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He booked crappy "holiday" for us aibu to be a bit annoyed?

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yesnomaybes · 08/08/2019 22:51

Been saving for a cheap UK break.
Boyfriend said he was going to sort it as a surprise.
It was a surprise all right.
He has booked a caravan park (park dene resorts) less than 10 minutes from our house for a week.
Now it's not the fact it's a caravan,I enjoy a little caravan trip ...but 10 mins from our house...what is the point.
Nothing new to explore,or towns close by to visit that we don't go to all the time.
It's cost £409 for a week (well Monday to Friday )
Would you be a bit miffed ?

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yesnomaybes · 09/08/2019 16:02

I don't have a clue where the extra money went.
Maybe a surprise holiday gift for me ...girl can dream.
Ha ha
I'm not gonna bother asking him as it's our joint money so he can do what he likes with it,I just hate silly fibs.

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caballerino · 09/08/2019 16:03

I'm not gonna bother asking him as it's our joint money so he can do what he likes with it,I just hate silly fibs.

Exactly, so you ask him about the lying.

Unless you're afraid of the answer?

dollydaydream114 · 09/08/2019 16:12

Whoa, hang on. I thought the booking of a holiday eight minutes' drive away was just hilarious stupidity by a well-meaning simpleton, but the money thing puts an entirely different slant on it. If he just said £409 by mistake when he meant £309, that's fine, but if he has pocketed £100 of your joint savings for some reason and deliberately told you a lie about it, that's really shitty. I don't think I could let that go. It would be bad enough in isolation but in combination with booking a holiday within spitting distance of your front door, it's very suspicious.

kalinkafoxtrot45 · 09/08/2019 16:15

He booked a stupid holiday and then fibbed about the cost - and you aren’t questioning him about it??

Did he expect you to walk there too and save petrol?

goldfinchfan · 09/08/2019 16:28

Glad you got the booking changed. Hope you have a great time.

Not sure what to say about the money part. Hope things work out.

diddl · 09/08/2019 16:28

I was thinking that you would change the holiday, take a friend & dump him tbh.

He sounds awful.

Motoko · 09/08/2019 16:52

He can't do whatever he wants with that money, it's JOINT savings! And if you've had to save up for a £300/400 holiday, you're not rolling in money, a 100 quid is a lot. He doesn't get to spend it without a discussion and agreement, with you.

I don't understand why you seem so unconcerned about his lying, and taking of the money.

Proseccoinamug · 09/08/2019 16:56

Hang on a minute, are you sure he hasn’t booked it through groupon or wowcher? They have a cheap deal on parkdene resorts at the mo.

OhioOhioOhio · 09/08/2019 16:57

diddl has a great plan

Proseccoinamug · 09/08/2019 16:58

Ok,I’ve rtft. The lying is the most concerning part.

Wonkybanana · 09/08/2019 16:59

Same as Motoko. The first post said that you had saved up for this, implying that £400 is not small change to you. What did you go without to save that money? What did he go without?

Fourtimesthefun · 09/08/2019 17:01

Did he want to invite his mates along too?

Make sure he hands over that £100 to cover the admin fee and for spending money. Keep all other finances separate from now on.

BornInAThunderstorm · 09/08/2019 17:01

Yes sorry but taking a quarter of your joint savings and lying about it is a massive issue for me. That’s plenty for the fuel he was so worried about using, meanwhile you’re also down another 40 for the change of venue Angry

Delatron · 09/08/2019 17:01

I don’t understand this either. £100 is a lot of money and he lied. You can’t be bothered to ask him about it?

Cocobean30 · 09/08/2019 17:02

No it’s your joint money so he should not do what he likes with it. Sounds like a fucked up dynamic to me OP. You at least need to confront him about the kissing money and shit holiday.

IAintWroteNoPoetry · 09/08/2019 17:02

I don’t understand why you aren’t questioning him about lying about the money

Cocobean30 · 09/08/2019 17:03

*missing money

BruceAndNosh · 09/08/2019 17:03

Maybe the additional £109 was for travelling expenses?!

Cheeserton · 09/08/2019 17:03

Why on earth wouldn't you ask about the extra hundred? Confused

magoria · 09/08/2019 17:16

I don't understand why you aren't more upset about him telling you the holiday cost more than it did and pocketing the difference to spend on himself rather than you as a family which is what it was saved for.

This, along with the crappy holiday shows a lot about how he sees you.

thatwouldbeanecumenicalmatter · 09/08/2019 17:26

Look I have a joint account with DH, we both know we can spend a certain amount and we're not going to police each other over it as long as it's not a crazy amount that means bills don't get paid. You sound like you have a similar attitude yet he feels the need to lie to you to extract an extra £100 without your knowledge - why?

JamieLeeBee · 09/08/2019 17:32

For those of us who simply dont have the money to go on holiday, we wouldn't care where we went as long as we spent time together. Be it 10 minutes away or not!

ElleDubloo · 09/08/2019 17:34

@JamieLeeBee - in that case, surely you’d rather stay in your own home and save the money?

Delatron · 09/08/2019 17:53

Yes, if you have no money it would be ridiculous to spend £400 to sit in a caravan 8 minutes away no?

Motoko · 09/08/2019 18:05

Yes, if you have no money it would be ridiculous to spend £400 to sit in a caravan 8 minutes away no?

Exactly, if it's about spending time together, you can do that at home, no need to waste £400!

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