He booked crappy "holiday" for us aibu to be a bit annoyed?

[yesnomaybes]

Been saving for a cheap UK break.
Boyfriend said he was going to sort it as a surprise.
It was a surprise all right.
He has booked a caravan park (park dene resorts) less than 10 minutes from our house for a week.
Now it's not the fact it's a caravan,I enjoy a little caravan trip ...but 10 mins from our house...what is the point.
Nothing new to explore,or towns close by to visit that we don't go to all the time.
It's cost £409 for a week (well Monday to Friday )
Would you be a bit miffed ?

Umm, OP I think the lying and stealing £100 is worse than the daft choice of location. It’s as though he thinks so little of you that he can lie and put no effort in with impunity. That’s just cruel. I think you’re worth more.

He’s a lying wanker who would have wasted hundreds on the most idiotic choice of location. Shall we set our calendars for five years time when OP writes about how her prick of a nowDH has done something similarly shit? Followed by “OMG I have three DC under five, I cannot LTB” . Come in spinner ...

So what did he day when you told him you had swapped the sites?

"it's our joint money so he can do what he likes with it"

That's the exact opposite of what joint money means?
Often couples have joint money for joint expenses, and then personal spends that they can do what they like with. He's simply stealing from you, it's a bit weird that this doesn't bother you.

I'm not gonna bother asking him as it's our joint money so he can do what he likes with it,I just hate silly fibs

But what is his reaction to you changing location and the drive now being more that 8/10 whatever miles from home?

So have you told him you are going to Tummel Valley?

Does he know about the change in location yet?

Are you sure he’s not called Tom Archer?

Oooh...we went to Tummel Valley. Was really nice. Right near a river and also, very close to Edradour distillery. Leave the kids in the car with DH and have a tour and buy some expensive whisky.

Oh, that's totally crap OP. So disappointing

Tummel Valley is fab, that's our favourite park. Beautiful scenery but the road up to is a nightmare. There's a cafe in Pitlochry which makes the best carrot cake in the world. Hopefully the weather improves though as it's horrendous in Scotland at the moment.

Joint money means he can't do what he likes with it. Weird lies like this would make me question what else he lies about.

Glad you got it changed.

He sounds like a tool! Is he normally this dim? Have you asked him what he was thinking?
If it's taken you a while to save for this holiday, I'd be miffed about the £109

Hope you have a lovely time now.

"He pocketed £100 of the savings for the holiday and lied to you about it?"

So he's not just a lazy thoughtless git by booking the easiest and laziest option for a "holiday" and pretending it's ok, but he's also a liar and a thief!

I don't understand why you're so laid-back about this?! I would be furious! and very concerned... this is red flag behaviour.

I thought the same @Bootikin! The signs are all there!

I'd be really angry if we'd taken a while to save the money for the holiday then DH pocketed 25% of it without telling me! I can't understand why that doesn't bother you. Let's hope he spends it on the family when you're on holiday.

Raise your bar OP. Your bf is a liar, a thief and a durrbrain to boot.

I'm not gonna bother asking him as it's our joint money so he can do what he likes with it.
I don't understand how you can take this attitude. What if he'd blown the whole £400 on something just for himself? Surely the whole point of joint money is that you both get a chance to input what it's spent on. Still, have a lovely holiday in your new location.

Joint money means it's yours too. By your logic you could have spent it all on a shopping spree and he wouldn't say anything about it?

He's taken £100 of his and YOUR money and you're letting it slide. Why?

Has he been controlling or entitled before?

This thread is really winding me up because she’s just accepting his behaviour like it is fine!!

"This thread is really winding me up because she’s just accepting his behaviour like it is fine!!"

Yup.

Some people put up with any old shit, don't they?

It’s really none of your business though. She didn’t ask for anyone’s opinion on the intricacies of her relationship, she asked if we agreed he’d booked a shit holiday.
Don’t get wound up. Forget it.

Lying about the cost of the holiday - nope
Pocketing over a quarter of the savings - nope

This is not a “silly fib”, @yesnomaybes.

Dear OP. Congratulations on your wonderful bargain. Through this experience you have learned (and I urge you to put the rose tinted goggles away and explore further) exactly what a tit you are shacked up with.

Compared to many threads in this forum that is cheap at the price and money very well spent.

Now come on! Sharpen up your ideas and raise the bar. This is not acceptable on several levels.

Dp obviously didn't care about her reaction to him booking so near to home and let's face it, he must have known what her reaction would be.
He lies.
He steals.

Oh op, please don't think any of this is normal behaviour. What else do you put up with day to day?

I'm concerned that you don't even think it's worth bothering to mention.

Maybe park it for now and have a great holiday then seriously consider his behaviour when you get home. I suspect you don't want to confront him about the cost now because you know it'll escalate and spoil the holiday. Do think about it afterwards though.