Light hearted... But AIBU to think that my sister (who has a PhD) should know this?

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My sister had her baby a couple of months ago. He had a fever, tested for bacteria but no bacteria grew so it was ruled. My elimination process it had to be a a virus... To which her anwer was... "But I thought breast milk gave the baby all viral antibodies!" I almost wanted to strangle her... Obviously you only pass the ones you're immune to! AIBU to think she should know this? Especially considering she's not dumb as she has a PhD in criminal law??

Oh you sound awful

What? So you know something that she doesn't? I'm sure with her PhD she knows a lot that you don't know. Weird to slag her off on here and it isn't really light hearted. Also, she's a new mum - give her a break!

I think it's a pretty optimistic view of breastfeeding, but some people do promote breastfeeding as a sort of cure-all for everything, so I'm not surprised that this can get people a bit carried away. And a Ph.D. in criminal law won't necessarily prevent this; it's not as though she had it in medicine or even biology.

The most important thing about it is: is her baby OK now?

Jesus if this is you being lighthearted I wouldn't want to be around you when you decide to be a bitch.

Hahaha....I know where you're coming from. My older sister (had her kids a couple years ahead of me) passed so much knowledge on to me, which I now consider common knowledge, lol. There's definitely a learning curve with kids. No matter how smart you are.

I have a PhD in virology - but I know absolutely nothing about criminal law... and I'm fairly hazy on some aspects of virology that aren't directly linked to the one RNA virus I've spent 8 years working on.

Treat your sister as you'd like to be treated yourself.

Call her university and tell them to revoke her qualifications.

Stop being a knobend.

You sound like a nightmare OP.

I actually think she is closer to being right than you are, there is a feedback mechanism whereby mothers immune system responds to immune system threats in the baby. I’m not sure why it is such a big deal though.

op YANBU. I have a PhD in physics and hence know literally everything about everything including all there is to be known about antibody transfer during breast feeding.

Your sister probably bought her PhD.....its the only explanation....

I have absolutely no interest in breastfeeding.

I’m perfectly intelligent.

Hopefully OP is not replying because she's busy ordering her sister a bouquet of flowers, with a card saying "I'm sorry for being a twat."

I actually just replied with a "not necessarily" and linked her to that NHS article. We don't talk at all as well we can't stand each other on the best of days.

Yes, her baby is fine. They said they'd keep him for 14 days if it was bacterial but it wasn't.

I have a feeling this thread may get pulled for “being outing”

We don't talk at all as well we can't stand each other on the best of days.

You shock me. Just stay away from her and let her live her life without your negative influence.

OP - if you’d started your thread saying AIBU to have put one over on my sister who is always rude and patronising to me, you might have got a better response. As it is you have come across as smug and a little unkind to a woman with an unwell child.

I actually just replied with a "not necessarily" and linked her to that NHS article. We don't talk at all as well we can't stand each other on the best of days

Why would anyone do this to a person with a sick baby? This is a very dysfunctional relationship. Walk away for both your sakes.

You've really shot yourself in the foot with this thread op.

I’d have known this when I stopped to think about it, but it might not have been initially obvious to me

It's the 'Well Done You' medal.

How clever you are OP and how stupid is your sister, even though she has a PhD albeit in an unrelated subject. There, does your ego feel better now. Were you feeling inferior because she has a PhD? Yeah, of course you were.

I think you're trying to play a type of sisterly/baby olympics with your sister - try just supporting each other not jealousy and tactics to try and make her look a tit

Told a million times how a terrible mother I was and undermining my authority with my own daughter, but that's a completely different matter!

Oh OK, so this isn't lighthearted.

I went through something similar with my family when I did my PhD. They got incredibly chippy with me and tried to undermine me in various ways. They backed down when I talked to them about what the problem was and told them it was very much their problem and their attitude.

She's bright, she has a PhD. Be proud of this and stop trying to cut her down to size by finding things she doesn't know.

My source? The Association of Breastfeeding Mothers training course. What’s yours?