evangelical about her causes.

In a society that has allowed itself to descend in to some kind of warped idea of how a "civilization" should live...Which historically has never ended well anyway...What else do you expect but for right being left, good being bad and heterosexuality being a disease. Nothing shocks me at all these days.

She says she’s queer rather than gay or bi? What does that mean anyway.

Straight, but has purple hair and mostly dates fellas who wear eyeliner.